Trialbyfire Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Actually, I do believe you should never stop thinking, especially when you're in love. When you fail to think, you also fail to realize when you're not being treated as you deserve, within reason. It's why people keep falling deeper and deeper into love when realistically speaking, their SOs are abusive. No one deserves to be treated like crap. This leads me into the unconditional love portion. In the context of romantic love, everyone puts conditions. The condition is the return of love, mutual respect and trust.
coffeemaker Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 Anywho, my experience in that for some people, it is something you just feel in the pit of your soul. There is no logic to it at all and it cannot be explained through rationale. That's exactly what it is for me - it's happened to me both immediately (i.e. with the first few meetings), and after 8+ months. Something happens where both mind/intellect & heart align, and where all the logical doubt simply vanish or cease to matter. I've experienced it twice and both have been truly transforming experiences. These have been my experiences. I'm not with either of these individuals anymore, but their happiness still matters a great deal to me and I still from time to time, make a silent wish for their well-being.
Rudyard Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 I knew after it was too late and I eventually got involved with someone else but part of me always thinks back to the guy before who to this day I still know was complelty right for me.I dont know if thats good or bad but something I can never get back. My boyfriends brother knew his was the one after he wrecked her car she worked really hard to get and she didn’t care about her car her first and only instinct was his well being so its really different for everyone.
Mahatma Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 You should never doubt it. I have felt like I've been in love with my girlfriend since day 1. I have never said it, but I have never been given a reason not to besides the fact that I don't think I truly know what love is yet. There is nothing I don't like about her though, whereas in your case you claim there are days where you aren't sure you love her. You probably wont marry her, but that's no reason to end a relationship. It has only been 6 months.
Walk Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 It takes me a long time to fall in love with someone. I can fall "in lust" pretty quickly, but "in love" takes me a while. I'm hesitant to throw my heart into the ring. I wondered if part of what you're feeling is the transititon between the honeymoon phase of the relationship and the less intense, more connected phase? You usually don't feel those highs you used to feel, and you won't have that heart pounding excitment of being with her. The feelings become more... comfortable. Not sure how to describe it. About 6 or 7 months into dating my H, he ased me if I felt he was "the one". I told him I wasn't sure because there was still a great deal I didn't know about him. I can confidently say I knew he was the love of my life after 4 years of dating him. Then I married him.
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