slim255 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Been talking to this girl for about a week from a dating website, we meet up yesterday 2pm at a public place, she suggested that before we do anything else just to make sure we like each other, the meet up was for like 30 min as I had other plans, it seemed to go well, I txt her 20 min later asking if she would like to come around for a movie, she said she would love to, told her 6ish she txt me back and said see you then. its now 7am the next morning, she didnt show, never heard anything from her no txts no phone call, I txt her with no reply, rung her phone, it must have been turned off. She was on the dating website about 15min before our date. Im rather confused, 3 hour before the date, she told me shed love to come over, then she doesnt show. shes a shy girl.
Mako482 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Move on, a no show is a no go. It's her issues not yours, I wouldn't break your skull trying to figure it out, not worth it.
Shygirl15 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 She obviously changed her mind; and if you met her on a dating website, she probably has other couple of guys she communicating with. It's very easy for someone in that position to change their minds without any particular reason. Move on. If you're still doing online dating, have a couple of girls on your radar before you decide which one you want to move forward with.
jerbear Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Agreed with the other poster. It is also quite possible that she did a glance and was not wowed by your presence. So she just ignored you. I do agree that you should brush this off and move on.
LoveLace Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 She obviously changed her mind; and if you met her on a dating website, she probably has other couple of guys she communicating with. It's very easy for someone in that position to change their minds without any particular reason. Move on. If you're still doing online dating, have a couple of girls on your radar before you decide which one you want to move forward with. This is what I was thinking. It's possible that she had another date that same night but she wasn't sure which guy she was going to go with...that's just a broad guess though. Either way, it would have been respectful for her to at least call and cancel, but with online dating, I've found that being courteous tends to go out the window. I think she's hoping that you'll figure out what this means, that she is no longer interested, so shake it off and move on. Even if she did contact you with an excuse, do you really want to date her again? That would be indicating that your accepting of her disrespectful behavior. Trust me that is not a web you want to get caught in.
sultry33 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Been talking to this girl for about a week from a dating website, we meet up yesterday 2pm at a public place, she suggested that before we do anything else just to make sure we like each other, the meet up was for like 30 min as I had other plans, it seemed to go well, I txt her 20 min later asking if she would like to come around for a movie, she said she would love to, told her 6ish she txt me back and said see you then. its now 7am the next morning, she didnt show, never heard anything from her no txts no phone call, I txt her with no reply, rung her phone, it must have been turned off. She was on the dating website about 15min before our date. Im rather confused, 3 hour before the date, she told me shed love to come over, then she doesnt show. shes a shy girl. think maybe you scared her off... 30min date as you was busy... then invite to yours for movie... why not another date? seems way forward to me
JoeNewbie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 think maybe you scared her off... 30min date as you was busy... then invite to yours for movie... why not another date? seems way forward to me Yes I agree. I usually wouldn't invite a girl to my place until the 3rd or 4th date.
Green Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 You may never really know what happened your best shot at seeing her again is to just back off and see if she contacts you and just act like you don't even remember the movie situation... people do this crap sometimes
Author slim255 Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 Got a message from her today at lunch time. "im sorry I didnt show up lastnight. I cant see you again, its complicated. again im sorry." Well at least she messaged me. I messaged back and said "thanks for telling me take care" Strange but oh well, not worth worrying about now.
LoveLace Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Got a message from her today at lunch time. "im sorry I didnt show up lastnight. I cant see you again, its complicated. again im sorry." Well at least she messaged me. I messaged back and said "thanks for telling me take care" Strange but oh well, not worth worrying about now. Well at least she told you something, now you can go on without wondering...but it does sound like maybe another guy was involved here...maybe not, like you said, no reason to worry about it now...
sultry33 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 yea just sing the song .. another one bites the dust lol works for me.. well when i was dating:o at least you know. but for future ref.. if a girl is shy best to not invite them over to yours until they know you better.. can put pressure on, as some see that as lead to sex.. happy dating:bunny:
LoveLace Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I'd suggest planning dates so that you know they can last more than 30 minutes! If your not having fun, it's ok to cut it off early with an excuse; but if you like her, allow for more 1st date time. She may have found it strange that you invited her over after only spending 1/2 hour with her...well, most people would find it strange...
Shygirl15 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Got a message from her today at lunch time. "im sorry I didnt show up lastnight. I cant see you again, its complicated. again im sorry." Well at least she messaged me. I messaged back and said "thanks for telling me take care" Strange but oh well, not worth worrying about now. Duh. Too many people have been dumped this weekend, we might as well call it a Dumping Weekend. It's okay. Move on. Hurts but it's not the end of the world.
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