Author jmmm Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 i bet he is just fine without me and i miss him so much
RM0123 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 anyone else think i had some right to feel a little insecure? 8. He also forgot to introduce me at a wedding after more than a year of dating. We were waiting online to congratulate his cousin and when it came time for us he said it to the both of them and literally like 5-10 seconds passed and then i think he finally realised he forgot and he said "oh, this is my g/f so and so". I felt so mortified and embarassed and i told him 5 minutes later and he said you are right but i am not used to having to introduce anyone...more than a year goes by and you are STILL not used to introducing someone..that was his excuse Your ex sounds exactly like my ex. Only after 6 years... he introduced me by just my name. No "this is my girlfriend .....". And usually the other person would have to say something to me and then he would be like, oh yeah "this is ....." I would love to talk to you and compare situations
Author jmmm Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 i feel really sad without him lately...i have been living my life i think the best i can...working, seeing friends when i can but i am still sad alot of the times because i miss him dearly..whenever i am out at a bar it just makes me feel worse. I don't do it often..it was almost a month without going to any but when i do i just see the sort of guys out there and it makes me miss my ex even more thinking it was all my fault. And then i just get angry and sad. I even made an excuse up once to leave the bar early from my friends. I just wanted to go home because I was sad and not really having a good time. I just sort of feel I am not going to move on from him and going to regret how things went with us and wishing we could just repair things and talk it out. He was the first guy I was with sexually and the first one I loved. Everyone pretty much says he wasn't as invested in the relationship and there are even other things i can add to the list i have posted in the beginning of this thread It just gets really hard..sometimes things just hit me like a flashback almost..like i decided to charge my phone and its so silly and stupid but i suddenly remember what it was like when i used to go to his bed to lay down for the night and he would be getting ready too and would always charge his phone up put it in the same place..its just weird i remember stupid little things like that sometimes but i have been remembering it more lately..it just makes me miss him so much i want to cry right now but most still just say the things he did( like the things i listed) may not have been a big issue on its own but when you look at it all together it was like a jab in the face each time something like this happened which will of course make me feel tiny and cause me to make mistakes in the relationship etc.
durotto Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Seriously you need to move on .. He has and so should you .. thinking or pining away after someone who has moved away is no use and only pulls you down further . Cheer up and I am sure that things will be better for you ..
Author jmmm Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 hey thanks...its easier said than done though. I don't want to feel like this and its not like I am not doing activities and things for myself. Apart of me wishes I knew how he has been doing. I know he is doing a lot better than me, who knows maybe even in love with someone else. I just sort of feel like I won't be over this for a very long time...
durotto Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 It is never ever easy .. never . I say it in a way like as if it is so easy and you just say it and it is done .. but know .. for me she has moved on and is with someone else now .. she is trying to be happy with him and is very very happy with him .. do you think that I have not agonised over her ? I know what you are going through .. do you know that I still imagine softly kissing her on her cheeks and forehead ?? do you know I still dream of her and smell her .. and I have to see her and him in my office every day .. how do I feel ? does she care ? NO but does she remember .. NO .. she has moved on and no longer cares .. which is why I ask you to slowly forget him . try and be a bit stronger and try to be occupied in your own hobbies .. get to know friends and spend time with them .. anything to stop you thinking about him .. ) .. remember you can be stronger .. and its no use making yourself sad over someone who no longer cares .
mattg Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Hi, Im new to the forums, but after reading your post, I think your BF likes women to be passive and this is probably why he had you in the back seat.. Big Danger sign if you ask me.. If I were you I wouldnt let him control me in that way. Turn it around, start getting involved with a hobby or something that puts him in the back seat for awhile.. If he reacts with anger, then youll know you have to move on. It all depends on how you go about it all.. but let him be the one feeling a little insecure. Just my two cents.
Author jmmm Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 hey matg thanks...if you read the whole post you will know we are no longer together....what you mentioned along with the other things i posted did cause problems for me and i can even add more to the list...my friend said its like getting slight jabbed in the face and over and over. But i know i made mistakes too and it causes me to second guess myself thinking it was my fault..
Author jmmm Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 just a thought..but the pain we are all feeling due to these situations definitely makes us very similiar i dont know why the past few days have been really hard...maybe because its been months and i haven't heard from him at all so maybe i am trying to get it through my head that he probably will not be contacting me its like sometimes i just get hit with these flashbacks almost and what it was like when i went over his place, things we ate, watched on tv, how comfortable i felt there etc.....
Author jmmm Posted March 29, 2009 Author Posted March 29, 2009 hey hope everyone is doing ok its been pretty difficult at times... another feeling I would like to point out is apart of the uneasiness I felt...its weird and its hard to explain..but its like he always had things he needed to do...always something would come up that he needed to do for a family member, friend, whoever..it just seemed like their was always something ...which is great in one aspect but I also felt like I was second to these things even when he did spend an extra day than what we normally would together..it was weird....this goes along with the point I made about the sundays we spent together and alot of the times I just felt weird being there past a certain time...it just felt like ok its, 4:00 ---like our time was up and its time for it to end..it was a weird and sad feeling at times...
Author jmmm Posted April 4, 2009 Author Posted April 4, 2009 ugh today feels difficult without him...
Author jmmm Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 i think the nice weather makes me feel really sad at times..like this past weekend..b/c it makes me think about him..i am doing things to keep busy but it feels like i am going through the motions really..in reality i am sad without him...i cried yesterday over it and feel a lot of pain right now ...but i guess from the responses i got, he could have been nicer? he definitely wasn't an all around bad guy..he had good qualities too which i guess makes me feel alot of regret over things
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