wizzlebee Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Hi guys For two weeks my bf( ex bf) was very quiet but he put it down to stress at work. Although in the back of my head i knew more was up , but thought rather not assume so i took him out for dinner on Wednesday night to de-stress. And he was completely off the whole night, so when i got home that night, it was bugging me . so i sent him a text if he wants to end the relationship, and he said well he wants to be friends for now, he's confused and feels trapped in his life and needs time to figure out what he wants. He did this once before and we got back together. So I got upset and told him that i cant be friends with him , but if thats what he wants i have to say goodbye for now and i'll see in the future to be his friend. But right now to much emotions are invovled. And he cant keep doing this too me. So i said goodbye! Thursday - He calls , i dont answer, he sent texts i never replied. Friday - The same thing, but with more desperation.He was begging to see me , i only replied once to tell him , that i do not want to see him and he said i make him feel trapped so why is he calling me so much, for someone who wanted his freedom. He has a funny way of showing it! Saturday- From early the morning he was calling me and texting me, very deperate. I got about 11 calls from him in a space of 15 minutes. Even messages accusing me wanting to be with some other guy , then he sent me a message begging to please talk to him, then messages he made a mistake , he loves me , he wants us to be together , but later the afternoon the messages were getting crazy so i decided to see him. I went to his house thinking if i go there i can just leave whenever i want, instead of him coming to my house. We sat quiet for a while , watched some tv, no one saying anything for about two hours. Next thing we in his room and i dont have to say what happened. So i ended up staying till last night at his place , but this morning i feel that it was a mistake to sleep with him. I dont feel that i want to get back together with him, i do love him very much, but since this is the second time he wanted to end the relatioship i dont trust that he wont want to do it again. But what i dont understand is if he was so trapped and wanted out, why does he go crazy when i said goodbye?
nowhereman82 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Sounds like you already know what you got to do, just need affirmation. Listen to your gut, seem to be making the right calls. Sleeping with him was a mistake, but you know that
carhill Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Sounds like he's immature. Let him go for now. Sex is an easy way back in (primal pleasure). The easy path often turns out to be a very painful one. Resist it. Take the harder, more healthy path
smiley23 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Why does he feel trapped in what way?.. I think maybe he didnt expect this reaction at all!!... What does he want what do you want? Did you discuss anything about this ?has he contacted you since u slept together?..
MichiganMan222 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Maybe he made a mistake in thinking he wanted time. People make mistakes, you know. Are you ignoring him to punish him or because you don't want to be with him. If you don't want to be with him, why didn't you end it before yourself?
Author wizzlebee Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Yes he did contact me since. Yesterday he called me thrice and i had two miscalls from him as well. Maybe when he saw i was serious about saying goodbye and not seeing him again, it genuinely did scare him. He's a very calm type of person who rarely react to things, so him calling so much, accusing me of *****, begging me to see him was completely out of character so maybe he really did get a big scare. I do want to be with him, its just that his confusion hurt me bad. I dont understand what space he wants when i leave him alone then HE CALLS ME ect... When i said goodbye he went ballistic! I think he thinks we back together because we had sex , but im scared of getting hurt again and even though it breaks my heart because i really do love him its best to call it off. But then again maybe that will be a mistake to do!
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