JooLee Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 i found out today that my ex that i have broken up with for 2 months now is seeing someone new. it makes me so angry just thinking about it...although i know i have no right to, but when i just think back on how 3 months ago he was telling me how in love he was with me and that he cant imagine living his life without me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. then he leaves me n now is f*cking someone new! what a great actor he was! lesson learn : words are cheap! im not a person who has regrets but i regret 100% ever knowing him! i hope he chokes and die! whats worse of all, is how i cant imagine myself being with someone else n he's got a new girl so fast.. its so unfair! tell me how am i suppose to feel!!
Shygirl15 Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Hey, JooLee, calm down. I do not think he was acting, he probably meant every word he said to you. Some people can move on easily, some can't. I too have no problem moving on, no matter how much I loved the person I was with. What he's doing is not unfair, but what you're doing to yourself, beating yourself up, is unfair. Move on. Forget him. He's having fun anyway, so can't you?
ioncebelieved Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 i found out today that my ex that i have broken up with for 2 months now is seeing someone new. it makes me so angry just thinking about it...although i know i have no right to, but when i just think back on how 3 months ago he was telling me how in love he was with me and that he cant imagine living his life without me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. then he leaves me n now is f*cking someone new! what a great actor he was! lesson learn : words are cheap! im not a person who has regrets but i regret 100% ever knowing him! i hope he chokes and die! whats worse of all, is how i cant imagine myself being with someone else n he's got a new girl so fast.. its so unfair! tell me how am i suppose to feel!! YOU are suppose to hurt like hell and try and move on with your precious life!!!! I understand the actor statement!!! My ex should win a freaking oscar for her performance! You need to take time and heal yourself. They say time heals all wounds, but damn you ask yourself, "What do I do during the time it takes to heal?" which seems like forever!! Sorry for your pain, but you are NOT alone in this!!
watermeloncandy Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 i found out today that my ex that i have broken up with for 2 months now is seeing someone new. it makes me so angry just thinking about it...although i know i have no right to, but when i just think back on how 3 months ago he was telling me how in love he was with me and that he cant imagine living his life without me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. then he leaves me n now is f*cking someone new! what a great actor he was! lesson learn : words are cheap! im not a person who has regrets but i regret 100% ever knowing him! i hope he chokes and die! whats worse of all, is how i cant imagine myself being with someone else n he's got a new girl so fast.. its so unfair! tell me how am i suppose to feel!! you are feeling normal. and, from what i've learned about my ex's behaviour (trolling online the day after we break up for casual sex...makes me sick!), this is how they deal with a break up - men need to feel validated by other women. she probably is just something he's using to make himself feel better and make himself feel like he's worth something to someone, albeit temporary. yep, it's disgusting to us, hurts us, makes us feel like we meant nothing to them, we feel devalued and disrespected...but it's how they are coping. nothing we can do about it. women cry and get their hair cut..men go out and f*ck the first thing that'll take them. He's not you, so he's not going to do what you expect him to do (which is probably behave the same way you are, right?). my counsellor made me aware of me doing that...assuming my ex should/would behave the same as me. not gonna happen. hun, you do something that makes YOU feel good about yourself. just think "he's someone else's problem now, not mine". i know it's hard....
LoveHowTo Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 hun, you do something that makes YOU feel good about yourself. just think "he's someone else's problem now, not mine". That's so true, and great advice. Whether he was acting before, or is now just jumping into something new as a rebound to ease his own pain, it shouldn't be relevant to you. He is no longer yours and from what it sounds like, that's a good thing. You'll come to feel that way too. Laura www.LoveHowTo.com
Author JooLee Posted September 5, 2008 Author Posted September 5, 2008 hey everyone thanks for the replies. i am having fun and living my life. im not sitting around moping anymore, i stopped doing that a month back and i do feel like i am better off without him. its just, i thought i at least meant something to him... watermeloncandy, you described exactly how i am feeling. oh well, i know i'll get over it but i just want to stop having images of him n her NOW!! i so dont want to care!
sedgwick Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 No one can tell you how you're "supposed" to feel! His new relationship sounds like a rebound to me. Also, it sounds as if you broke up with him, am I correct? If so, you have to be willing to let him find someone else!
Author JooLee Posted September 5, 2008 Author Posted September 5, 2008 actually its the other way around. he left me. in the last month of the relationship we had constant arguments and one day he just disappeared on me and i had to hear from his best friend that he left the country but he is back now and with someone new. how cool is that?
EmperorR Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 some move on quickly because they hate being alone, and dont wnat to think about the past, those relationships aka rebounds rarely work
HopeDiesLast Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 The rebound my ex started a month after us ( as far as i know, coulda been sooner) is done. SHE lost interest in HIM. HAHA. i think its fabulous. i dont know if maybe they still talk, but i just learned this. and yet....it does me no good, cus hes still not calling.
Author JooLee Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 if its a rebound.. why the hell is he telling her he loves her? i dont understand that part! HDL- he prob not calling cos he's too much of a loser and ashamed to face you.. hold yr head up high, girl!
jolie78 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 well, if he can love her after being with her for a month, what kind of love is that really? you can barely know a person in a month. you don't want to be in a relationship with someone that immature anyway.
Author JooLee Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 exactly my thoughts! some people just doesnt appreciate the meaning of love and just throw it around like its a basket of fruits or something. idiot! (sorry, a lil angry right now haha)
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