StarryEyes Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 He is currently undiagnosed, but he is showing all symptoms for it. I've encouraged him in the past to get help for it, but he just can't seem to get himself to the va, or anywhere for that matter. I know it's something he has to do by himself, but there are also times he will call me and ask me what he should do, or he wants me to tell him what to do. I just go back to telling him to get some help before it gets worse. Long story short, i ended the relationship a couple of months ago because i was feeling extremely neglected, and ignored. I would make the effort to call him, text him, e-mail him, IM him, and half the time i got nothing in return, or i got little excuses for why he wasn't contacting me. It got to a point where i just couldn't take it anymore. I do care and love him very much, but i couldn't bare feeling hurt anymore. I've become a nothing to him. I know it's hard for him to understand his feelings right now, because he is completely numb, but since i can feel how i feel, it is hurting me emotionally, and physically i am just so tired and drained from everything, that i'm losing sleep and losing my own concentration. I tried to make the peace with him a while ago, asking him if he wanted me in his life or if he wanted me to stop contacting him. I told him i'd be there for him if he just says he wants me to be there. He wasn't responding, but then he just blew up at me and told me to go away and it's never going to work out ever. So i said okay, and since then i haven't contacted him at all, and neither has he contacted me. I'm just wondering, have i done the right thing by breaking up with him? Should i keep the lines of communication open incase he contacts me? How should i react if he does contact me? Does he really need me in his life for support, or is he speaking the truth when he tells me to leave him alone. He has told me that he misses me and thinks about me a lot. I'm just so confused i have no idea what to do. Any help from combat vets or anyone who is a carer for a combat vet, will be very much appreciated. I hope i get some feedback, as i feel like i'm at the end of my rope now and just feeling completely hopeless. I don't know what to do anymore.... Thanks in advance.
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