findaboutlife Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Well...a really small query... I am in relationship with this Czech guy from past 2 months. He broke up with his 4 year long relationship 3 months before meeting me. Now on the 3 day of our relationship he met his ex gf to take some things from her apt and he did not tell me about it. he told me later about it. So i told him that if he wants to meet her, he should tell me before he meets her. Now she called him up to bring something for her which only he can bring and he met her again without telling me. She gave him a birthday gift too which he accepted. Luckily in this meeting, even our common friend was there so she just handed him the gift and left. I told my bf to have a face to face talk about this because I am not comfortable and she had cheated with him for some other man. But she refused to meet me and my bf says I am making a big drama about it. I love him a bit but I cannot stand him lieing to me like this. Please help me. I have taken a little distance from him but I cannot control my feelings! Thanks, MR
LakesideDream Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Well...a really small query... I am in relationship with this Czech guy from past 2 months. He broke up with his 4 year long relationship 3 months before meeting me. Now on the 3 day of our relationship he met his ex gf to take some things from her apt and he did not tell me about it. he told me later about it. So i told him that if he wants to meet her, he should tell me before he meets her. Now she called him up to bring something for her which only he can bring and he met her again without telling me. She gave him a birthday gift too which he accepted. Luckily in this meeting, even our common friend was there so she just handed him the gift and left. I told my bf to have a face to face talk about this because I am not comfortable and she had cheated with him for some other man. But she refused to meet me and my bf says I am making a big drama about it. I love him a bit but I cannot stand him lieing to me like this. Please help me. I have taken a little distance from him but I cannot control my feelings! Thanks, MR You don't mention your ages, or other details that could bare on the situation.. making it difficult to comment, but here goes. On "Day 3" of your relationship... he met with an ex to retrieve property. Sweetie, on "Day 3" there is NO RELATIONSHIP. At most it's day 3 of mutually satisfying sex, or day 3 of getting to know each other. On day three neither of you owe each other anything other than being responsible and wearing condoms. Second. Your BF meets in public, with an ex for another post relationship transaction (of which there may be more), and receives a birthday present. No hanky panky. It's none of your business. IMO you are trying way to hard to be in control here. Back off before the man is smothered. Wait till there is a real crisis, like he actuall "looks or speaks" to an attractive woman to go off the rails.
wildsoul Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Sweetie, on "Day 3" there is NO RELATIONSHIP. At most it's day 3 of mutually satisfying sex, or day 3 of getting to know each other. On day three neither of you owe each other anything other than being responsible and wearing condoms. Second. Your BF meets in public, with an ex for another post relationship transaction (of which there may be more), and receives a birthday present. No hanky panky. It's none of your business. Agreed! Your jealousy is crossing all reasonable boundaries here. It is reasonable to wonder if he is really over his ex, and perhaps to wonder if you might just be a rebound relationship. Those are possible considerations. But you have no rights to control, make demands, or hold him accountable. What you CAN do is continue getting to know him, and find out who is is and if he is available for relationship with you or not.
TogetherForever Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Agreed! Your jealousy is crossing all reasonable boundaries here. It is reasonable to wonder if he is really over his ex, and perhaps to wonder if you might just be a rebound relationship. Those are possible considerations. But you have no rights to control, make demands, or hold him accountable. What you CAN do is continue getting to know him, and find out who is is and if he is available for relationship with you or not. Exactly what wildsoul said. TF:)
Author findaboutlife Posted September 4, 2008 Author Posted September 4, 2008 i like the comments that you all gave me, but i think i should mention few more things. I did got jealous about his ex but it hurted me when he told me he had feeling for her when we started going out. And to be more specific, he wanted a relationship with me and not just plain dating. And no hanky panky sex was involved at the beginning because he wanted to take it slow. Anyways there is no point discussing further because we broke up now. He did tell me that I am treating him like a slave but He also said that he lied to me many times and for him, he wanted to keep on being in contact with her for a reason which he couldnt explain me.
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