wareagle Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Ok I'm sure this thread is on here somewhere? I am just curious to how others feel to the thought of having to be physically attracted to someone to be able to have a complete relationship with them? I have a couple of women interested in me and they seem to be great people and we have alot in common, but I am just not attracted to them in a physical way. Am I being shallow? I don't consider myself to be a great looking guy, but I don't think that I am ugly either. I just don't want to pursue anything with someone that I know I could never you know get turned on by. Anybody have any opinions on this subject, maybe you can help me out here? Link to post Share on other sites
djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Well, my best friend is a wonderful person, we never grow tired of the other's company, we confide some of our deepest thoughts and fears, I love (you know what I mean) and respect him, and I could easily see spendig the rest of my life with him. But he and I are both men, and there is zero physical or sexual attraction there! I really don't see how we could have a "complete relationship" that went beyond best friends and roommates without it. Link to post Share on other sites
motive2002 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 they seem to be great people and we have alot in common At this point in my life, this would be the most I could hope for. A great person to whom I have a lot in common with. But yes, there would still be that superficial side to me if that person wasn't easy on the eyes, but definitely not picky by any means. They say beauty comes from within. I've had my experiences with attractive women that were ugly and nasty on the inside. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wareagle Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Dude I'm talking about a romantic relationship beyond friendship! I think you missed the point I was trying to make! Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Well, my best friend is a wonderful person, we never grow tired of the other's company, we confide some of our deepest thoughts and fears, I love (you know what I mean) and respect him, and I could easily see spendig the rest of my life with him. But he and I are both men, and there is zero physical or sexual attraction there! I really don't see how we could have a "complete relationship" that went beyond best friends and roommates without it. Sounds like you're selling yourself and him a bit short by not giving it a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wareagle Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Motive I know what you mean! My ex was easy on the eyes and I was very physically attracted to her, but she was a mean and nasty person on the inside! I just don't know if, and I don't know how to put this without sounding superficial or shallow, get past not being attracted to them physically! I know that physical attraction isn't everything, but I at least need to be attracted to something about their appearance right? Link to post Share on other sites
pandagirl Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I definitely have to be physically attracted to someone -- at least in the beginning! That's what differentiates a platonic relationship from a romantic one. That being said, I understand that when I'm 60 years old, the physical chemistry may be gone. But, at the beginning of a relationship -- yes!!! I would also like to add that the checks and balances of physical attraction and general compatibility should be taken into consideration, ie: if I'm physically attracted to someone at a level of 3 on a scale of 1-10, that would be fine with me, if our compatibility was at a 9. Link to post Share on other sites
djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Sounds like you're selling yourself and him a bit short by not giving it a chance. LOL... he looks more like Larry the Cable Guy than Vanity and I just wouldn't be able to "git er done!" Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 It is totally impossible to have a satisfying relationship without physical attraction...even if the two people don't get physical. There has to be that little bit of chemistry going for things to move along toward the finish line. Without the physical attraction, sex is nothing more than masturbation and the relationship is nothing more than a buddy thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wareagle Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 I'm not asking for a supermodel. I'm just asking for somebody that has something that I am attracted to. I know everyone is attracted to something different. Is that to much to ask? Link to post Share on other sites
LionLover Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I'm not asking for a supermodel. I'm just asking for somebody that has something that I am attracted to. I know everyone is attracted to something different. Is that to much to ask? Well I'm a fat so I guess that cancels me out Link to post Share on other sites
Author wareagle Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Tony T that's what I'm saying I don't want to pursue something other than friendship with someone when I know that the physical chemistry isn't there. It is very important to me that not only my partner and I be compatible on an emotional level, but on a physical level as well!! Link to post Share on other sites
LionLover Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Er...So I guess that's a no? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wareagle Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Lion lover like I said, people are attracted to different things. I'm sure there are women out there attracted to larger fellas? LOL! JK man jk Link to post Share on other sites
LionLover Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I like men with webbed feet, personally. Do you have webbed feet? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Tony T that's what I'm saying I don't want to pursue something other than friendship with someone when I know that the physical chemistry isn't there. It is very important to me that not only my partner and I be compatible on an emotional level, but on a physical level as well!! In your original post you asked how others felt about physical attraction and I gave my feelings to you. What more could you possibly want? All that counts is what important to you, not anybody else on this forum. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I am just curious to how others feel to the thought of having to be physically attracted to someone to be able to have a complete relationship with them? Initially, attraction is everything in my book. Link to post Share on other sites
seminoles84 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 LOL... he looks more like Larry the Cable Guy than Vanity and I just wouldn't be able to "git er done!" Haha.. that made me laugh to myself. Roommates gave me a weird look. Link to post Share on other sites
flc Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 For me it has to be there but why think supermodels? Everyone has different things they find attractive and it is a very personal thing. I can't imagine have a meaningful relationship with someone I was not physically attracted to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wareagle Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 Tony T I wasn't dissing you man! I just wanted to know how other people thought about this! I hear what you are saying! Link to post Share on other sites
audrey_1 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 In the beginning, it's important, but as I get to know the person, it becomes secondary. Though the physical attraction does tie in with how I view them sexually. For instance, my ex-fiancee was quite attractive when we began dating, but let himself go throughout our four year relationship. Near the end, I didn't want him to touch me, as I was anything but physically attracted to him. Link to post Share on other sites
djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Haha.. that made me laugh to myself. Roommates gave me a weird look. Thanks... I thought it was kinda funny, but wasn't sure if it didn't come across the same in text. Let me also mention that I would NOT recommend going forward with a relationship where this is a problem. Been there, done that, trust me... a relationship with someone you are not attracted to is not half as bad as a relationship with someone you are not attracted to after they have figured that out (and they will figure it out sooner or later). Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Ok I'm sure this thread is on here somewhere? I am just curious to how others feel to the thought of having to be physically attracted to someone to be able to have a complete relationship with them? I have a couple of women interested in me and they seem to be great people and we have alot in common, but I am just not attracted to them in a physical way. Am I being shallow? I don't consider myself to be a great looking guy, but I don't think that I am ugly either. I just don't want to pursue anything with someone that I know I could never you know get turned on by. Anybody have any opinions on this subject, maybe you can help me out here? Physical attraction is just as important as intellectual attraction.. it's the whole package.. for me.. Is this shallow? I don't care... it's what I prefer.. I realized today that the mouth is my 'physical' turn-on or turn-off.. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Crucial!! Without it I can't go to bed with just anyone. Each time I tried, for experimental purposes, just to test myself, it failed miserably. Link to post Share on other sites
fral945 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I like men with webbed feet, personally. Do you have webbed feet? Really? I have webbed feet. Link to post Share on other sites
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