hecallsmepumpkin Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I've met someone and maybe it's too early to tell but I'm not use to this "dating" thing. It's been awhile since I was here and the last time I was here... I was involved with someone (not physically but emotional) who was with someone else. I had put an end to it and I haven't spoken to that guy again. In the last couple of years I have a string of bad luck in dating... I was in a serious relationship for 3 years and my ex became a unsupportive jerk and really hurt me in the end. A couple of weeks ago I met this guy through a friend. I actually saw his picture on her myspace. He is her boyfriends friend and I told my friend very casually that I thought he was attractive. She took it upon herself to tell him and he messaged me on myspace saying hello. I didn't think we would meet in person for awhile but he actually worked at the dealership that I bring my car into. I was scheduled to go in for service 2 weeks after we started talking and he said to stop by and say hi when I was there. So when I was there I met him for the first time and I think there was instant attraction. He asked me out right there for coffee after he was finished work that night and I agreed. We ended up going for movie afterwards as well. He didn't talk to me the next day but called me the day after to ask if I was free on that Friday night because he wanted to take me for dinner. After that dinner we talked everyday until the following week where we watched two movies in a row during the week and went shopping the third day together. I was going to a work function yesterday and I told him about it and he asked whether I needed a ride or not? I said no it's OK I would probably take a cab in case I decide to drink and he insisted on taking me and picking me up! Through it all he's been a sweetheart. Hasn't tried to kiss me or pressure me into anything that I wasn't ready for. But I think I'm starting to like him and just wanting to see where I should go from here?
TipsForDating Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I think you already have all the answers you are looking for - he obviously likes you and has respect for you. Which is really lovely - nurture the possibilities of this relationship rather than being afraid of what has happened in the past - the past is called the past for a very good reason. I would however, caution, on having too much time together in the early stages - remember you had a life before you met him and most men - although very enthusiastic in the initial stages of a relationship - really do appreciate a woman who has her own stuff to do as well - relationships can "burn-out" prematurely and die due to over exposure to each other - keep the mystery and the flame will last longer. Good luck, I hope this helps.
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