stefspets Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Yes. So I could forget him and move on as quickly as possible.
Author gummybear Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 but why go so far as to block him when you can just delete him off your buddy list? Isn't blocking someone a bit drastic?
stefspets Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Why would it be drastic? If I don't want to talk to him, then blocking him removes his ability to contact me. This way I don't have to deal with the temptation of talking to him when/if he contacts me. In my case, though, we had broken up and gotten back together probably 10 times. By the last time I never wanted to see or speak to him again. I made sure of that by blocking him and deleting him wherever possible. I don't regret doing that.
Author gummybear Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 HE was the one who broke up with you?
Shygirl15 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Usually when I dump or get dumped, I block IMs, I delete emails, I delete phone #s, and I block their phone calls, just to make sure NC works effectively.
Lucky555 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I dumped him and i blocked him. He isn't worthy of contacting me. I rather have him out of my life after the bs i went through and his lies. It was something that I DID NOT want to do BUT HAD TO DO. I had to get him off my mind and I have to move on. By blocking him he cant contact me and i cant contact him. It makes my life that less complicated and I like knowing that this guy is out of my life completely. He doesn't deserve my friendship.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Usually when I dump or get dumped, I block IMs, I delete emails, I delete phone #s, and I block their phone calls, just to make sure NC works effectively. I tried this approach with my ex gf and it helped. We were going to do the friends thing but it was messing me up. So I ended up blocking and putting away old pictures, emails, removed from Facebook, myspace, etc. Interestingly enough there are some x-rated pictures I can't seem to bring myself to get rid of.
stefspets Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I don't remember who broke up with who the last time. I guess it was mutual, or maybe I broke up with him. It doesn't matter in my opinion. I wanted to move on and so I cut him out. Simple. If you got dumped and want to get back together then it's probably unlikely you would block your ex. If you want to move on though, then it's just one thing you can do to avoid contact. If someone has done this to you then he/she probably wants to move on. Avoiding contact is a good way to start.
Author gummybear Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 I tried this approach with my ex gf and it helped. We were going to do the friends thing but it was messing me up. So I ended up blocking and putting away old pictures, emails, removed from Facebook, myspace, etc. Interestingly enough there are some x-rated pictures I can't seem to bring myself to get rid of. Did you dump her or did she dump you? If you dumped her, it must hurt her even more when you suddenly blocked her. But if she dumped you then i guess I can see the difference.
Jilly Bean Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I usually do the dismissing, and even then, when I am done with a guy, he gets blocked and deleted. Why? Because I don't want him knowing my online activity, and I also don't want him to be able to chime in at any point. Like Steph said - it just helps with NC.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Did you dump her or did she dump you? If you dumped her, it must hurt her even more when you suddenly blocked her. But if she dumped you then i guess I can see the difference. It's not black and white... I said the words but it was something that she had been wanting to do for a while... It definitely hurt me more than her (she's a pretty ****ty human being). She had wanted to break up for a few months but hadn't had the balls to do it.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I had the ex blocked because he kept iming me even though I hadn't wanted to talk to him. I was the dumper, and we didn't break up on good turns.
Melrapuo Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I didn't block my ex for a while, I just ignored a lot of her IMs (she dumped me for another guy, led me on, then got with a second guy after she left the first). Finally I just said my goodbye and blocked her. It's not that I don't love her or care for her; its more for me than for her. Anything that reminds me of her only brings up the pain of the break up, and the memories of the happiness we had together. Sometimes doing the accepting the worst is the best thing for us in the long run.
Author gummybear Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Basically, I dumped my ex, then my ex and i tried being friends because I suggested it and it ended up with him asking me back and me saying 'i dont know for a few days' and finally I said 'no' and told him I'm bad for him and he admitted that he'd always harbor hope of wanting more. He told me that if I dont want to be with him then we can't talk anymore and I promised I will not contact him again eventhough it will be hard not to. That was Saturday and he sounded very bitter at me. I guess I did tell him that he should avoid me and that I'm bad for him, but still, I guess I didn't expect him to actually block me on IM. I know I deserve it and it is what is best for him, but it does hurt. I hope he doesn't hate me but I think he does and that hurts me.
Author gummybear Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 I didn't block my ex for a while, I just ignored a lot of her IMs (she dumped me for another guy, led me on, then got with a second guy after she left the first). Finally I just said my goodbye and blocked her. It's not that I don't love her or care for her; its more for me than for her. Anything that reminds me of her only brings up the pain of the break up, and the memories of the happiness we had together. Sometimes doing the accepting the worst is the best thing for us in the long run. I know what you mean. I try my best to let him go because he deserves someone who doesn't hurt him like I do. But at the same time it does still hurt to lose him in my life. I guess I can't have it both.
lovelorcet Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 You dumped him so stop being a drama queen and give the guy some space. It's really that simple...
marlena Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Funny but I have never put any of my boyfriends on IM. I can't stand it. I only have friends and family who live abroad on IM. My ex insisted and I refused. What happened to the good ol' phone call? Or has that become obsolete in today's cyber fake world?
Author gummybear Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Funny but I have never put any of my boyfriends on IM. I can't stand it. I only have friends and family who live abroad on IM. My ex insisted and I refused. What happened to the good ol' phone call? Or has that become obsolete in today's cyber fake world? IM was mainly for at work. At night we'd have our 2-4 hour phone calls every other day or so.
Author gummybear Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 I know I told him to avoid me and I told him to find someone else and that I'm bad for him...but right now I'm hurting and I miss him. I just have to remind myself that I did the right thing though...
MinusTwo Posted September 3, 2008 Posted September 3, 2008 I deleted my ex from my myspace (made my profile private), blocked her on AIM and moved states. When you love someone, and you lose them, you don't want to hear about who/what they're doing. It will drive you insane.
Author gummybear Posted September 3, 2008 Author Posted September 3, 2008 Wow, was it really necessary to move states? That's pretty drastic. There was one ex I did run into like seriously 4 times in one year.
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