DRDimeMami Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I'm officially single but my ex boyfriend is still in the picture and so is the other guy I started liking while I was with my ex. My ex still wants to be with me, loves me, cares, etc. He's living out of state now but we still speak on that "I still care" level. The other guy, he lives out of state. Met him through my best friend a few years ago, we keep in touch, flirt and I've only seen him once when he came for the holidays to visit for the first time. My ex and I broke up because we were arguing, he was going through tough times with his family where he was pretty much on his own (quit job, didn't have a place to stay, was really down about it all that he didn't know what else to do.) Also, we would argue and break up then get back together. Besides that, he lied about a few things from his past like what actually happened to his mother when she passed away, why he didn't get along much with his father, and he was in foster home for a few years. When all this was brought out into the open, my family didn't want me with him. I kind of knew some of the things but but not the exact story. After that happened, I kept sneaking around seeing him until I got caught by my parents. They didn't want anything to do with him at all and I'd get so much crap from them so it was hard. But they gave him a chance little by little. Still didn't like him though. During that time we were trying to fix up our relationship and things with my parents, the other guy, had told me he liked me. I said well, who knows in the future, you never know and we started getting some feelings for each other. My ex noticed I was acting weird so he went around flipping a story saying someone told him I was talking to another guy when in reality nobody told him anything. I flipped and told him the truth and said yes I am talking to another guy. He was hurt but still wanted to be with me. At this point, I was super confused and wanted to be single. Months went on, my ex and I back and forth talking, seeing each other, trying to work things out, etc. The other guy and I still kept talking as well but none knew about each other anymore. Things with the other guy went a little bumpy when he didn't know what or who he wanted and us being so far away made it more complicating. So basically now, they are both still in the picture. The other guy recently told me that he still has faith in us maybe one day being together and we still talk and flirt. I still talk to my ex as well. I care about him, I miss him, I wish things could have been different, but its so hard when my family doesn't accept him anymore. I don't know what to do. I want to get rid of this confusion going on inside of me. Part of me wants to be single and meet new guys.. the other part of me wants to be with someone. Just don't know who exactly. There are other guys too but those don't matter much. I don't want to get caught up even worse than I already am. Right now, I'm trying to figure out what I want and who I want to be with, and I'm kind of leaning towards being with my ex again and trying to work things out. But then the other guy is still there and he knows nothing about this situation. He thinks my ex is long gone I'm guessing. I know that my ex will come back down to be with me on the next plane in an instant if I told him yes I want to be with you again. I don't want to hurt anyone more than I already have. I've been hurt too. I'm young, just 20, I know theres other guys out there. How can I solve this situation? What if I decide to go back with my ex? How can I make it work between my family and him? What should I do? What about the other guy? Has anyone been in a situation like this before? Help please, I would appreciate it much.
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