Hung out with a female friend

[BklynGuy]

Hung out with a female friend recently. She has a bf. I know to be VERY careful about people and their mates, and don't want her to get the wrong idea or to offend the bf.

 

We've hung out a few times now. She has made a few sexually suggestive comments but I've told her I see her as a friend. From what I gather, she doesn't seem unhappy nor too thrilled with her relationship. We ate and went for drinks then walked around to let the liquor wear off.

 

She's educated but not my body type and I've let her know this. It doesn't seem like she's trying to push for anything but I also don't want to put myself in a stupid situation where something may happen or that will be viewed wrong. What do I do? Hang out with her again OR keep her at a distance?

[kizik]

Hey dude,

 

tell her that the sit. makes you uncomfortable, and that respectfully, she shouldn't be making sexual comments while she has a boyfriend. It's not appropriate and it's disrespectful to him.

 

I would tell her to stop with those comments, "please." If she still doesn't, go no contact with her.

 

This sit. just sounds like trouble, IMO.

[bish]

Hung out with a female friend recently. She has a bf. I know to be VERY careful about people and their mates, and don't want her to get the wrong idea or to offend the bf.

 

We've hung out a few times now. She has made a few sexually suggestive comments but I've told her I see her as a friend. From what I gather, she doesn't seem unhappy nor too thrilled with her relationship.

 

Then she should have no problem with breaking up with her boyfriend if she is willing to cheat right? But she doesn't....so why do you think that is?

 

 

We ate and went for drinks then walked around to let the liquor wear off.

 

What business do you have hanging out with someone elses girlfriend like this?

 

Hopefully her bf wakes up and finds out and realizes that this is not appropriate interaction for his gf to have with you and dumps her.

 

 

She's educated but not my body type and I've let her know this.

 

Not your body type? Something about yourself you don't want us to know?

 

 

It doesn't seem like she's trying to push for anything but I also don't want to put myself in a stupid situation where something may happen or that will be viewed wrong.

 

Then you shouldn't be having dinner and drinks with someone elses gf. But then again, she isn't much of a girlfriend and his interests would be best served if they weren't together.

 

Maybe you can tell him about her improper innuendoes and he might do whats best for him and dump the trifler.

 

 

What do I do? Hang out with her again OR keep her at a distance?

 

What makes you think dinner and drinking is appropriate contact with someone elses gf? Why isn't she doing these things with him or her girlfriends?

[BklynGuy]

Honestly, I don't have that many friends, so maybe am looking for some new college friends. She seems cool and educated, which is what I'm looking for in friends as well as a partner.

She's educated but not my body type and I've let her know this.

 

This is exactly what is sounds like. She's not ugly but could lose 30-40 lbs for her to be.

 

 

What do I do? Hang out with her again OR keep her at a distance?

 

I wasn't exactly sure where it would go...not thinking of sex or anything like that....I'm a go with the flow person. I guess I have a mental attraction to her, but again don't want to put myself or her in a bad situation. I guess we should be more like friends on a text level.

[BklynGuy]

It's crazy too because in my school it's very hard to make friends. I met her in a different school, where it's easy to meet people. I've actually applied to this school, totally different culture than where I go now. I just don't want to make any stupid mistakes.