so gutted Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 After a divorce, how did you react? Men - did you start sleeping around a lot? If the marraige was not working for a while and you lived seperate lives - would the recovery period be easier?
Shygirl15 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Hey, SG, the word is 'marriage'. Sorry, but this is a second time you've put it that way.
flc Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 As I recall I moped around the house for about a month, then spent another month buying a bunch of stuff and having fun. Then I started dating but I was looking for relationship not just a roll in the hay. Still looking. A divorce takes some time so you do get some time to get use to the fact, but for me it still was an impact when it was final
rod_in_gtown Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I went into a shopping frenzy, I bought a lot of toys and went on a video-game playing binge for close to a year. (world of warcraft) I wanted to sleep around but was terrified of dating again. I had lived a "parent" life for nearly 3 years (my ex wife was pregnant when I met her) and almost completely forgot how to have fun as a single guy. Eventually I moved out of the suburbs and into the city (it was a single guy's social life killer being in the burbs), bought my first motorcycle, joined a theatre group and started going back to the things I liked doing before I got married. In the wrap party from the show I met and hooked up with my now ex gf, who was a 24 year old little girl. I say little girl because there are 24 year old women and 24 year old little girl. she was the latter.
soserious1 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I'm keeping to myself, I've quietly told family and select friends that we've begun the divorce process but I haven't gone into the humilating reasons. I'm not interested in dating anyone and I'm trying to avoid spending any money that isn't essential to live.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 avoid spending any money that isn't essential to live. This is good advice, the shopping spree left me unsatisfied and I went through a large portion of my "divorce money" (proceeds from the sale and split of our house) in stuff I could've done without. I also ended up with a large credit card bill that I wish I wasn't still repaying.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Divorced men are wary of relationships, and the first few months after the divorce finalization, they are either wallowing around the new apartment getting used to being single again, or socializing with single women who just wants sex. I have a friend who's the latter.
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