jgaz3124 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 My boyfriend and I just broke, well the breakup has been coming for awhile, but it still hurts. I have decided to go NC because I really need to move on and heal. He wants to be friends and got really mad about me needing to have some space to heal as he has already healed from the breakup. He has told me that there is no chance for a future for us. So why is it so important for him to stay friends with me? Has anyone been in this situation or have any advice for me?
Melrapuo Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Completely cut off all contact. He made his decision to leave you. The moment he did that, you have absolutely no obligation to him, nor do you have to do anything he wants or says. NOBODY, and I do mean nobody, should be able to make you do something you do not want. You have control of your own life, not him. If you want NC, then you do NC for you, not for him. He has no right to tell you what you want or should do. And don't care if he gets mad or not, because he gets mad knowing that he can't control you. Can't have his cake and eat it too, so don't give it to him.
wareagle Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Yes I have been in your situation. My ex and I broke up many times over a year and half, and each time we kept in contact via text or phone calls not to mention we worked together so we seen each other everyday. If I would have found this forum a during those times I would not be where I am now!! My advice and you will probably hear it over and over and over again is No contact no contact no contact!!!!!!! Do whatever you have to do to make this happen!! Delete him from every aspect of you life!! Take him out of your phone, delete him from facebook, myspace, delete his email, get rid of everything and anything that you could contact him through!! Trust me!! If you want to move on and heal your heart this is the best thing you can do for yourself!!! The only person who matters now is YOU!!!
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