wareagle Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Ok so today a friend from work tells me that someone came up to her and said that my ex is saying that I have been going around telling people that I am saying telling everyone that the reason we broke up is that she was being physically abusive to me!!! WTF!!! First of all WE didn't break up SHE ended things with me to pursue another guy, second of all I have never ever said she was physically abusive to me!! I have said that she was emotionally abusive to me and that is no lie!! I have never been anything but truthfull when asked what happened between us. Only my true friends know what really when down in detail. It's been almost six months now of NC on my part, and probably two months of her not trying to contact me and hurt me. My question is why and where did she come up with this bull****? Was it a missunderstanding on her part? Is she making this up? I just don't understand where she would come up with this? Anyone have any thoughts on this?
foxh1234 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Ok so today a friend from work tells me that someone came up to her and said that my ex is saying that I have been going around telling people that I am saying telling everyone that the reason we broke up is that she was being physically abusive to me!!! WTF!!! First of all WE didn't break up SHE ended things with me to pursue another guy, second of all I have never ever said she was physically abusive to me!! I have said that she was emotionally abusive to me and that is no lie!! I have never been anything but truthfull when asked what happened between us. Only my true friends know what really when down in detail. It's been almost six months now of NC on my part, and probably two months of her not trying to contact me and hurt me. My question is why and where did she come up with this bull****? Was it a missunderstanding on her part? Is she making this up? I just don't understand where she would come up with this? Anyone have any thoughts on this? Hi War, it could be a few things, it could be a misunderstanding or a mis-quote, it could also be your ex trying to stir the pot and get you mad so you will contact her, who knows. If I were you I would continue NC and forget it. What she says or does has nothing to do with you really. If she is looking for a reaction, don't give her any. Just my 2 cents though.
MalachiX Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 It sounds like a mis-understanding. When hear the word "abusive" people always assume the physical. I wouldn't worry about it. That said, if you're been telling people your EX was "emotionally abusive" it's not a surprise that mis-understandings arise or she gets mad. In general, it's usually healthier in a social circle to let your relationship and the reasons for your break-up remain your business and hers. I understand venting to close friends and needing them for support but saying more than, "it didn't work out" to casual friends can often spell trouble if you guys still live in the same place or losely share a circle of friends.
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