joel Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 The last post on nerds getting no action. i wondered . what do you mean by being sexually aggressive. how would you do this through body language and kino. what are some examples a guy would do on a date to a girl to show he was sexually aggressive with her. what are some examples you would say to a girl or do to a girl on a date or a girl you liked. is it like "umm you look good it that skirt -i would love to just rip it off and slap your butt and bang you hard till you ***- ilike that lol ": what would you say or how do you be sexually aggressive with the girls you are with. - some one wrote this """Ingenuinity. Ingenuinity is a big reason why a lot of guys don't get laid. Even guys who DO get laid using methods and stuff, have this problem. To put it simply, they go up to a women and they're not being totally honest with her. This is a big problem with using lines and stuff. However, if the lines and stuff have been embedded into your REAL personality, the real you, then it's not a problem. You want to get in a girls pants? Be sexually aggressive, let her know through body language and kino that you want to be sexual with her. If she blows you out, oh well, there are plenty of other chicks out there.""""
carhill Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Don't underestimate the power of your presence. Get into her personal space Talk, quietly and briefly, and look in her eyes when you do, like she's the only woman on the planet for you. It's all about sending signals.... If she's not interested, respect that and move on. Lots of other potentials out there
Author joel Posted September 4, 2008 Author Posted September 4, 2008 Don't underestimate the power of your presence. Get into her personal space Talk, quietly and briefly, and look in her eyes when you do, like she's the only woman on the planet for you. It's all about sending signals.... If she's not interested, respect that and move on. Lots of other potentials out there hehe how would you go about doing that though, any examples of what i would do or say. hehehe total newbie
nicki Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Look at her, smile, think in your mind that she is "delicious," like an amazing meal you want to savor....like a glass of good wine....slowly, appreciatively. Be sensual, which means to enjoy your senses. Don't, and I repeat, tell her you want to "bang" her. I've had many men make the mistake of being sexually aggressive instead of simply showing me that they are interested and bewitched by me. Do lean into her personal space and see what happens. If she backs away, then don't go any farther. Back away yourself and establish a bit of distance, all the while continuing your conversation, and making her feel comfortable. If she doesn't move, then she is already comfortable with you. Smile, lightly touch her arm or shoulder. Pull back, and take a drink. She will probably re-establish physical contact by leaning in or touching you. Bottom line: look for her reactions. Let her lead. If she gives you the green light, go. Red light, stop and back off. I don't like aggressive men who act intimately with me before the moment calls for it. It feels like they want to sexually assualt me. It scares me. Examples of this would be a guy who walks right up to me, touches me, tells me I'm hot and admits he would love to have sex with me.....scary... Give me a guy who is respectful, but confident, who keeps moving forward slowly while gauging my reaction, and I will respond.... Hope this helps. You are better off being less aggressive than too aggressive! Just show your interest!
carhill Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 If she doesn't move, then she is already comfortable with you. Smile, lightly touch her arm or shoulder. Pull back, and take a drink. She will probably re-establish physical contact by leaning in or touching you. Ah, I especially love it when one of my wife's married girlfriends does this to me and whispers in my ear "you're such a bitch" Seriously, OP, this is good advice you're hearing. And, yes, the above is true. My retort? "Yeah, but I'm your bitch" Nothing like flirting amongst friends....
Shygirl15 Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Look at her, smile, think in your mind that she is "delicious," like an amazing meal you want to savor....like a glass of good wine....slowly, appreciatively. Be sensual, which means to enjoy your senses. Don't, and I repeat, tell her you want to "bang" her. I've had many men make the mistake of being sexually aggressive instead of simply showing me that they are interested and bewitched by me. Do lean into her personal space and see what happens. If she backs away, then don't go any farther. Back away yourself and establish a bit of distance, all the while continuing your conversation, and making her feel comfortable. If she doesn't move, then she is already comfortable with you. Smile, lightly touch her arm or shoulder. Pull back, and take a drink. She will probably re-establish physical contact by leaning in or touching you. Bottom line: look for her reactions. Let her lead. If she gives you the green light, go. Red light, stop and back off. I don't like aggressive men who act intimately with me before the moment calls for it. It feels like they want to sexually assualt me. It scares me. Examples of this would be a guy who walks right up to me, touches me, tells me I'm hot and admits he would love to have sex with me.....scary... Give me a guy who is respectful, but confident, who keeps moving forward slowly while gauging my reaction, and I will respond.... Hope this helps. You are better off being less aggressive than too aggressive! Just show your interest! Ooh..Nicki, you are soo good :love: Wait a minute, are you a guy or a girl??
2sure Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Like most women, I like sexually aggressive men. Like most women, I am turned off by aggressive men. There is a saying in NYC that Eye Contact is considered a form of aggression. On the sidewalk, yes maybe. But ohhhh, eye contact across a dinner table with no touching at all can be soooo....charged. Its agressive, but sexually so. I small smile added, with no words at all...and Im yours. And dont order spaghetti. When opening a door, a hand on the small of my back makes me feel you can be in charge. Ordering for me at dinner does not. While you help me with my coat, I love when you lean in to smell the perfume on my neck. Sexually agressive men are often complete gentlemen - its all about the charge between his masculinity and my femininity. Make me know you are aware of this and really enjoy it. You dont have to stand up when I leave the table (trying too hard unless its natural for you) , but when I walk away - I will turn around, and I'd love it if you were checking me out. Like that.
flc Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 I agree it is all about being subtle. You have desire and a picture in your mind and you want to convey this in a subtle way. Complete eye contact, smiling, brief touches that linger seem to work best on me and with the women I date. It is a dance and is really the best part of dating.
Dirk Diggler Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Don't underestimate the power of your presence. Meaning let her visually notice you've got a tent pitched, but don't outright ask her if she wants to go camping.
nicki Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 he he, Shy, I am a girl... I'll have to try the whole "Your'e my b*tch" thing! I love the leaning in to smell the perfume on the back of your neck....so sexy. Maybe even a little baby kiss there if all the signals are green. One of the sexiest things a guy ever did was skip my lips for the first kiss and kiss me on the neck first, softly, right near the collarbone....I nearly fainted. Oh, yeah, and a hard on is very nice. I remember dancing with a guy once. He had one and he gently pulled me to him, looked in my eyes, smiled and took a step back....hot!
Star Gazer Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Assertiveness and aggression are two very different things. Nicki's description is ASSERTIVE. Aim for that.
Gold Pile Posted September 5, 2008 Posted September 5, 2008 Try to note her reaction the first time she ever sees you. All women who find you attractive will give a certain look...briefly at you, then often they will continue to give the look to another nearby woman or maybe off into space. I can't describe it, but it is a look I've learned to recognize. That's the lust at 1st sight factor. Down the road...if she she chooses to be alone with you for any non work related reason (lunch is just lunch)...then she is interested. Test the waters...think about doing her while you glance at her body and make lingering eye contact. Did she read your mind and react well? If you wonder if you should kiss her or not..decide without asking her. If you decide to kiss her ...do it and make it a good one (ok to touch tongues but no french just yet) Pull back but keep a grip on her. What does she say or do? If she appears to enjoy it but says no...give her another quick one. Let go and back off say " see ya later'' then move back in, maybe hold her hand or arm...get real close and whisper "unless you want me to stay' or "want to come in"
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