Ariadne Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I am mostly concerned that she might think I find her unattractive. She couldn't get me up but I came anyways when I took care of myself. I was too much in "sex mode" to realize it might hurt her feelings after the fact. I am sure that things would be different if we become comfortable and in sync. Don't worry about it. Women know that.
Jilly Bean Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 OMG - what a nightmare. First off Guy, her telling you you are "so big!" is a line. It's something that a lot of women will say, as we know men are so sensitive about the size issue. I have been with guys who were hung like cashews, and they told me their ex told them it was the biggest EVER (thanks for that, sister!). lol Secondly, if I get this straight, she was not able to get you off from giving you head, so you straddled her, jerked off and came on her tummy? Guy - I can't figure out why you are even asking about this. If the first time you are with a woman you have erectile issues WHILE she is trying to pleasure you, and then you JO on her like she's a blow-up doll, do NOT expect to ever see her again. You showed her you have little respect for her, no interest in her pleasure, and also do not find her sexually stimulating. I'd learn from this, and just move on. At this point, any explanation or emailing is idiotic.
Author guy.lepage Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 My posts have only highlighted the "bare facts". In reality, we talked quite a bit during our encounter - and I didn't just jerk off on her like an idiot. We were both enjoying the session. And before everyone jumps to conclusions, she did call me back and wants to get together for a coffee tonight. While we were on the phone, she asked me whether I find her attractive. I seized the opportunity to tell her she's really beautiful, that I think she is elegant and sexy and that she is by far the loveliest lady I have seen in a VERY long time. Now, I exagerated a little bit as I think she is moderately good looking - but I am determined to do everything that I can to convince her the problem wasn't her - it was me.
Angel1111 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 While we were on the phone, she asked me whether I find her attractive. I seized the opportunity to tell her she's really beautiful, that I think she is elegant and sexy and that she is by far the loveliest lady I have seen in a VERY long time. Now, I exagerated a little bit as I think she is moderately good looking - but I am determined to do everything that I can to convince her the problem wasn't her - it was me. You were doing great until you exagerrated (which is basically a euphamism for lying). Why do guys do this crap? Anyway, as I said before, I suspected that you thought you weren't attracted to her. Well, I'm glad you're going out with her again. Hope it works out!
Jilly Bean Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Now, I exagerated a little bit as I think she is moderately good looking - but I am determined to do everything that I can to convince her the problem wasn't her - it was me. So then this is really about you needing to prove you don't have plumbing issues, correct? Sounds like that's all you care about. Boorish, really.
Angel1111 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 You were doing great until you exagerrated (which is basically a euphamism for lying). Why do guys do this crap? Anyway, as I said before, I suspected that you thought you weren't attracted to her. Well, I'm glad you're going out with her again. Hope it works out! Correction: I suspected that SHE thought you weren't attracted to her. Man, I can't type these days....
Shygirl15 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Okay so you've been granted a second chance, I hope you won't mess it up again . Wish you all the best on your date tonite. Hope everything goes well.
Tomcat33 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Yeah come back and tell us all how it went this time...now pressure or anything.
2sunny Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Yeah come back and tell us all how it went this time...now pressure or anything. :laugh::lmao:
LionLover Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Guy, I think you should use your “draft letter” as your own vows to her if you two get married. I’ll sweeten it up a bit.. My darling, I hope you're enjoying our wedding day. I had a really good time with you the first day we met. I thought you were really smart and attractive and I was so hard while we made out in the parking lot.... I could not fulfill my "mandate" on that night, but I knew if we ever got to our honeymoon, that I’d have the chance to show you just how beautiful and sexy you really are. Please know, I always became aroused everytime I thought about your mouth around my shaft that night. It was such a beautiful & tender moment for me. I will always aim to please you, sometimes on your face, other times on your stomach. But, in more romantic terms, I will always want to **** you really hard until you beg me to stop. Take care my love....you will certainly need to for what's coming on our honeymoon.... :D:D:D:D:D:D
paddington bear Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Ok, I know I said this thread made me laugh, but I'm now feeling sorry for guy.lepage - haven't we all been there with the sexual encounters that haven't gone as planned on both sides? I got caught looking at my watch once... If she's still calling him, well then I don't think he's got much to worry about. Her not allowing him to touch her could also have caused problems - it's hard to perform sometimes if you sense tension or if the other person isn't comfortable. I would say most women have experienced a few sexual quirks along the way and are willing to cut a guy some slack. If a guy comes too soon on first couple of encounters I take it as a compliment...if it continues, well then, Huston we have a problem. The biggest problem now guy.lepage is that you're obsessing over this incident, trying to prove that you can do better and as someone mentioned earlier, if you worry too much the next time will be fraught with worry and the same thing might happen again, so just relax about the whole thing and if there is a next time, why not just do a bit of kissing and cuddling until you both feel at ease with one another to take it further.
Shygirl15 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 :lmao:!! OMG, LionLover, that's it. I have had enough for this weekend. Between FrankBlack's thread of yesterday and this, I just can't take it anymore.
rod_in_gtown Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Between FrankBlack's thread of yesterday and this, I just can't take it anymore. That's what she said...
Shygirl15 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 That's what she said... You must be watching 'The Office', huh?
rod_in_gtown Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 You must be watching 'The Office', huh? Oh no, sadly I just got dumped, I just posted a new thread. I felt the need to be sophomoric and childish... I need some serious TLC
Jersey Shortie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Maybe this time she will let you jerk off on her shoe.
Gold Pile Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Send her a text or email pic of you with a boner. Title it "thinking of you" Text: send her one asking permission to send her an adult pic. Email: "warning adult" in subject line.
djhall Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Maybe this time she will let you jerk off on her shoe. That comment is going to require a thread search... there's gotta be a good thread in here somewhere explaining that.
Toasted Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Maybe this time she will let you jerk off on her shoe. LMAO - that is way too funny Jersey!
Author guy.lepage Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 I had coffee with my date last night and the conversation was great. We then went out for drinks and the conversation got even better. On several occasions I told her how pretty and beautiful and sexy she is. She blushed quite a bit so I knew I had said the right words. It was getting pretty late and she invited me over to her place again. I remembered the advice I got on this board (not to make things too sexual) so I told her I had a great time and that I'd love to see her again in a few days - but I had to go home as it was getting late. I thought she'd be happy (and challenged) that sex wasn't the only thing on my mind. But she became insecure and said that I did not desire her, which was totally wrong. I tried to convince her that I was totally into her but wanted to take things slow as I really liked her. She insisted that I don't find her sexually attractive. I took her in my arms and held her real close - then I let feel that my dick was actually hard. Then I kissed her good night and said that I would call her. I think I scored some good points last night.
Jersey Shortie Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 That comment is going to require a thread search... there's gotta be a good thread in here somewhere explaining that. No, don't waste your time lol. It was just a reference to him masturbating on her other body part in this thread. LMAO - that is way too funny Jersey! Thanks Toasted. Guy, sounds like you did better. And much more gentleman-like.
Author guy.lepage Posted September 1, 2008 Author Posted September 1, 2008 Jesus Christ I think men can never win at this game. I received a text message from her saying I "obviously am not into her" and that we should "perhaps stop seeing each other". She said that I didn't go to her place yesterday because I am not attracted to her and that was just a gentle way to dump her. What am I supposed to do now? This is driving me insane!
Tomcat33 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Jesus Christ I think men can never win at this game. I received a text message from her saying I "obviously am not into her" and that we should "perhaps stop seeing each other". She said that I didn't go to her place yesterday because I am not attracted to her and that was just a gentle way to dump her. What am I supposed to do now? This is driving me insane! Well what do you expect? You go out with her the first time it turns out to be a total fiasco, you can't get it up but you jerk it on her stomach, you proceed to pour your heart out in an email then she accepts another date things are going great she invites you back to her place and you say "no you want to take it slow?" Hello you already came on her stomach, what take it slow? She sees you are either playing games or you really DO have some kind of erectile problem in which case can you really blame her for not wanting anything more? She is not reading all of this we are seeing here, she just has A + B to work with and that's what she is feeling on her end. Who adviced you take it slow now!?!?
Shygirl15 Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 Who adviced you take it slow now!?!? True. Who advised you to take it slow, if anything, that was your chance to clear up the mess you did the other day. I mean, SHE invited you!! And you rejected?? Of course you're not into to her.
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