celinedion1 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Well my ex and I reconciled, however he's planning on visiting his online friend in about 2 weeks. I'm so depressed over the thought of it that I cant eat, sleep and am just misserable. Whenever I think of it I just start crying. Im so afraid of losing him and having our dreams come crashing down. I dont want to lose him again, he's planning on seeing her for 13 days. What should I do? How do I calm my fears?
D-Lish Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Is this a person he met on a dating site? have they met before or will this be the first time? Was it originally romantic intentions he had for her? Sounds pretty disrespecful if this is the case. If they are just friends- you have to decide if you can trust him or not.
Author celinedion1 Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 Is this a person he met on a dating site? have they met before or will this be the first time? Was it originally romantic intentions he had for her? Sounds pretty disrespecful if this is the case. If they are just friends- you have to decide if you can trust him or not. Just met online, it will be the first time meeting, and at first yes when we first broke up but now, no real romantic intentions except he wants to see where it could go. Currently they are just friends, however he wants to see what it could become, and he doesnt want to be in a serious relationship right now, however if he gets a job there then hes planning on staying there. He doesnt know why he wants to meet her but he just does. He tells me that he plans on marrying me and spending his life with me. I just dont want our dreams to come crashing down and I feel like they are. I dont know what to do.....
nickelinadime Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I say end it. If he's willing to disrespect you like that then he's not worth it. Enough said. You will find a better man.
D-Lish Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Just met online, it will be the first time meeting, and at first yes when we first broke up but now, no real romantic intentions except he wants to see where it could go. Currently they are just friends, however he wants to see what it could become, and he doesnt want to be in a serious relationship right now, however if he gets a job there then hes planning on staying there. He doesnt know why he wants to meet her but he just does. He tells me that he plans on marrying me and spending his life with me. I just dont want our dreams to come crashing down and I feel like they are. I dont know what to do..... His signals are so mixed here- I don't even know what to think. "He wants to see what could become of it?" But he's with you!! He doesn't want a serious relationship- but speaks of marrying you someday?? YOu have every reason to feel disrespected. Basiclaly, what he is saying is that he wants to see if something better is waiting for him in this girl. That should be a huge red flag for you. You're back together- but he is going off to visit another woman he met off the internet - so there was obviously initial attraction- I doubt that has dimished. If I were you I'd be dumping him on his a$$. This is just plain wrong and inappropriate on his part. I'd never in a million years put up with this.
nowhereman82 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Agree with D-Lish, respect yourself more than this. I find it odd he has shared this with you. He is being honest, which I can commend him for....he could of just said he was gone for 2 weeks for work? But I find it odd he is going somewhere for 2 weeks to meet a stranger. At most people do a weekend or something.
Author celinedion1 Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 He basically just stoped caring about his life so he has no problem, risking it on something thats totally unknown. If he goes there, then this is the begining of the end, depending on how thigns develope. He doesnt want to be in a committed relationship with anyone right now. He told me that he wants to live with me, however with the financial situation that's not possible.
marlena Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 If you have to live in constant fear of losing someone, then, he is not worth keeping. I say let him go.
Author celinedion1 Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 I gave him a ultimatum tonight and he told me that if I were to get married to someone else that it would break his heart.
blackandblue Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Don't listen to the "I want to marry you, but not just now" line - all this means is "Could you hang around while I sleep around?".
Author celinedion1 Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 He knows he has to make a choice.
sultry33 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 shocked here:( you should be making the choice.. damn he is going to meet another girl for 2 weeks to see if there is any future there, but wants to marry you.. is openly telling you this, that he is thinking of cheating:sick: can you explain how you think you have reconciled? seems he thinks he is single imo get out of this now why wait to see if your 2nd best? there will be others if not that one and you will always feel not good enough x
verve Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 *wipes feet on celinedion1's head* OH.... SORRY. I thought you was a doormat. Please, have some respect for yourself! You're allowing him to go trial run a new girl?! What the hell are you thinking? And you've recently got back together as well. You need to dump this loser, you have no need to cling on to this man, he may give you false promises of marriages and happiness but look at his behaviour. He is a bad person and you really don't deserve to be hurt like that. My advice is to cut him off entirely and move forward without him.
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