SuperKing Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I have been with my gf for about 5 years. Last year we had some arguments and we mutually agreed to separate. But within weeks, we were back together. Things went on fine, until I went abroad. For the last six months I have been working hard as we were planning to get married. We did not have much contact. But somehow, I felt that things were not the same although we still love each other very much. The distance was causing trouble, and I started to fear that things wont work out. I was not having time for her at all. She was saying that I was ignoring her and not talking about our wedding. I always replied " When we meet up again we will sort out everything ( which was due last month). Before I had time to see her, she called me and said she cannot continue that relationship and she met someone. I dont think anything happened in between them. Now, she wants us to be back together. She said she did a big mistake as she felt I my love for her changed and felt abandonned. I still have feelings for her. When we are together, We dont need to talk much. Her presence is enough, a feeling of warmth and peace and we do get along very well as a couple. There is a strange connection in between us. I never had the experience of going back with someone - but she is a person that is special to me. any comments?
CaliGuy Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I dunno man. Just play it by ear. Are you "sure" nothing happened between her and the new guy? For some reason I always find that very hard to believe. If she wants to come back, make sure she at least has to earn it a little. It's people let others come into and out of their life as they please with no consequences that this sort of come/go behavior comes from. If she can leave easily and come back easily, what motivation does she have to stop her from doing it in the future? I would lay down the boundary, if you do get back together, that if she decides to walk again, there will not be another chance (and mean it!). I would take things slow and not be in such a rush so you can ascertain where her head is at and if she really means what she says. Remember, it's not what they say that matters. It's what they DO.
Biker2007 Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 Remember, it's not what they say that matters. It's what they DO. Funny this little piece of information is the one thing that I found myself focused on after my last X...it's so simple, but we let our emotions get in the way too often. SuperKing - make sure the girl earns your love and you will earn her respect! Good luck
WiseOne1 Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 SuperKing good luck, I hope you guys work out.
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