scold2886 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I dated this girl for 4 years.I did it all for her bought her and gave her everything that she needed why she sat home and did nothing at all.I'm beyond p***** right now. For the last 2 months me and her have had good and bad time's through all of this. It looked like there was hope until a friend who was a girl called and told her all this stuff that was not true. Now i have tryed to talked to her and do whatever i could to explain. So today I drove 150 miles to see if she would talk to me. What a great idea that was so stupid of me. So when i get there she starts a fight goes on tells me she hates me and dosen't ever want to see me. Now like 20 days ago she seemed like she was ready to get back together and work it out. So when i get over there this other guys was there. She told me not to worry about him it was not my place then he said ya we are together now sorry.This guy has no job, no education, not even a car. So why would she want to be with him at all. She just walked away and so did i when he said that. I wonder if she care or what her deal is. but what nerve does she have after giving her everything she ever needed and worked my a** off to support her why act like this. We been playing stupid mind game with eachother and everytime i think she true to her word it blows back up in my face. I love her with all my heart and want to be with her but she struck the last nerve today with her sayin i did nothing for her why she sat there and got everything. So at this point i'm just leave it alone for awhile till i cool down because i so upset. How long should i wait and try to talk to her again or should i at all. And what should i do about this other loser she with now.I had to months to think about everything and yes i want this to work out so bad. Anyone who reads this please leave a comment i need all the advice i can get so PLEASE EVERYONE WHO READS THIS WRITE SOMETHING DOWN FOR ME TO SIT AND THINK ON AGAIN.THANK YOU SO MUCH AHEAD OF TIME IF YOU DO LEAVE COMMENTS BECAUSE I NEED ALL THE HELP I CAN GET.Last note she is 19 an i'm 21.
HopeDiesLast Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 you should never call. wait for her to call you. she obviously is the one who messed this up by hanging out or doing whatever with some other guy. so let her fix the mess.
citizen67 Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 "So at this point i'm just leave it alone for awhile till i cool down because i so upset" You already got it all figured all out right there! Take some solace in the fact that this guy she's with is a huge loser, unlike you. Best way to make her want you back is to act uninterested - that, my friend, is tried and true. Good luck!
BCCA Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Some red flags I'll point out. First, she obviously doesnt appreciate anything you've done. She is with another guy, and took the cheap shot of "its not your place to worry about it" to explain his presence. She flat out doesnt deserve you, and you dont deserve to be treated like that. I wouldnt bother with her ever again.
ahhhchooo Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Take some solace in the fact that this guy she's with is a huge loser, unlike you. Best way to make her want you back is to act uninterested - that, my friend, is tried and true. Good luck! My ex is with a total loser and even said so herself. How do you take solace in that fact... it makes you feel more worthless, if anything. "This guy is a total loser, but she prefers him to me".
norajane Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 So at this point i'm just leave it alone for awhile till i cool down because i so upset. How long should i wait and try to talk to her again or should i at all. No, you shouldn't try to talk to her again. What could you possibly have left to talk about? You broke up, she's with another guy, says she hates you and she doesn't want to see you ever again. Why exactly would you go back for more of that? What do you hope to do by contact her again? There are so many women out there. Why are you so set on this one?
Author scold2886 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 Why this one you ask because we been through so much and i know that the only reason she doing this now is because a frined that was a girl made up this crazy story and it's not true i just dont get how one day she loves me and the next she like acting like this she sending me all these mixed singles i just dont know how to handle this it's been just a crazy breakup and not sure but when im not hanging around another girl her attitude changes towards me
sedgwick Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 I will tell you what I tell all the very young people who post here: I am 37, and I know ONE -- count 'em, ONE -- couple who met in college and are still together. Thank the great holy whatever-it-is that I'm not still with the guy I was dating at 21!!!!!!!!! I'll let you in on one other secret...correct spelling and grammar is one of the sexiest things in the world. Like, for example, "she and I" instead of "me and her." Just my two cents...
norajane Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 I'll let you in on one other secret...correct spelling and grammar is one of the sexiest things in the world. Paragraph breaks, too. I swoon for paragraph breaks.
Author scold2886 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 Well we both don't go to school. I worked and gave her all she ever needed and so much more, and she had the nerve to tell me i diden't do anything for her. When she sat at home doing nothing. Now she messing with this guy who don't work, go to school,and don't have a car. I just don't get it all I know she a little crazy and think she doing it because she found out i was messing around with this other girl for a little while. After we broke up because i don't cheat I fell it's not right to do so. I just want to be with her it's just mixed singles over the last 2 months.
sedgwick Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 "Now she messing with this guy who don't work, go to school,and don't have a car." If you're planning to insult someone's intelligence or lack thereof, it helps a lot to use correct grammar -- he DOESN'T work or go to school, and he DOESN'T have a car. It gives you much greater grounds for argument, IMHO.
citizen67 Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 My ex is with a total loser and even said so herself. How do you take solace in that fact... it makes you feel more worthless, if anything. "This guy is a total loser, but she prefers him to me". Do you think you'd fel better if she was with a totally hot, successful guy, who had his security guards run you off the premises?
BCCA Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Well we both don't go to school. I worked and gave her all she ever needed and so much more, and she had the nerve to tell me i diden't do anything for her. When she sat at home doing nothing. Now she messing with this guy who don't work, go to school,and don't have a car. I just don't get it all I know she a little crazy and think she doing it because she found out i was messing around with this other girl for a little while. After we broke up because i don't cheat I fell it's not right to do so. I just want to be with her it's just mixed singles over the last 2 months. That sounds like an absolute mess to be honest. I dont really think you want any part of that. Take a breath and read that pretending it was some one else's story and what you would tell them. RUN. You don't want any part of this anymore, trust me!
Beyond Eternity Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 If you did it all for her out of your own free will and out of love for her, you have done nothing wrong and definitely did not deserve this; remember that, and do not blame yourself for her actions. Now, there are really only two smart things to do. The first would be going no-contact with her permanently (for you that is). What I mean by that is, don't try to reach her, and see if she'll try to reach you. Insist to her that you are busy when she does, and continuously stall for however long you feel is necessary. It would be best to stall talking/meeting with her until she is ready to talk about the relationship, and only your relationship, not something else or to pick a fight or anything. Most importantly, you should not be bitter or upset at all, because if you are, do not bother talking to her, as your own emotions may compromise things. The second thing you can do is mess with her mind one last time before doing the thing I just mentioned. You could say something along the lines of, "I love you but if this is what you want, then so be it. I hope it works out and is worth it in the end." She knows you want her back and to make things work, so stop showing that, by saying something like that you'll confuse her and distract her from her new relationship, this guy won't last. In the mean time, do things you missed out on or couldn't do because you were spending all of your time with her. Try to keep yourself busy because chances are your emotions will make you want to contact her or talk with her when she asks you the first, second, third, etc. time.
yongyong Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 This kind of woman will come back to you (she will be crying and tell you how sorry she is) but you know what, you can never trust her. you know she is fooling with that guy. you will think about that everytime you sleep with her. you will bring that issue everytime you fight with her. it's totally different than talking about her previous guys cuz it happend during break up. I don't think I can fully trust my ex if she comes back even though she didn't sleep around. Can you? Let her stay in a ghetto relationship and find someone better. that's the best thing you can do for her
Author scold2886 Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 .The second thing you can do is mess with her mind one last time before doing the thing I just mentioned. You could say something along the lines of, "I love you but if this is what you want, then so be it. I hope it works out and is worth it in the end." She knows you want her back and to make things work, so stop showing that, by saying something like that you'll confuse her and distract her from her new relationship, this guy won't last. ---------------------------------------------- So The way it all sounds even tho we put eachother throght hell and back in the last two months you think that will work. Give me some more ideas that i can say to her. I got a couplein mind, but at the same time i want her to come back in the end.
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