djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I wanted to comment when I saw this in another thread, but it was already way off topic so figured I'd better start a new thread. Somehow the topic of snowballing came up in this other thread, and a couple women made comments about how hot that was. When a guy posted a comment along the lines that snowballing was definitely hot and if a woman also did A2M he might even ask her to marry him, several comments were posted about how A2M was degrading and designed to humiliate women. I don't get this, "Any sexual activity I would do is hot but anything I wouldn't do is degrading" approach to sex. In the wrong context, any sex act is degrading and humiliating. At first consideration, a man having a load of sperm shoved into his mouth seems pretty humiliating to me. But if I think of someone who wants to share a sexual experience with me, who is willing to give me the gift of the pleasure of oral sex, who is willing to take a mouth full of sperm herself for my pleasure, and who wants to share a little of that experice with me and wants to know I trust her enough to know she won't think less me for doing it.... well, thats actually kinda hot, and part of what makes it hot is the shared experience of something that is otherwise taboo. Why do so many people instinctively express hostility toward other "taboo" sexual activities and think less of the person who would engage in them?
Lizzie60 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 as far as I'm concerned.. I wouldn't do either..
Tomcat33 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Fear of the unknown, ignorance, preconceived notions, childhood hangups all kinds of reasons. It's the same thing that fuels racism, bigotry, misogyny, feminazism, all the extreme views of society.
TigerCub Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Well personally I wouldn't do the A2M, but the way I see it, as long as an act is between consenting people and no one is getting forced to do anything or getting hurt - go nuts!...no judgements here...
jerbear Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I think I have an open mentality to try new positions, that helps. Something that has helped me in the past is to establish a code word(s) for stop, then let each other go at it. Pick a night were the guy takes the lead and does whatever he wants to do or try. Another night, the gal takes the lead and does whatever she wants to do or try. If either of us does not want to do it or try it, then a code word is said; we stop that and we move on to another position. I've experienced the A2M from the gal, she just did it. It was the code words and her taking the lead that opened my mind.
cutegirl Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I don't think its degrading. Whatever floats your boat. I don't think anything is degrading if it's between consenting adults. So perhaps someone enjoys drinking piss, or even eating poop, or into triple penetration (yes, I saw it in a movie once), who are we to judge? Ass to mouth is not that bad, I mean if the woman WANTS to do it, it should be her choice. Who are other people to say it's degrading FOR HER? Just because it's degrading to one woman doesn't mean it's degrading to another. Where do we draw the line? Everyone needs to draw their own lines. A woman CAN actually enjoy these things. I don't think a2m taboo either. It's very common in porn and I'm getting desensitized perhaps but I think it's "normal", or it could be that I'm just twisted.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Wow... I actually had to look snowballing up... should I be embarrased to admit that?
Jilly Bean Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Snowballing is hot, as is the guy eating the creampie, but A2M is just not sanitary. That's my personal issue against it.
Author djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 I don't think a2m taboo either. It's very common in porn and I'm getting desensitized perhaps but I think it's "normal", or it could be that I'm just twisted. Er, um, I think I'm going to go take a cold shower!
Author djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Snowballing is hot, as is the guy eating the creampie, but A2M is just not sanitary. That's my personal issue against it. Wouldn't the same objection apply to rimming and whatever its called when you manage to get your tongue in there? For me personally, all types of play in that area would depend entirely on how clean it was!
jerbear Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 What the hell is snowballing? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snowballing_(sexual_practice)
reservoirdog1 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 As long as all the people involved are adults, they all consent (proper consent, not coerced), and the activities in question are things they all want to do or are curious enough about to try, then I don't see how any sexual activities are degrading. Unhygenic perhaps, but that's another matter entirely. Degradation, when it comes to sex, depends on the perception of the participants. Anything can be degrading to the outside observer, but that observer's opinion isn't really relevant.
motive2002 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I'm in the "whether or not it's sanitary" camp on this one. My ex liked to be degraded. It didn't matter what the specific act was. She just had some screws loose like that.
Author djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Its interesting that no one has said anything more negative than "its not for me" so far. I wonder if that is because of the type of people on this board or just a fear of appearing intolerant or judgmental if they post a counter point of view in this thread. I have a feeling there are a lot of women out there who would be offended if a partner brought A2M up.
Jilly Bean Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I have a feeling there are a lot of women out there who would be offended if a partner brought A2M up. No, I wouldn't offended, I just wouldn't do it (again, only because it's terribly unsanitary and I don't want to explain how I gave myself e-coli). I mentioned in another thread that I had a lover who would wash his c*ck when he took it out of my a** and before putting it in my mouth. I thought that was very sweet.
motive2002 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Its interesting that no one has said anything more negative than "its not for me" so far. I wonder if that is because of the type of people on this board or just a fear of appearing intolerant or judgmental if they post a counter point of view in this thread. I have a feeling there are a lot of women out there who would be offended if a partner brought A2M up. I can hear it now.. "You wanna do what?!?!" At a glance, for someone that hasn't seen as much porn or whatever, it sounds like a pretty kooky thing to ask for. "Hey I wanna put my junk in your stinkhole and then shove it in your mouth afterwards." Yeah I would say that it would seem degrading to someone had they never been exposed to this paticular concept, or fetish or whatever. I honestly believe that the only people that have every possible kinky fantasy fulfilled do it in front of a camera for a living and they call it porn. I also believe that some acts are simply degrading, in a sense that it's a power trip, or some other kind of mental thing. "She's such a nasty slut she let me do this to her" and so on. Maybe that's a role someone wants to fulfill, and maybe it isn't. Different strokes for different folks.
whichwayisup Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 but A2M is just not sanitary. That's my personal issue against it. That's how I feel about it, but if people are into that, that's their choice.
johan Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Its interesting that no one has said anything more negative than "its not for me" so far. I wonder if that is because of the type of people on this board or just a fear of appearing intolerant or judgmental if they post a counter point of view in this thread. What do you expect them to say? Did you start this thread in the hopes of having people to argue with? It seems like you'd have to find a more controversial topic.
Generic Username Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I'm sorry but what is snowballing and a2M?? What's with all these code words, it makes it sound so geeky. Like, I met this girl, we A9'd and SSTS'd all day!! ok got it.. A2M. Yes. I figured it out. At first I thought it was Asian to M___ and couldn't figure out the M. Then I read on and interpolated the meaning. I still don't know what snowballin is.
mortensorchid Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 *SHUDDER* No one's ever asked for that from me at least. Done V2M before, but that was with someone long term.
Author djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 What do you expect them to say? Did you start this thread in the hopes of having people to argue with? It seems like you'd have to find a more controversial topic. No, I didn't start the topic hoping to have people to argue with. I was just surprised since wherever I've seen posts other places that touch on any kind of unconventional sexual practice there is usually a flood of people jumping out to insult, judge, and denounce anyone who would engage in that sort of behavior.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Okay I had to look snowballing up. I have to say pornography has desensitized that issue already. It has nothing to do with hygiene, because sperm is merely mixed with another person's saliva. As for A2m, I know some people wouldn't mind it, but for health concerns, if the guy has a condom on, then all he needs to do is take it off before he sticks it in my mouth.
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