carhill Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Im interested to know at what stage men mention marraige in dating? Has anyone mentioned it on a first, second or third date ?? And women has anyone hinted at this early on ? I recall mentioning marriage when I proposed Prior, it was only in the most general of terms, e.g. "I want to get married and have children", etc. as in a discussion of life goals. I was always upfront about that stuff from the beginning with any woman I dated. Didn't see any reason not to be. I always welcomed such discussions from women and still would, if I were single. Honesty is a good thing
JoeNewbie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I was going to write a silly post when I suddenly remembered this girl I dated a few years ago. Date 1: Dinner at a nice restaurant. I drive her back and we both mention how we like each other. Date 2: Hanging out at my place, watching TV, followed by casual dinner. First kiss. Date 3: She spends the weekend at my place. We both say "I love you". Before Date 4, she mentions how she thinks I might be the one she wants to marry. I am stupid enough to say I would gladly marry her. We spend the next month telling each other how we are excited to get married. Of course, she dumped me.
Shygirl15 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Of course, she dumped me. I would have done the same.
JoeNewbie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I would have done the same. It takes experience to realize that a man should not give a woman what she asks for.
Walk Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I'll even kiss her after an ATM. Heck, she'll be one step closer to getting a ring after the ATM. :lmao: Omg. That was great.
Jersey Shortie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 If she and I enjoy it, how is it degrading? Having a good compatible sex life is a good thing, if she and I share similar adventurous sex drives; why not bring the topic of marriage sooner? How many women honestly enjoy ATM? Seriously how many? That's something porn came up with to humilate women. Please tell me what exactly is sexy about sticking your ass covered dick in a girls mouth? That's something that is meant to humilate someone. It takes experience to realize that a man should not give a woman what she asks for. Not on the fourth date you shouldn't!
carhill Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Guess I better get my acronyms straight....I equated ATM with a rim job...oops Probably better to talk about marriage prior to that point....
jerbear Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 How many women honestly enjoy ATM? Seriously how many? That's something porn came up with to humilate women. Please tell me what exactly is sexy about sticking your ass covered dick in a girls mouth? That's something that is meant to humilate someone. If she and I enjoy it, how would it humiliate her? Is sex not part of dating? For the purpose of this thread, like I posted earlier, "She'll be one step closer to getting a ring" which I believe implies marriage. For the purpose of another thread, yes ATM can be viewed a humiliating women but I digress.
Carmen87 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 My boyfriend mentioned it 6 months into dating, however we knew each other 3-4 months prior to our relationship. Mentioning it the first few dates is creepy.
Walk Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I think I mentioned marriage within 2 seconds of first seeing him. My idiot exH was stalking me and the exh (surprise) showed up on my date. So I blurted out "I am NEVER getting married again, EVER!" Saw my exh on our next 4 consecutive dates, and my H and I (as single people dating) talked about marriage and it's inherient problems and pitfalls. My poor hubby had a rough time with me. He's such an incredible guy.
porter218 Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 ok so a hypothetical question e.g "what would your family say to you marrying a person of x race" is or isnt the same as asking "could you marry someone like me ?" Every man I ever dated asked me this question. I think it was more out of curiosity about what type of family I had, not necessarily that they were thinking about marrying me yet...it was usually around the first or second date. It was around 3 months or so that the question was geared towards them specifically. Don't try to read to much into that question other then he is wanting a relationship with you.
djhall Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I would think this depends a lot on your age and how you met. Generally speaking, any direct discussion about marriage in the first several weeks of a relationship would probably be creepy becasuse it is likely to come off as either someone who is completely desperate, excessively needy, or who approaches dating like buying a house... "Lets see, you have two cars and come with furniture, no prior lienholders, generally in good condition, have you had a recent pest inspection and are you willing to consider a fixer-upper?" On the other hand, if you are both older in age, met on a serious dating site like eHarmony or a church singles meeting, etc., I think it is appropriate to discuss the potential for marriage or a LRT early on in at least an indirect fashion in order to determine if the person has long-term-relationship potential before getting too involved. But I wouldn't bring up marriage directly. "Could you see yourself marrying me" is too direct. Something along the lines of, "so... if you found someone who you really thought might be the one for you, do you see yourself getting into a long-term-relationsip at this point or do you still have things you want to do before you settle down?" is what I would recommend.
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