purplepoodle Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Some of you know my story but for those that don't here's a quick recap: Broke up with him 6 months ago, regretted it immediately, 2 months NC, started talking again, he got engaged to someone else. I have not initiated any contact with him, but he still contacts me once to twice a week. He has been showing up places every so often that he knows I go with my friends that he never ever went to before. He doesn't talk to me when he sees me, just watches me. Very strange. Anyway, does anyone have any insight on what this man wants from me? Like I said, I NEVER initiate contact with him, he contacts me about once or twice a week now.
BCCA Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Just completely ignore him. If I put myself in his shoes, the first thing that comes to mind is that he's rubbing it in because you probably hurt him. He's engaged to some one else, thats that. There is no reason to involve him in your life at all. He's just a bad memory, avoid him.
Author purplepoodle Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 When we talk it's never about me. Just what he wants, needs ect. When he does the staring thing in public, which he's done on 3 different occasions, he's been without his fiancee. The weirdness of that one is what bothers me the most and on those instances I did ignore him. Didn't say hi or anything.
BCCA Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 When we talk it's never about me. Just what he wants, needs ect. When he does the staring thing in public, which he's done on 3 different occasions, he's been without his fiancee. The weirdness of that one is what bothers me the most and on those instances I did ignore him. Didn't say hi or anything. Here is a rule I have created for myself as a result of some of the absolute worst nights of my life: IF you see your ex in a bar, resturant, etc - LEAVE immediately. He's holding back your night, because chances are you're not going to be yourself when it comes to meeting other guys because hes standing right there. Dont let him weild that sort of control over you, its just not fair. And how are you going to feel if the fiance shows up and the start making out or dancing? F that, dont torture yourself. Avoid him like the plague until you've completely moved on.
nowhereman82 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I am a lil disturbed that he is engaged to someone within 6 months of a break up.
Author purplepoodle Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 I mean, if he cares and wants to be friends, I'm all for that. I just don't know if that's what his actions are saying. Unfortunately, when I see him, I'm with a group of friends and didn't drive, so escape isn't that easy. I do plan on avoiding that place now for a while
Jono Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Sounds like he's not over you, is obsessed with you. He's obviously acting strange and irrationally, but again it's cuz he hasn't let you go.
Author purplepoodle Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 I miss him terribly and think about him constantly, but he is with someone else now. Could any of this have anything to do with why I'm not over him yet? I could never tell him this because he gets nasty if I try to talk about anything of substance.
Jono Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I'm sure seeing him all the time is one of the reasons you're not over him. He's obviously got his priorities all messed up if he is with someone else and basically following you around. He sounds really confused, maybe a little messed up. Sounds like you need to get out of contact with him for some time, if you can. Just so you can both start thinking rationally again.
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