butterfly2508 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 My BF and I have been together for seven years and I finally ended it. We broke up last year 4 months before we were supposed to get married because he cheated and he was being a jerk about it. I moved back to my parents house and for a few months was doing fine on my own. Then he wanted me back, begged, said he was a fool. I said ok, after-all 6 years and he had never done anything like that and everyone makes mistakes. We have been trying for a year to make things work and they did for awhile. We started to drift apart again. Things have been gradually getting worse. I don't remember the last time he told me or showed me he loved me. Then he has been hanging out with his ex and it bothered me. Then she invited him on a trip to vegas with her and her friends. He thought it would be ok to go, we fought about it. It shouldn't have been an issue, if you love someone you don't go on a trip with another girl. It just became so bad. We broke up about 3 weeks ago and then two days later he said lets try counseling. i agreed since we have been together 7 years and it would be a shame to throw it all away just like that. We went to one session and it went well, then 4 days before session 2 he brought up the whole vegas thing again. I was so mad, because it was so wrong and he didn't see it. We got into a fight the day before our session. He has had an issue with my weight, since I've gained like 50 lbs since we've been together. He told me that if he had never met me and saw me on the street he would not give me a second look. and then he continued to say more hurtful things. The second session went horrible. After all he could say is "how do feel about the relationship, what do you want to do?" THen the next day he said I need a decision, tickets aren't getting any cheaper. I made my decision then. I went home and while he was at class packed up most of my stuff and left. He came home to an empty house, he never even called me. It was 3 days before we even talked, and that was because I was letting him know that I was coming over Saturday to get the rest of my stuff. He was ok, he even packed up my stuff for me so when I got there there wasn't much to do. We made arrangements to meet today to pay bills that were due. He was a mess, in tears. Telling me he can't live without me and he hates coming home and not having anyone to talk to. It was awfully awkward. I really don't want to be with him. I had no doubts in leaving. He wants me back and I don't know how to get through to him that it's over and as hard as it he needs to move on. HELP!!!!!
nickelinadime Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Ouch. Seven years is a long time for any relationship. I was only with my girlfriend for a year and we're both still having a ton of trouble after two months. I think that after the bills are paid your best decision is to go into no contact for both of your sakes. Don't give in if you get a text message or an email. He'll eventually accept that it's over and give up. Don't lead him on and don't give him any false hope. Hope that helps.
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