justusccandi Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 my ex-fiance and i had been in a relationship for about eight 1/2 yrs. we have 2 children together and im currently pregnant with his third child (which he denies). The relationship was never very good i feel like it really took a toll on me financially.He was constanlty quitting or getting fired from jobs and i was always the one to get us through every situation, even helped him start his own business even though i wasnt very supportive i did help out financially and with advertising. when i went back to work from maternity(my daughter is 10 months) i worked 70 hrs a week to pay all the bills and he stayed home with the kids. during those six months i resented him and really pushed him away, i didnt respect him because he watched me work so hard and would never offer to get a job. I was distant cold even mean the whole time he's telling me "just give me three more months". then its another three months then two months, the whole time im like "sure i believe you" not! well a month ago after i helped him get ready for interviews bought his clothes and everything for it. he gets two jobs!i always knew in the back of my mind he was just using me till he got on his feet again. then we get in a fight saturday he loves me wants to finally get married and have this third baby. well the next wednesday he doesnt love me will never marry me and doesnt want to be anywhere near me. he hasnt seen his kids or given hem any money in over a month. i found out he has been seeing a girl at work. im over him he never gave me a good life anyways but im just so angry at him for not seeing kids. my son is six and has suffered so much! what would keep him from seeing them?
Lishy Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 He is a selfish, self centred bastard! Men like him should be casterated and hung up to dry!
journey1 Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 He is a disgusting user and he has completely treated you like his work horse and slave. I would make sure he stays away and tell him and his new girl to shack up and forget you and the kids as you will be better off and so will they. Find them another daddy!! He may be a father biologically but you can find a real "daddy" who loves them and you!!!!!!! It sounds like you're independent anyway. You certainly do not need him for ****!!!!! Good for you for being so strong!!!! Never Ever trust him. He is the lowest of the low!!!!!!!!!
Author justusccandi Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 thanks for the replies he is a self centered selfish bastard lol the last time i spoke to him he said he wants to have the kids three days one week then four days the next! hes trying to get out of paying child support, if he really wanted to see them he would. hes making about 1500 a week with his two jobs trying to get his "life together" meanwhile im stuck paying all the bills he left here for me to just figure out! he cant even drop off a can of formula or some diapers he is scum. he has a good one coming thought i filed for child support at the da office and tomorrow im going to see an attorney to file sole custody. i was sad at first even resorted to begging and pleading him to stay. at this point after what he did to me we cant ever be together again and after what hes done to my kids we cant even be friends
curiousnycgirl Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Talk to your attorney about what you might be entitled to. If he left you with debt - he may be responsible for half of it. Don't let him just walk away free and clear! Make him pay. Good luck to you and your kids
Lishy Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 I dont agree that you should hold the kids against him. Dont use them as a pawn, it is not thir fault o why shouldnt they see their dad? If he is earning that much you will get a good whack from him and it will be done legally. Get what you are entitled to but let him see the kids, they will only have one dad!
Author justusccandi Posted September 4, 2008 Author Posted September 4, 2008 i dont hold the kids against him! i never once said he couldnt see them, im saying if he wanted to he would. ive called he wont answer his phone, ive emailed with no response, i even called his mom so that he wouldnt have to talk to me and i was hopeing to arrange something through her but he never responded to that either. He works mon- sat 2 jobs! 8am to 5pm on one then 10pm to 8 am on the other. if he got them four days a week then three days a week when would he ever see them? who would watch them for him while he was at work? i asked him to see them sundays which is his free day but he likes to be at the bar watching football drinking. i work fri sat sunday 14 hr shifts each day so i am with them four full days a week when im not with them they are with my mother or my grandmother where he on the other hand has no family support as his mother has already told me she wouldnt be able to help cuz she works. the filing custody thingis my last effort to try to make him see the lengths i have to go through to remind him of his kids! if he wont speak to me maybe we can use some sort of mediation thing! im not a bad mother i would never deny my kids god knows ive done eveything for them. just today my son told me " i forgot what my dad looks like mom" he has screaming nightmares saying"i miss you" "iwant you back "icant find you" ive told him this through text what does he do? turns my phone off dont know how else to get him to see what hes doing to them
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