Hopelessly_Devoted Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I have met a gut through an online dating site, we spoke via the internet a few times, then on the phone. I think we hit it off. So last night at around 11pm my ex comes with his new girl to my apt trying to come in and get his business cards that I told him I did not have I had to call the police and they left before the police came. I was so scared I called up the new guy and told him what was happening he told me he stay on the phone with me all night, and after about 20 minutes he said, listen I am concerned and I want to come there and make sure your safe. I was hesitant but I agreed. He came within 20 minutes. We talked he held me in his arms, touched my face and hari and we watched a movie. After the movie, it was time for bed so I told him he could sleep in the bed with me. We cuddled and I fell asleep. When we woke up in the morning, we cuddled some more. He tried to kiss me but I told him I just can't. But he countinued to hold me and carress me. He is dating ther people, I am not. He told me he has his guard up and wants to find the right one to settle down with. He also told me your a keeper, your attractive, successful, etc We did not have sex and kissed on the lips goodbye. Now my question is did I cuddle with him too soon?
likestolaugh Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 no. As long as you were fine with it, that is.
Green Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 cuddling to soon can be detrimental to the relationship, now he'll veiw you as a cuddly person... yeah too soon
rod_in_gtown Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I think you're fine. Don't stress over it, if he's into you (and it seems like he is), you'll move forward.
likestolaugh Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 cuddling to soon can be detrimental to the relationship, now he'll veiw you as a cuddly person... yeah too soon what's so bad about being a "cuddly" person?
MalachiX Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Well, as a guy I can say that there are two kinds of cuddling. There's the somewhat platonic cuddling you do with someone you're starting to date and female friends (it's not really platonic but we act like it is). And then there's bed cuddling which is a lot more intimate. While I don't think you've damaged the relationship or anything, it probably wasn't the best idea to invite him to cuddle in your bed, even if you guys didn't have sex. Like I said, it's a lot more intimate, puts you in a much more "relationship" state of mind, and perhaps isn't the best thing if you want to take things slow. On the other hand, I may just be over-analyzing because I like sound of my own voice (or look of words on the paper) and I'm trying to avoid doing work.
Green Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 this was over night cuddling pretty far up on the cuddling she's just up the ante... id be expecting a ons pretty soon and then buh bye
Prodigal Princess Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 this was over night cuddling pretty far up on the cuddling she's just up the ante... id be expecting a ons pretty soon and then buh bye what's so bad about being a "cuddly" person? Perhaps you should look up the meaning of sarcasm.
zicke Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 My concern is not the cuddling but that you are calling some guy you spoke with a few times that you "met" online and inviting him into your drama. Do you have no other people you could have called? Some men love drama, so maybe you met your match. Have you even had a date with this guy yet?
hotcrossbuns Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 My concern is not the cuddling but that you are calling some guy you spoke with a few times that you "met" online and inviting him into your drama. Do you have no other people you could have called? Some men love drama, so maybe you met your match. Have you even had a date with this guy yet? I have to agree. The fact that you brought a person you hardly knew into this intimate situation, is probably far more concerning than whether you cuddled too soon or not. To be honest, I've never heard of cuddling too soon ever being an issue for anyone. I think you're paying attention to the wrong thing,
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