EmperorR Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Thanks for the support guys. Yeah, I know I need to stick to it, if she tries calling me sometime soon, maybe it's best if I give her the impression that I can't talk for long or that I have to run, kinda thing. I have been going to the gym since a few days ago, and it certainly helps, but it doesn't take away the pain and the frustration. I'm a recent college grad, (she's still in college), so this weekend, my old roomate said I should come up to the apartment for the weekend, to tailgate for the football game, and hit the bar scene, try to mingle or dance with some people, have fun really. I think that's what I need. I know she'll probably be going out as well, so if I stay in and mope, that is going to kill me. I just don't know what to do, I feel so confused. I feel like she's just being a woman (no offense to the women here), acting real selfish and putting herself over anyone else, but then if the opportunity arises, she'll try something new with another guy at a bar. I know she still has feelings for me, but right now, she seems to be forcing herself to stick to this plan of being on our own. But rest assured guys, I can tell you this, if you were dating your ex for a significant amount of time, I guaruntee that person is thinking about you, believe me, they are, they're just avoiding expressing it. So, don't worry about that. The crappy feeling is knowing whether or not things will ever be again. One thing I'm slowly learning, is that if you really want things to work again, you have to improve yourself both mentally and physically. Your ex is not going to be attracted to the same you, you need to use this time focus on your own needs. I know right now it seems hard, and believe, I'm still really upset, but you have to learn that now is "me" time - Take care of yourself, do things you couldn't do before. If your ex has second thoughts someday, your chances will be greatly improved if they realize you're more in shape, not begging for their attention anymore, and most importantly, that they see you're happy without them in your life. I can do it...I CAN DO IT. And I know you guys can do it too! Keep talking on here to vent, stay strong guys. I wish you all the best of luck. I agree with this, lol i feel like your my twin how were basically in the same hole. But at least this is making me think of so many tthings, how sometimes I took the relationship for granted, sometimes I could have done better or sacrificed more, as well I'm praying and reading my Bible more which I haven't done in awhile.
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