scold2886 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Ok here is the problem i got with this nc. Sometimes when all the emotions are there why still us nc. Me and my ex had been like that sense the break up. Now everyone is telling me she want's to be with me but dosen't know how to tell me so she rather not talk to me at all. If you wan't to move on and get back together why is nc still the only thing people tell you to do.Explain this how does it benfit to you in the end.
babes23 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I think for me No Contact is with the intention of not getting back together, to give yourself time to heal and get over the relationship. I don't believe no contact is right for someone if you want to get that person back, that isn't what it's about.
BCCA Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I think for me No Contact is with the intention of not getting back together, to give yourself time to heal and get over the relationship. I don't believe no contact is right for someone if you want to get that person back, that isn't what it's about. NC is about working on yourself. It's to help you heal, feel better about yourself, and get used to the fact that you dont NEED anyone else to be happy. Most of the time, getting back together with an ex A) isnt going to happen, or B) isnt going to last if it does. NC also gives everyone a chance to reflect on the situation without any influence from the other person. Sometimes, people can see things in a new light and decide that theyre willing to work on making things right. Even IF you were to get back together with an ex, the best thing to do is get over the inital emotional shock of the breakup. You wont think clearly until you're ready to go on without them. The only way to get on with your life, whether you end up getting back together or not, is to go NC and work on yourself. You dont want to get back together too soon or before things have been resolved, and if your ex wants to get back with you, theyll let you know - trust me. But, as bad as this is, its probably safer to assume that its a done deal, because chances are it is.
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