sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 well less than 2 weeks ago we was enjoying a night together and he said all the right things.. how we just fit together after not bein together in 2 months. see me soon blar blar.. last weekend he attends car show.. just seen a pic of him and a girl whom is not the best looking girl but has a fab smile... he looks happy which hurts me more... in some of the pics he was far away from her .. just left her cleaning his car.. we was always side by side..cleaned it together so i thought no they not together.. but now just seen the pic an he has his hand on her leg whist sitting down together.. **** him he even said on a thread thank you to she who cleaned mycar... brought me coffee... ha ha SHE! i feel totally pathetic , in that i was so hooked on him.. he was prob doin her behind my back.. ok i know we are split up but seriously he knew how i felt in that in time i wanted us to be us again.. so even after 2 months nc he replies to me an we meet..we was even intimate:mad: and he had check to ask me if i had been with anyone! we talked on msn and he asked me all the questions. damn he even suggested meting up.. i feel sick now i feel used.. he has now finally got me to get over him... he has now destroyed my love for him.. no going back from now on. i sent him message saying can see you have now moved on.. you make good couple and look happy so goodbye, no hard feelings just wish you would have told me instead of me seeing it.. does feel like my hearts been riped out again but i be ok just feel stupid for trying so much when he played me all along... please support me i know im going be so sad x
Lishy Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Hey babe, oh what a jerk he is! You may not feel like it at the moment but he has done you a favour, you will be able to get over him quicker now You will one day meet the man who will treat you right honey Where did you see these pics?
BCCA Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Wow, what a jerk. Well, at least you know which direction to head in. I'm sorry you had to run into this person, but at least you can learn from your mistakes and find a better guy next time. Guys like that give us all a bad rep!
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 Hey babe, oh what a jerk he is! You may not feel like it at the moment but he has done you a favour, you will be able to get over him quicker now You will one day meet the man who will treat you right honey Where did you see these pics? yeah he even kept saying id move on before him.. i saw them on a car site we are both on.. cant control pics others take;) cant understand it she does not look his type... wears chavy earings lol. i just dont get why he asked me so much if i was seein someone if he was wtf.. all he had to say was sorry i have met someone now how hard is it... i do feel like he has cheated on her with me so its doomed and noway id want a cheater anyway... yea he has done me a favour but it still hurts as was not long ago we was cuddlling up.. felt so right now i just feel sick i kept contact minimal and my life has changed so i thought i was doing it right but now it just sucks as he is with her. i feel like i didnt know him at all as i never felt that he was with someone.. maybe they just met? but its weekend thing so not normally a 1st/2nd date thing... he even send me messages with xx on! he can kiss off
Lishy Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 But how do you know her is with her? I have pics of me with my arm around guys who I have never even kised let alone dated! Did he reply to you yet?
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 Wow, what a jerk. Well, at least you know which direction to head in. I'm sorry you had to run into this person, but at least you can learn from your mistakes and find a better guy next time. Guys like that give us all a bad rep! yea i thought he was the better guy... we was together 4 yrs .. going be really hard to let anyone in my heart now should have stayed a cold biatch that i was thats how im feeling right now
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 But how do you know her is with her? I have pics of me with my arm around guys who I have never even kised let alone dated! Did he reply to you yet? he is not that sort of guy... think i got message now x
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 his reply... When you had the spam mail recently & had a go at me I did say something along the lines of that I hadn't deny'd meeting other female friends. Especially as you had been seeing other guys too ... Just cause I'm seen having fun with another female does not mean that I've moved on, settled down or whatever ... But I don't have to explain myself or tell you anything unless it would effect something else like health for example. Hence why I asked if you had slept with anyone. I don't have time for relationships with work & committments, but if you want to move on then that's fine. Glad Nismo is better too bless him poor thing. x now what? do i do?
Lishy Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Oh babe he is letting you know in no uncertain terms that he is moving on and you may not feel like this right now but he has done you a favour! Screw him and all who sail in him! You will meet much better you are a doll x
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 yea thats how im seeing it too.. do you think i should ignore him or say have fun im done?or something
BCCA Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Very typical non-committal gibberish. "Fine then" if youre moving on...even though thats what ANYONE would do. He tries to turn things on you, since 'youve been dating other people' after he dumped you - GO FIGURE? And he doesnt need to explain himself to you, but he really cares right? The only nice or even remotely polite thing he said was about Nismo, who I assume is an animal? (or some one named after Nissan parts )
BCCA Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 yea thats how im seeing it too.. do you think i should ignore him or say have fun im done?or something Silence speaks volumes. I wouldnt say another word to this guy.
Lishy Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 yea thats how im seeing it too.. do you think i should ignore him or say have fun im done?or something The best thing you can do is ignore him and live your life! Dont reply or conatct him in any way You are worth so much more and any email you send will just feed his already huge ego
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 Very typical non-committal gibberish. "Fine then" if youre moving on...even though thats what ANYONE would do. He tries to turn things on you, since 'youve been dating other people' after he dumped you - GO FIGURE? And he doesnt need to explain himself to you, but he really cares right? The only nice or even remotely polite thing he said was about Nismo, who I assume is an animal? (or some one named after Nissan parts ) yea i was just thinkin what a damn reply.. my message was not even bad... considering.. truth is i have lots male friends had 1 date in 6months.. why does he seem angry at me? i dont get it oops yep nismo is my cat.. was like our baby
sid3 Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Yeah I'm right there with you Sultry, it does hurt more the second time around. Maybe in the end it will benefit us by allowing ourselves to move on for good. Sorry to read about your heartache, just remember...... we are better off alone than with the wrong person. It won't be easy but it'll get better.
Lishy Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 He is angry that you are dating even if he does think that you have dated more then you have Men like to be the be all and end all He is moving on and so should you
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 He is angry that you are dating even if he does think that you have dated more then you have Men like to be the be all and end all He is moving on and so should you yea he says he is not moving on but seems he is... i dont get him i bit he left me so why would he care if im dating.. even if im not.. im not going to use another to get over him.. im not going to reply to him.. have re-deleted his number now and i cant delete the pic i saw or the feeling i have inside.. when we was together i told im if he ever cheated then there would be no 2nd chance ever.. couldnt bear to think of him with someone... now i know we was not together but it feels the same so for me its done.
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 just spoke to my mate an she said askhim why he was arsy... so i said not sure why the arsy reply? its funny really as when we broke up most of the guys he was beerin it with sent me messages... happy to party with his new chick now;)
Author sultry33 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 Not an arsy reply hun. Twas stating facts that was all plus a long day to boot, lol! I know your not seeing anyone but that doesn't stop encounters does it on either side - that was all I was trying to say. You know how crap I am with words. *************** i need to talk to him before i can figure this out i think...
foxh1234 Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Not an arsy reply hun. Twas stating facts that was all plus a long day to boot, lol! I know your not seeing anyone but that doesn't stop encounters does it on either side - that was all I was trying to say. You know how crap I am with words. *************** i need to talk to him before i can figure this out i think... Meet up with him and talk to each other. All this messaging is crap I think. Why don't people just sit down and talk like we used to before damn cell phones and Instant messages. Look in his eyes and tell him how you feel and what you want/expect from him. If you two get it worked out, great. If not you will know where you stand and you can move forward. Good Luck Sultry, you know I'm in your corner.
Author sultry33 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Posted September 4, 2008 thanks fox, i value your opioion even though i can not spell it;) i have suggested talking.. see what happens, last time he saw me was in his words he had a crap week so wanted see me.. i never be the other woman though ever
0hpenelope Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Nuts to him! I want to send a rabid squirrel his way to nibble on ... and perhaps that lady's earrings! I'm joining foxh1234 over at the corner. And I'm pretty old-fashioned for my generation, I think, but I've disconnected myself almost completely from AIM and Facebook and all that sort of thing. The internet's only good for the following things, in my opinion: sports stats, shopping for imported stuff, e-mail, research, and news. Grr... How are you feeling now? I hope you're ok..
Author sultry33 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Posted September 4, 2008 hi pen, im actually feeling upset today had a night of crap dreams.. dont know which way to turn .. my heart is saying he is not with her or anyone .. or why would he message me? meet me? why would he call her SHE who cleaned his car... my head is saying forget him.. an yes he is havin his cake an eating it too. i want so much to be over him but at same time i want him so much.. want what was going to be, the dreams we had the plans we made y,know.. but even if they are just friends i dont know if i could look at him now an just see him.. i think the damage is done. if we meet its going be goodbye from me if i dont believe him.. we are not together but it felt like we was on same page in not wanting the living together bit but missin each other an keeping the door open for when time was right. he has i think slammed it in my face:mad:
Author sultry33 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Posted September 4, 2008 you know im done with this. im not contacting him again, im fed up being the oneto initate things.. done with holding on an fighting for him, hopin he realises what he is loosing.. he knew me knew how much i loved him i have proved that he would move on before me.. proved he loved me less. i wanted this a reason to end this crazy ride.. hell i looked enough when we was together an now there it is in big bold HERE I AM WITH ANOTHER GIRL... even if he has down graded lol... makes me laugh that does as i tried so hard to be his type... when infact i was above his type...she plain jane me glamour puss:laugh: i have a heart of gold i always see the good in people he said that was a flaw but hey thats me... i never wanted to love him just f *** him that was all he was meant to be.. but i ended up making him my true love.. i did all i could,i wont change me ... im going be myself an be by myself if i feel its right.. unlike him i dont need another to feed my pain.. can see that he is not into her that much as no closeness like we had.. but hey why do i care.. ive broke all my rules with this guy an im not going to chase anymore hey mr right could be round the corner and im stuck at a jam with a mr undecided:p time to open my eyes instead of wiping them
Lishy Posted September 4, 2008 Posted September 4, 2008 Thats a better attitude honey He is an ex for a reason yes?
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