vonerik012 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I agree. I also think many people in our society are depressed, which makes them eat more.
Trialbyfire Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I have no clue. If I had to guess a majority of obese people have a genetic predisposition that is triggered by living in a society with unhealthy, glucose-rich foods. I have a friend who is about sixty pounds overweight and I've witnessed the agonizing struggles he's gone through to lose. He's not lazy. He often walks three or four hours a day and is obsessive about counting calories, but food is such a huge stimulant for him that he keeps breaking down. His father is also fat. He's cried to me on the phone when he slips, and he's gone through periods of deep depression because of it. Food seems to be much more important to him than it is to most people. I mean I like food, but this guy loves food in a way that I can't understand. Many times obesity is environmental. It can run in families due to how they're raised from babyhood onwards. If you start a baby with a reasonable and healthy diet, maintaining this throughout their formative years, studies have found that the child will not grow into an obese adult due to impact on fat cells. This includes exercise and physical activity of some kind. It sounds like your friend is using food as some form of comfort substitute. You might also look to how his parents raised him, potentially with the belief that when depressed, happy, anxious, stressed, food will help.
imstuckinatree3 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 ive been on both ends. About 1.5 years ago i was 6'1 about 290. I got a hernea and am now 6'1 and about 195, certainly not skinny, not too bad. My dating life has not changed much, but i do get checked out a lot flirt with a lot more girls.
Jersey Shortie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 The fat CEO of my exes company was sleeping with every hot woman in the company. Sure, maybe they are all some special unique creatures called "gold diggers", or for women power is more attractive than physique. For men, power is not as important in a female, and physique is much more important. That's too broad a description to be the real truth about male/female attraction dynamics. And I think you watch too many movies. There are many different ways men can excude power. A CEO of a company, is yes, one possible way. But certainly not the only way and sometimes not even the most attractive way to excude power to some women. Infact, just because a man is a CEO of a company, doesn't necessarily make him a strong truly good man. A man who is highly intelligent has power in this. A man that is physically fit and runs, bikes, swims...whatever, has a different kind of power in this. A man that volunteers his time to help others has power in this and so on. While I agree that women are attracted to power in men, because I think the essence of masculinty is strength, power is not only defined by money. And actually, I think there are many weak men that have alot of money but deserve little respect. There are so many different women attracted to different kinds of power. By only illustrating the one dynamic, you have reduced men to cash machines and women to vapid wit-less show dogs. At least you equally have little respect for both sexes.
Trialbyfire Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Oh, and before I forget to mention this, fat cells don't multiply post puberty unless you gain a significant amount of weight. They only get larger.
Jersey Shortie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 What happens to people with fat heads though?
Lizzie60 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 And do you think being over weight affects your relationships in a negative way? TIA I am overweight.. but only one part of my body.. I will never be overweight.. because IMO.. it's a lack of control.. noone gets overweight overnight... I am not especially attracted by overweight people.. but I have to say that my last ex was and I fell head over heels for him... he had a beautiful face.. and great personality.. Obese people are a turn-off... I think people with weight problem should consult a psychologist to help them find the reason why they over-eat.. diets do NOT help unless they know why they eat as much..
KinAZ Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 TBF, men and women are different in many ways, and you should embrace that, instead of fight against it. The fat CEO of my exes company was sleeping with every hot woman in the company. Sure, maybe they are all some special unique creatures called "gold diggers", or for women power is more attractive than physique. For men, power is not as important in a female, and physique is much more important. You don't see men dreaming of sleeping with their overweight 50 yr old female boss. I've known a couple of BIG girls who had better sex lives than you probably do. Haha! But, much like the obese CEO, it was probably for all the wrong reasons. Then again... there are men and women in the world who simply like 'em big. I'm not super model skinny, and I still wouldn't go for a very heavy guy... regardless of your sexist blabberings. No, not even a very successful one. Yes, there are women out there (maybe golddiggers, maybe not) who would. Just as an FYI... even with the babyfat I still had guys hot on my trail. To each his own, you know?
Lizzie60 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 very few men say that they like the BBW... but if men were THAT picky .. they just wouldn't date.. cause in average, most women have extra weight..
LovehateLove Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 I had sex with a woman you'd call fat and she was the best woman I have ever been with. That said, I was stoned and drunk and was feeling really horny and would have probably rubbed myself up against a giant brillo pad, if given half the chance. It was a pleasant surprise when I was actually enjoying myself. I wouldn't do it again, because when I am sober, because fat people look herrendous. Women tend to be more overweight than men, especially those with big titties, they are usually a half- one stone overweight.
Balthazar Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Insecure men tend to be afraid of women with power. Confident men aren't. You can bet Hillary Clinton gets offers and so does Angela Merkel. Both probably get offers as much as Ron Paul... Hillary may get offers, but I doubt its from men...... To say that men are attracted by a women's power is simply incorrect. We are attracted by her beauty, youth and personality. Other factors are secondary. But why are we telling the women this? They know this stuff! I am 6'2", 210 pounds. I need to lose about 10 pounds.... to be lean. But I'm OK as is, although BMI says I'm overweight....
LovehateLove Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Hillary may get offers, but I doubt its from men...... Hilary's daughter doesn't even attract men, what an ugly family.
stoopid_guy Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Thoughts... For the people who are overweight: It's going to turn some potential mates off. So is your race, so is your hair, so is your personality, and a lot of other things that make you "you." Don't worry about people who aren't attracted to you. Focus on the ones who look at and appreciate you as a whole person, 'cause that's what you are. Stay or get healthy for youself, but "healthy" doesn't mean "skinny." Worry more about your blood pressure, cholesterol, strength, and stamina. For those who are turned off by overweight people: Don't go out with them. Simple. That leaves more choices for those of us who don't consider weight to be a big deal.
zicke Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Hilary's daughter doesn't even attract men, what an ugly family. Bill must be Jewish judging by the size of his nose. Wow! Just Wow. Racist much?
Trialbyfire Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Hillary may get offers, but I doubt its from men...... To say that men are attracted by a women's power is simply incorrect. We are attracted by her beauty, youth and personality. Other factors are secondary. But why are we telling the women this? They know this stuff! I am 6'2", 210 pounds. I need to lose about 10 pounds.... to be lean. But I'm OK as is, although BMI says I'm overweight.... While you personally aren't attracted to power, there are men who are attracted by power. How can you possibly know that all men are wired exactly like you? Truth be told, based on your posts, I can guarantee that all men aren't wired like you!
Jersey Shortie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Hilary's daughter doesn't even attract men, what an ugly family. Bill must be Jewish judging by the size of his nose. I actually think Hilary Clinton is a pretty attractive woman at her age. And I think their daughter is pretty. I don't think people know how to be objective about true beauty sometimes and instead buy into only one type of beauty such as we see in men's magazines or Cosmo. As for big noses.... I infact like guys with big noses and like Jewish guys. And I am as far away from being Jewish myself. Blond, Irish, Polish and raised a Catholic. To each their own. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. For the people who are overweight: It's going to turn some potential mates off. So is your race, so is your hair, so is your personality, and a lot of other things that make you "you." Don't worry about people who aren't attracted to you. Focus on the ones who look at and appreciate you as a whole person, 'cause that's what you are. Stay or get healthy for youself, but "healthy" doesn't mean "skinny." Worry more about your blood pressure, cholesterol, strength, and stamina. I think this is one of the more wise posts in this thread. I totally agree!
Balthazar Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 While you personally aren't attracted to power, there are men who are attracted by power. How can you possibly know that all men are wired exactly like you? Truth be told, based on your posts, I can guarantee that all men aren't wired like you! You would be surprised at how many of us men think alike TBF. The thing is a whole generation of men has been brainwashed into adopting Western female philosophy. Of course, the media is mostly to blame. I express myself and my desires freely, and do not wish in forms of political correctness. I am not here to massage your ears; If think you may not agree, but you should be cool with that. CHeers,
Trialbyfire Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 You would be surprised at how many of us men think alike TBF. The thing is a whole generation of men has been brainwashed into adopting Western female philosophy. Of course, the media is mostly to blame. I express myself and my desires freely, and do not wish in forms of political correctness. I am not here to massage your ears; If think you may not agree, but you should be cool with that. CHeers, This has nothing to do with political correctness and everything to do with personal experience. As an ex-female Exec, I do know for fact that some men are drawn to power. That this isn't you or your type, doesn't mean it encompasses all of mankind. I don't make claims that all men or even the majority are drawn.
Balthazar Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 This has nothing to do with political correctness and everything to do with personal experience. As an ex-female Exec, I do know for fact that some men are drawn to power. That this isn't you or your type, doesn't mean it encompasses all of mankind. I don't make claims that all men or even the majority are drawn. Actually, it has a lot to do with political correctness. In the last few months, I have seen the most preposterous things posted by women. It is as some women really believe the stuff they read in magazines and see on tv and the movies. Now you state we are attracted to women with power. And you give examples like Hillary and Angela. I don't think even convicts who have been incarcerated for 20 years could be attracted to either of the above women. My man Bill should be awarded a medal(Now Monica is another case;that's one fine,juicy woman!). Ok, some men may be attracted by power. But I still gotta say, most men are attracted by a fine set of juggs(which from what I hear, most women on LS possess). Going back to the thread, I need to lose about 5 to 10 pounds... CHeers,
Trialbyfire Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Actually, it has a lot to do with political correctness. In the last few months, I have seen the most preposterous things posted by women. It is as some women really believe the stuff they read in magazines and see on tv and the movies. Now you state we are attracted to women with power. And you give examples like Hillary and Angela. I don't think even convicts who have been incarcerated for 20 years could be attracted to either of the above women. Ok, some men may be attracted by power. But I still gotta say, most men are attracted by a fine set of juggs. CHeers, Come back once you've had the experience of being a female Exec and tell me otherwise. Beyond that, what you're saying is nothing but air. No doubt some men are attracted to breasts. You'll also find men attracted to arse and/or legs. Some men are attracted to gorgeous faces. Some men are attracted to power. Some men are attracted to money. Some men are attracted to long hair. Attraction is a sum of certain parts, of where it could be solely superficial or only partially superficial. Not all men are shallow or have issues with women being equals.
Balthazar Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 Come back once you've had the experience of being a female Exec and tell me otherwise. Beyond that, what you're saying is nothing but air. No doubt some men are attracted to breasts. You'll also find men attracted to arse and/or legs. Some men are attracted to gorgeous faces. Some men are attracted to power. Some men are attracted to money. Some men are attracted to long hair. I beg to differ. WHat you are saying is air. You are sitting there, telling a man what he finds attractive. Why don't you ask some men on LS if they are attracted to power? Let's see what they say. I'm game if you are....
Trialbyfire Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I beg to differ. WHat you are saying is air. You are sitting there, telling a man what he finds attractive. Why don't you ask some men on LS if they are attracted to power? Let's see what they say. I'm game if you are.... Gawd, you're as bad as von, speaking from an assumptive position of all men. Once again, come back when you've had the personal experience of being a female Exec...
BUTTAFLYH Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 I can't believe some of the things I've read on here. I am overweight...and more than just a few pounds. Like the one girl said about being 5'5 and 135. You consider that overweight? OMG gimme an effin' break! That is so ridiculous. Some of the things posted on here are so insulting, sad and soooooooooooooooo shallow. Like the person who said all overweight ppl should see a therapist and find out why they eat so much. You can't judge every overweight person thinking all they do is sit around and eat all day and sit on their a.sses. I happen to have a medical issue that contributes to weight gain and it has been a struggle all of my life, while I watch ppl much smaller than me eat waaaaayyyyy more than I do and not gain weight at all. And on top of that, a lot of them are way more inactive than I am. I eat sensibly and I workout, while a lot of them do neither. Get a little education(and might I add a little common sense) before you start judging ppl solely on the way they look. You never know what kind of issues that person has and to think they are like some social rejects or just soooo unattractive/unloveable b/c of it is so freakin' shallow. And for all of you who talked about not getting dates b/c of it and all of that, I have NEVER had an issue getting dates. I have been in long term relationships with very good looking men and happen to be in one right now. And yes, he is fine. Get the f.u.c.k. over yourselves.
BUTTAFLYH Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 The whole thread is shallow, Buttaflyh. Yea, you're right girl. It just grinded my gears when I read it. I actually usually agree with most of your posts shygirl.
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