celinedion1 Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Well today my ex bf came over and he told me good bye for the last time. He's going to the east coast over 3000 mies away. He's leaving tomorrow, and now I'm learning how to say good bye to him forever. I don't know how to deal with it right now. I feel so sad and so empty. He's been in my life for almost 10 years, and now he's gone. Now I just need to somehow deal with the fact that he's no longer in my everyday life and that I'll never seem him again. I feel like a part of me has died.
Glory Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Oh, honey. I feel for you. All I can say is to take things one day at a time (one hour at a time if need be) and to try to keep yourself busy. Maybe take up a new hobby? Good luck with everything.
motive2002 Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 I understand how you feel. Ever since I was very young, I've always had friends and family moving away, or passing on. The hard part is when you're no longer wanted by the person and that's why you're forced to say goodbye, but that happens in life. I want you to know that no matter what you think, it's not your fault. I don't think there's anything I can say that will make you feel better right now. You will have peace with this at some point, but it's gonna take time, as they say. For now it's one day at a time. Hang in there. I think every one of us here has been through this sort of thing, and I don't think any of us had an easy time with it, no matter what advice was given. This board was an amazing help to me when I was struggling. Sometimes I just needed to vent and know that someone here would understand. There always was someone Take care.
Beyond Eternity Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 This may not necessarily have to be the end of your communication with him. Perhaps you can talk online overseas? Maybe phone calls every now and then if they don't cost too much, I'm not sure but lots of people use Skype and apparently it's really good. He may just be an ex but if he's of importance of your life, you don't have to stop communicating with him. Unless he told you that you won't be able to contact him? (and vice versa) If that's the case, you shouldn't spend a lot of time thinking about him. Thoughts of him will come instinctively almost if you've known him for 10 years, so try to do something that will have you constantly thinking or focusing so you're not distracted, a new hobby as Glory suggested. Good luck celinedion1.
Author celinedion1 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Posted September 4, 2008 This may not necessarily have to be the end of your communication with him. Perhaps you can talk online overseas? Maybe phone calls every now and then if they don't cost too much, I'm not sure but lots of people use Skype and apparently it's really good. He may just be an ex but if he's of importance of your life, you don't have to stop communicating with him. Unless he told you that you won't be able to contact him? (and vice versa) If that's the case, you shouldn't spend a lot of time thinking about him. Thoughts of him will come instinctively almost if you've known him for 10 years, so try to do something that will have you constantly thinking or focusing so you're not distracted, a new hobby as Glory suggested. Good luck celinedion1. He told me that he wants to stay in contact with me. I just feel so lost right now. Im just trying ot take things an hour at a time. For 10 years hes been in my life and now he's leaving for good and hes packing his stuff right now and moving away. I feel sick to my stomach, and just really confussed. Thank you everyone for your kind words it means a lot to me.
ate_the_paint Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Well, your post made me sad. Gee, thanks. lol You are back in a tough place, I guess. But at least there's people who care out there, even if they're only faceless posters on loveshack. It's strange. When it's over but they're still around (same town, etc), it's easier to get over the pain. When they are no longer around the finality is...well, sad. What are we afraid to let go of?
Author celinedion1 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Posted September 4, 2008 Well, your post made me sad. Gee, thanks. lol You are back in a tough place, I guess. But at least there's people who care out there, even if they're only faceless posters on loveshack. It's strange. When it's over but they're still around (same town, etc), it's easier to get over the pain. When they are no longer around the finality is...well, sad. What are we afraid to let go of? Sorry about making ya sad:), and what you say is true. When there around it's easier but when they've moved away, it seems so much harder. Also than kyou for your kind words.
wizzlebee Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Oh hun, I'm sorry you are going through this right now, but you WILL start to feel better. Right now do something to help get your mind off him, even if its only for a little while, it will help.
Tony T Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Well today my ex bf came over and he told me good bye for the last time. He's going to the east coast over 3000 mies away. He's leaving tomorrow, and now I'm learning how to say good bye to him forever. I don't know how to deal with it right now. I feel so sad and so empty. He's been in my life for almost 10 years, and now he's gone. Now I just need to somehow deal with the fact that he's no longer in my everyday life and that I'll never seem him again. I feel like a part of me has died. And EX boyfriend shouldn't be in your everyday life anyway. He's doing you a favor. The ONLY way you're going to be able to move on and find someone who is right for you is to let him go for a while. Call him in a few years. Chances are fairly good you won't even care to do that. There is nothing positive about having Exes in your life the way you have this guy. It truly interferes with your future on this planet.
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