sinlovehurts Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Just thought I would share some stuff and hope to get a few opinion from others. Thanks! When you meet someone for the first time you have an interest in, do you give instant eye contact to make sure she/he notices you? What happens when it's a pro-longed eye contact? I have found that there were many guys who have admitted to liking me didn't use eye contact. Instead, they'd look down when talking to me, as if too "nervous" around me. Shy, perhaps? Let's decipher (from a guy's perspective) the type of eye contact that... when you walk into a room and from across that room, is the girl you might have an interest in. She is the first person you see and the both of you LOCK eyes and it is kept there for a few seconds. Are these eye contacts a way of saying, I find you attractive, I like you, or I want to f*** you all night long? Most guys won't give these type of eye contacts, especially not to the girl they don't want to think otherwise, right? So, what are your thoughts on these types of eye contacts?
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Just thought I would share some stuff and hope to get a few opinion from others. Thanks! When you meet someone for the first time you have an interest in, do you give instant eye contact to make sure she/he notices you? What happens when it's a pro-longed eye contact? I have found that there were many guys who have admitted to liking me didn't use eye contact. Instead, they'd look down when talking to me, as if too "nervous" around me. Shy, perhaps? Let's decipher (from a guy's perspective) the type of eye contact that... when you walk into a room and from across that room, is the girl you might have an interest in. She is the first person you see and the both of you LOCK eyes and it is kept there for a few seconds. Are these eye contacts a way of saying, I find you attractive, I like you, or I want to f*** you all night long? Most guys won't give these type of eye contacts, especially not to the girl they don't want to think otherwise, right? So, what are your thoughts on these types of eye contacts? If I look away and don't make much eye contact I am saying "I am not interested in anything other than friendship with you or the conversation we are having..." If I make serious, prolonged eye contact, it means what it means to the woman who works at my gym who is drop dead gorgeous: "I wonder what your lips taste like....and what it would feel like to kiss you...." The sad part is, she returns the eye contact the same way. But she's also engaged. That's my $0.02.
norajane Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 When you meet someone for the first time you have an interest in, do you give instant eye contact to make sure she/he notices you? Yes, absolutely. What happens when it's a pro-longed eye contact? A connection is made. I have found that there were many guys who have admitted to liking me didn't use eye contact. Instead, they'd look down when talking to me, as if too "nervous" around me. Shy, perhaps? Shy and embarrassed. For some reason, they don't want you to know that they're attracted to you. Or maybe they don't want to see what's in your eyes when you look back at them - if you're attracted to them or not. Let's decipher (from a guy's perspective) the type of eye contact that... when you walk into a room and from across that room, is the girl you might have an interest in. She is the first person you see and the both of you LOCK eyes and it is kept there for a few seconds. Are these eye contacts a way of saying, I find you attractive, I like you, or I want to f*** you all night long? I can't say for sure what goes through a man's mind, but, probably, yes, something like that, depending on the level of interest. Guys don't usually hold prolonged eye contact unless they're attracted to what they see. Most guys won't give these type of eye contacts, especially not to the girl they don't want to think otherwise, right? I don't agree that most guys don't give prolonged eye contact. In my experience, many men do. Some are very good at it. If they're not interested in a woman at all, it's unusual that they would make a lot of eye contact. So, what are your thoughts on these types of eye contacts? Eye contact can be very sexy. Interesting flirtation requires it.
djhall Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Are these eye contacts a way of saying, I find you attractive, I like you, or I want to f*** you all night long? Maybe its just my low self-esteem, but I think it depends on if I initiated the prolonged eye contact or she did. If I initiate it and she returns it, I take it her eye contact means, "I'm not intimidated by your staring and if you don't stop looking at me I'm going to show you what I learned last week in my crotch punching class." If she initiates the eye contact, then I have obviously done something incredibly embarassing to cause her to stare at me, and when I look back it means, "I'm such a dork that not only do I have no idea why you are staring at me, I am further humiliating myself by assuming its because you are interested in me." Then again, I never was very good at flirting.
Lizzie60 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 IMO... any prolonged eye contact is a sign that the person is interested... ONLY if it happens more than just that one time.. cause if the person is locking eye contact.. s/he might just be 'surprised' that the other person is looking at her/him with a persistent look.. but if it happens more than once.. then I say there is a definite interest.
Tomcat33 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I thought it was the mouth that said it all.
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I thought it was the mouth that said it all. No see, I learned a long time ago. Prolonged eye contact + licking your lips at someone is NOT a good idea :lmao:
Tomcat33 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 No see, I learned a long time ago. Prolonged eye contact + licking your lips at someone is NOT a good idea :lmao: It is if I (a woman) do it. But I would much prefer to see you do it.
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 It is if I (a woman) do it. But I would much prefer to see you do it. Trust me, if I get to that point -- you either better RUN or get naked
Tomcat33 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Trust me, if I get to that point -- you either better RUN or get naked Oh no fair you had to stick your tongue out so I could use my line "use it or lose it"
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Oh no fair you had to stick your tongue out so I could use my line "use it or lose it" Haha, that sounds like a dare. I'm not one to run from dares
Author sinlovehurts Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 IMO... any prolonged eye contact is a sign that the person is interested... ONLY if it happens more than just that one time.. cause if the person is locking eye contact.. s/he might just be 'surprised' that the other person is looking at her/him with a persistent look.. but if it happens more than once.. then I say there is a definite interest. Most definitely. When you say persistent look, is it like when you and him are looking at each other like there's nothing or anyone else around? Do you know what I mean? Hehehe. The eyes are locked and there you have it. One either looses the "locking" first so it doesn't seem obvious. Eye locking can be very sexy when you play it right...
Author sinlovehurts Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 No see, I learned a long time ago. Prolonged eye contact + licking your lips at someone is NOT a good idea :lmao: Let's say you're in a crowd of people as you enter the room, your eyes and hers MEET and it's locked. That means, you are definitely interested, correct? Guys are easy to read when they let their eyes do the talking...
likestolaugh Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 the whole eye rules stuff goes completely out the window if one or both happen to be shy people....
Author sinlovehurts Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 the whole eye rules stuff goes completely out the window if one or both happen to be shy people.... And what if it's between two confident people? lol
hecallsmepumpkin Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 The guy that I'm seeing gives me a fairly prolonged eye contact. It's usually when I'm getting excited telling a story or right when I get into his car... he just stares into my eyes with a little smile and says "hi". I think if a guy does that to you he's definitely interested. The guy that I'm seeing started off very shy but now he's opened up so much and things seem to be going good. But definitely eye contact was something that I first noticed with him.
BentSpine Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Yes, it's the looking BACK that indicates interest. I can think of two reasons why an interested person would look down. 1) They believe they would virtually be shouting out a strong interest if they kept eye contact. 2) Looking down can also mean:"I'm sorry (for whatever imagined reason). I value you and want your approval." In a flirting setting this could mean "I'm sorry if my brief eye contact possibly made you feel uncomfortable, I cannot help looking at your beauty." Shyness then is an indication of a cautious standard with what the other person will feel comfortable with. Looking down does NOT mean that you're submissive and seek a leader to tell you what to do. Not in my experience, at least.
beautiful_stranger Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I have both pursued guys and been pursued. and it is usually when I take interest in a guy first that I initiate the eye locking... (or maybe that's too forward being a girl LOL..) anyways.. not sure if guys do the same..
Trialbyfire Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Yes, eye contact can be meaningful but it's reliant on individual(s), as to the level of meaningful. The other day I was getting a coffee at Starbuck's. I wasn't paying attention and went to open the glass door and realized there was someone on the other side, so backed off in case of personal injury to hand. He opened the door and I looked at him, saw him looking and got a jolt from the look in his eyes. Instant connection. He was absolutely gorgeous! We started chatting and I realized he wasn't the brightest spark in the pile. So sad, such a waste and no, I didn't give him my number.
jerbear Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 When you meet someone for the first time you have an interest in, do you give instant eye contact to make sure she/he notices you? Oh yeah, sometimes I even stare with my mouth open and not know it. :o What happens when it's a pro-longed eye contact? Usually a conversation happens or both of you walk away. I have found that there were many guys who have admitted to liking me didn't use eye contact. Instead, they'd look down when talking to me, as if too "nervous" around me. Shy, perhaps? Yes and no, sometimes I would look away to see the overall picture. Are these eye contacts a way of saying, I find you attractive, I like you, or I want to f*** you all night long?Yes Most guys won't give these type of eye contacts, especially not to the girl they don't want to think otherwise, right?If I was not interested, she would have just gotten glanced over. So, what are your thoughts on these types of eye contacts?Required and sometimes it can even be used to signal another message. Like lets go somewhere quieter.
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Let's say you're in a crowd of people as you enter the room, your eyes and hers MEET and it's locked. That means, you are definitely interested, correct? Guys are easy to read when they let their eyes do the talking... For me, yes. Not sure about other men. For me, prolonged eye contact means I am very interested in you.
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 And what if it's between two confident people? lol Then there's definitely a spark...
CaliGuy Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Looking down does NOT mean that you're submissive and seek a leader to tell you what to do. Not in my experience, at least. To me it means "I am insecure..."
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