Generic Username Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Hi, I hope this doesn't sound shallow, but I'm dating a girl I'm pretty attracted to, but I'm not really into her style (gulp). Please don't hate me for saying that How could I suggest it, or should I? I mean, okay this is really trivial, I'm not going to go and toss her over it, but it's just.. I KNOW she would look so good if she had a different style. What she has right now.. I mean she wears guy's hats. I could see her in some tight black leggings with anything on top and she would look hot. That seems to be the style now, I see girls all over LA dressing like that, and it kinda turns me on, but I feel dumb requesting someone to dress a certain way. It just feels shallow and weak, like I keep thinking, okay if I want someone that dresses a certain way why don't I just find someone who does and date them? But since I started dating this girl who doesn't have that style.. I just gotta live with it. But you know, it's like.. girls do the same thing right. You date a guy, but so many weeks later you WISH he wouldn't wear that ugly hat.. or something like that right?? It's not a dealbreaker, it's just you would be so much more attracted, you'd salivate over him and rip his bones if he was in a collared shirt with some cool pants.. but then you see him in cargo shorts and a ren & stimpy t-shirt. It's the same thing right?
mortensorchid Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Depends on the situation. I deal with those things myself. My guy friends tell me to dress sexier than I do in most situations, because they want to see me sexier just like some stranger on the street would. It is kind of shallow, but then again aren't we all?
Author Generic Username Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Well, it's not that how she dresses now isn't sexy. It is.. but I guess I don't know how to suggest a specific thing.. like those tight black leggings. I guess it's on the verge of a fetish, it just drives me insane when I see girls wearing that.. and I think the girl I'm dating would look super hot in it. But I feel so cheap asking, as if I'm saying I have this fetish and want her to wear it. And maybe also, the fact I'm asking, or requesting, to dress in something that drives me hot, kinda makes it not so hot. Like, if she just happened to dress in that on her own would drive me nuts. But I have really odd fetishes that I don't feel comfortable asking. Now, if I liked sexy lingerie, that would be okay, because it's a common request. But to say.. hey I like those really tight shirts with black leggings and a short skirt over it. That's like getting really specific. I don't know, is the best approach to wait until we pass a girl dressed like that and I can say to her.. you should dress like that (but while smiling and making it clear I'm not demanding it.. just a *suggestion*) and doing that over and over??
konfuzd Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 It's not shallow at all. Girls want to look good for their man, and I personally love when my bf says, "man that would look hot on you" We were at a bar one time, and he saw this really beautiful girl walk by. He said to me, "I like when a girl can pull off a look like that. She's both sexy and classy at the same time". I was at the mall and saw a dress of a similar style, so I bought it and he was super stoked. You may want to be a bit cautious about not making it look like you are checking out another girl. I personally don't mind, but some girls get upset.
cutegirl Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Black leggings was hot like a year ago, now it's so passe and kinda outta style. The person who started the trend was actually Lindsay Lohan, I saw shots of her wearing leggings last year and after that EVERYONE started wearing that. I think it's been out of style already, once all the "common people" start wearing it then it's no longer "in", if you wear it 1 week after Lohan does it's ok, but 1 YEAR later? Also, are you sure you see girls in LA still wearing leggins NOW? I'm in OC and I don't see it as much because it's hot and people are more into wearing dresses and summer clothes. Wearing leggings now is considered being a fashion victim. So is painting your nails black (that one was also hot 1 year ago, also made popular by Lohan, Duff and other stars).
Author Generic Username Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Black leggings was hot like a year ago, now it's so passe and kinda outta style. The person who started the trend was actually Lindsay Lohan, I saw shots of her wearing leggings last year and after that EVERYONE started wearing that. I think it's been out of style already, once all the "common people" start wearing it then it's no longer "in", if you wear it 1 week after Lohan does it's ok, but 1 YEAR later? Also, are you sure you see girls in LA still wearing leggins NOW? I'm in OC and I don't see it as much because it's hot and people are more into wearing dresses and summer clothes. Wearing leggings now is considered being a fashion victim. So is painting your nails black (that one was also hot 1 year ago, also made popular by Lohan, Duff and other stars). Well then, Lindsay Lohan must of been biting the style of the girl I saw at FIDM like 3 years ago I always saw girls wearing stuff like that way before, and still do. I also see guys still wearing castro hats tilted to the side, which SHOULD of been out a long time ago. I don't think tight pants/leggings/or anything should EVER be out!! Ok now those ugg boots, yeah that was a fad. Leggins and the ugg boots.. fad. But leggings alone, espeically if they're like hose.. slightly see thru.. I don't care if it's 2004, 2006, 1992... I still love it even if it's some 1980 spandex workout video covers lol! That style should definately come back. Like the chicks in Fanny Pak on america's best dance crew. Yummy..
stefspets Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I think the only way you can really do this is to tell her how good she would look in a particular outfit if you see it at the mall or on another person. Positive reinforcement!
Ronni_W Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 It can be a bit of a tightrope to walk on but not necessarily so. And, in my head, I'm not really seeing it as a "fetish" though you're feeling that it might be. My opinion would be different if you were say, asking her to wear rubber undies or somesuch (and I'm not even sure why that's the case) but...I don't mind if someone says, "You have such awesome legs...have you considered trying on those black leggings things?" Or, you could just buy her a pair as a present, "because it seems like something that'll really accentuate your awesome legs." Then when she wears them, "Holy Cow, I totally never knew/imagined you could get any hotter than you already are!" If she already KNOWS that you think she's smokin', it is unlikely to be seen in a negative light. But you also must consider her personality,whether she's unusually sensitive about her appearance/dress, etc. Some guy once told me, "you'd look so hot in a red turtleneck" -- which is rather specific, but it was fine cos I knew he was into me...it wasn't going to be the red top that GOT him into me, or that he desperately needed it JUST SO he could see me as sexy. (Hope that makes sense?)
stillafool Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 If you must see her in those leggings say, "boy, you have beautiful legs, I bet they would look great in some black leggings". She'll get the hint.
Star Gazer Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Black leggings was hot like a year ago, now it's so passe and kinda outta style. The person who started the trend was actually Lindsay Lohan, I saw shots of her wearing leggings last year and after that EVERYONE started wearing that. I think it's been out of style already, once all the "common people" start wearing it then it's no longer "in", if you wear it 1 week after Lohan does it's ok, but 1 YEAR later? Also, are you sure you see girls in LA still wearing leggins NOW? I'm in OC and I don't see it as much because it's hot and people are more into wearing dresses and summer clothes. Wearing leggings now is considered being a fashion victim. So is painting your nails black (that one was also hot 1 year ago, also made popular by Lohan, Duff and other stars). Ok, Ms. Fashion Police. If he likes a certain style - regardless of whether it's the newest thing at Kitson - let him.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Hi, I hope this doesn't sound shallow, but I'm dating a girl I'm pretty attracted to, but I'm not really into her style (gulp). Please don't hate me for saying that How could I suggest it, or should I? I mean, okay this is really trivial, I'm not going to go and toss her over it, but it's just.. I KNOW she would look so good if she had a different style. What she has right now.. I mean she wears guy's hats. I could see her in some tight black leggings with anything on top and she would look hot. That seems to be the style now, I see girls all over LA dressing like that, and it kinda turns me on, but I feel dumb requesting someone to dress a certain way. It just feels shallow and weak, like I keep thinking, okay if I want someone that dresses a certain way why don't I just find someone who does and date them? But since I started dating this girl who doesn't have that style.. I just gotta live with it. But you know, it's like.. girls do the same thing right. You date a guy, but so many weeks later you WISH he wouldn't wear that ugly hat.. or something like that right?? It's not a dealbreaker, it's just you would be so much more attracted, you'd salivate over him and rip his bones if he was in a collared shirt with some cool pants.. but then you see him in cargo shorts and a ren & stimpy t-shirt. It's the same thing right? I don't think you are shallow. I tell my boyfriend I like certain things that he wears, so he will wear them more often because I think he looks good. And he does the same thing, says things like "wow that top would look so hot on you!" I think it IS important to note though, whether this girl would respond to something like that. We don't know her so we can't really say whether or not she would be offended. I agree with some other posters who have said that you should just "suggest" to her that something would look good on her. Then you aren't telling her to wear it, or making her feel bad about what she is currently wearing. If she doesn't respond well to your "suggestion" then she probably isn't going to be up for a change in style. I don't think it would hurt to try though!
KinAZ Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Hi, I hope this doesn't sound shallow, but I'm dating a girl I'm pretty attracted to, but I'm not really into her style (gulp). Please don't hate me for saying that How could I suggest it, or should I? I mean, okay this is really trivial, I'm not going to go and toss her over it, but it's just.. I KNOW she would look so good if she had a different style. What she has right now.. I mean she wears guy's hats. I could see her in some tight black leggings with anything on top and she would look hot. That seems to be the style now, I see girls all over LA dressing like that, and it kinda turns me on, but I feel dumb requesting someone to dress a certain way. It just feels shallow and weak, like I keep thinking, okay if I want someone that dresses a certain way why don't I just find someone who does and date them? But since I started dating this girl who doesn't have that style.. I just gotta live with it. But you know, it's like.. girls do the same thing right. You date a guy, but so many weeks later you WISH he wouldn't wear that ugly hat.. or something like that right?? It's not a dealbreaker, it's just you would be so much more attracted, you'd salivate over him and rip his bones if he was in a collared shirt with some cool pants.. but then you see him in cargo shorts and a ren & stimpy t-shirt. It's the same thing right? I was with a pretty boy who always expected me to be "pretty." I blend when I want to and I dress down when I want to dress down. I'm not one who is constantly concerned about what others are wearing or doing etc, and you never know what you're gonna get with me. For the most part, I say that if you two aren't matched in that department, either get over the difference or move on. On the other hand, if she's a flexible person, let her know that you like certain things and would like to see her in them. And maybe, depending on your relationship, buy her something that you would like to see her in, and if she's flexible, she may wear it for you. If she's flexible in her attire, she may get the hint, and dress a certain way when with you. If she's NOT flexible, meaning she's not the girl who would ever be caught dead in a dress, you might want to forget it. But if she is flexible, and again, depending on the relationship... getting her to try things on at a store that you like may make a difference as well. If she likes your reaction to her dressing a certain way, she might make the change at least when with you. But again, if she's not one who sometimes dresses one way and other times dresses another way, I wouldn't bother.
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 But you know, it's like.. girls do the same thing right. You date a guy, but so many weeks later you WISH he wouldn't wear that ugly hat.. or something like that right?? It's not a dealbreaker, it's just you would be so much more attracted, you'd salivate over him and rip his bones if he was in a collared shirt with some cool pants.. but then you see him in cargo shorts and a ren & stimpy t-shirt. It's the same thing right? It's ok as a guy to worry about how she looks naked... and only so that you can adjust the lighting correctly. However, if your all up into her fashion sense... you come off sounding really gay.
nopainnogain Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 not really diggin her style. The title makes me laugh. OK, once she dresses "hott" she will get more guys attention and eventually leave you.........maybe
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