Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 I know that sounds picky but I'm just giving you my perspective as a chick and putting myself in those shoes. Thank you - I guess I should re-do my entire letter then... Either that or I could call her. I'll let you know...
Jersey Shortie Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Geez, I totally missed that part about jerking off on her stomach..yeah that's kind of weird dude. I don't even know what to make of that. You coulnd't have sex with her but you could jerk off on her?
refurb Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Nice job guy! Are you going to forget to mention that you asked her to bring her sister next time? This HAS to be a joke. A freakin' hilarious one, but a joke none the less. RF
Author guy.lepage Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 Geez, I totally missed that part about jerking off on her stomach..yeah that's kind of weird dude. I don't even know what to make of that. You coulnd't have sex with her but you could jerk off on her? Well, she didn't handle it properly and I really wanted to climax, so I straddled her and jerked off (while she masturbated as well). It felt like the right thing to do.
Author guy.lepage Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 I called her at around 6 pm today but she didn't answer. I got her voicemail but hung up. She has call display so I figured she'd call me back pretty quickly. Comes 9 pm and still nothing. I call again but still no answer. I left a nice and humourous message, asking her to call me back. She actually called me back about an hour ago and we talked for 20-25 minutes. I explained to her that I usually get nervous when I REALLY like the girl - and that what happened was actually a good sign of my high level of interest. She said she was ok with it and not to worry. I asked her whether she was free to hang out next week and she said she'd think about it. I was glad she'd at least consider it.
Jersey Shortie Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Well, she didn't handle it properly and I really wanted to climax, so I straddled her and jerked off (while she masturbated as well). It felt like the right thing to do. You didn't even know how to handle it properly! The girl doesn't know what to do so she gets a shot of sperm all over her stomach?? And they say romance isn't dead. I kind of understand better why she isn't so eager to go out with you again. No offense.
Ariadne Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 She actually called me back about an hour ago and we talked for 20-25 minutes. I explained to her that I usually get nervous when I REALLY like the girl. She'll probably go out with you again. I mean, after doing all that stuff.. Maybe she was a bit embarrassed because of what happened, she had a bit of wine in her and things got carried away and then she works with you even.
almost famous Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 The problem is you made this all sexual. Don't jump into bed on the first date. That is possible, you know? Now she doesn't want you, ED or not, because you have made it all about using her for sex.
rod_in_gtown Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I've been there and it sucks. I generally have a hard time getting it up the first time I'm physical with a new woman, I don't think it's an actual ED problem but mostly a psychological thing. Performance anxiety if you will. What I do (and I actually mean it) is tell them that I don't thing we should have sex the first time we make out, it gives me time to feel at ease with her and it also allows me to not be worried about my performance the first time. However, the last time it happened to me, it was twice in a row, the first time we didn't get undressed and I don't think she realized I wasn't fully erect, but the second time I had a few drinks and was unable to get it hard enough for penetration. I really liked this girl so I ended up buying viagra online, the place I used gave me a doctor's consultation over the phone. I did end up making an appointment with a local Urologist to talk about it and he ended up prescribing it, which ended up allowing my rx insurance to pay mostof it (viagra is EXPENSIVE). I've only used it once and it worked GREAT!, better be safe than sorry, I always say.
torranceshipman Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Lol!!!!!!:laugh: Just don't ever pull moves like that again, ever! And don't ever send an email like that either! I doubt there'll be another date...
paddington bear Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I'm sorry, but this whole thread has made me laugh so much. I think she's not that interested in you - was it because you couldn't get hard, or because you came on her stomach....? Who knows, maybe it was something else entirely so stop worrying about it and move on. As for your email.... Eternity was in our lips and eyes, Bliss in our brows' bent; none our parts so poor But was a race of heaven. compared to: I would really want to please you as well! I want to **** you really hard until you beg me to stop! And they say romance is dead.
Adunaphel Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I called her at around 6 pm today but she didn't answer. I got her voicemail but hung up. She has call display so I figured she'd call me back pretty quickly. Comes 9 pm and still nothing. I call again but still no answer. I left a nice and humourous message, asking her to call me back. She actually called me back about an hour ago and we talked for 20-25 minutes. I explained to her that I usually get nervous when I REALLY like the girl - and that what happened was actually a good sign of my high level of interest. She said she was ok with it and not to worry. I asked her whether she was free to hang out next week and she said she'd think about it. I was glad she'd at least consider it. I am glad to know she called you back, it sounds like you handled the conversation well. What you told her sounds nice, unlike the letter (which would have likely offended or embarassed many women), I hope you get another date and things go smooth.
BlueEyedGirl Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I only get as sexual as you described on the first date with guys I don't want a relationship with. Maybe she feels the same way.
Walk Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I wouldn't consider dating you again for the simple fact of... where's MY pleasure in all this. Sounds like she spent a fair bit of time trying to get you off. Then what did you do?? You let her get herself off. Hahahahahah! I'd dump your ass for that. Why bother getting involved with a man who is ONLY concerned about his own sexual satisfaction. You couldn't spend 5 minutes getting her off. Wow. Sad, and pathetic. This was all about you man. EVEN if you had had ED, even if you could NEVER get it up... if you'd spent even 2% of your energy on HER pleasure then she would've been beating down your door to see you again. You were selfish. Selfish with a captial S. Stop calling this girl. You aren't interested in her, your male pride was dented and you want to prove that you aren't a limp d*ck. That's all you want to prove. You don't care about her pleasure or her orgasm... Stop calling her. Stop contacting her. Go hire a prostitute. ugh..
Shygirl15 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 No, c'mon Walk. Perhaps, he just didn't know what to do. I'm sure all these advices will help him for next time. But I agree, the whole cumming on her stomach thing was ridiculous :lmao:
Author guy.lepage Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 I wouldn't consider dating you again for the simple fact of... where's MY pleasure in all this. Sounds like she spent a fair bit of time trying to get you off. Then what did you do?? You let her get herself off. Hahahahahah! I'd dump your ass for that. Why bother getting involved with a man who is ONLY concerned about his own sexual satisfaction. You couldn't spend 5 minutes getting her off. Wow. Sad, and pathetic. This was all about you man. EVEN if you had had ED, even if you could NEVER get it up... if you'd spent even 2% of your energy on HER pleasure then she would've been beating down your door to see you again. You were selfish. Selfish with a captial S. Stop calling this girl. You aren't interested in her, your male pride was dented and you want to prove that you aren't a limp d*ck. That's all you want to prove. You don't care about her pleasure or her orgasm... Stop calling her. Stop contacting her. Go hire a prostitute. ugh.. Before you call me selfish, you should know that she didn't want me to go down on her. Hell, she didn't want me to finger her or rub her clit. She definitely had some intimacy issues. Hopefully I'll have a chance to try again. Incidentally, she called me this morning. My phone was on vibration so I didn't answer. I tried calling her back but no answer. I think she still thinks about me.
Author guy.lepage Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 No, c'mon Walk. Perhaps, he just didn't know what to do. I'm sure all these advices will help him for next time. But I agree, the whole cumming on her stomach thing was ridiculous :lmao: I know... But I really wanted to cum and she almost insisted that I take care of myself. It turned her on to see me cum.
Angel1111 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I had a guy tell me that he was so afraid that things wouldn't go well between us the first time we made love that he almost couldn't do it. That really shocked me but it was also kind of flattering. I can see where if you felt that way and had alcohol, it could have that effect. You probably need to explain it to her. If she's rejecting you because of this incident, then she's either being really harsh or is thinking that you weren't turned on by her.
soserious1 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 We actually went to her pad so it was me who had to bail out of there... I guess what made it worse is that I jerked off for two minutes and came on her stomach. Maybe that's why she took it personal? Also, she did have an orgasm as I let her masturbate next to me. you jerked off onto her like she was a cum rag and then you "let" her masturbate next to you to get her own orgasm? I wouldn't want to see you again either.
Walk Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Before you call me selfish, you should know that she didn't want me to go down on her. You started the thread saying alcohol put a damper on your ability to achieve orgasm. You said you were "numbed". I don't know where to start on this one... I'll re-post your own words below. Maybe seeing it might make something click with you. I'm not saying you're a bad guy... but your actions came off as selfish. You act as though your needs were more important then hers. And now you've switched from how the alcohol was the issue in your non-performance, to how SHE didn't service you right. I kept mentioning anal sex ... I think I'll suggest that we do NOT drink prior to having sex and that I put on a porn movie? I guess what made it worse is that I jerked off for two minutes and came on her stomach. I let her masturbate next to me I knew it was a bad idea but I wanted the release so bad! She didn't handle it properly and I really wanted to climax, so I straddled her and jerked off But I really wanted to cum and she almost insisted that I take care of myself. It turned her on to see me cum She definitely had some intimacy issues. Almost is not the same as "She insisted". What does 'she almost insisted' mean anyway? I think you had a woman who was happy to see you satisfied. I don't feel you were very interested in her satisfaction. Therefore, your actions appear selfish. You as a person may not be selfish, but your actions in this situation appear selfish.
Walk Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I know... But I really wanted to cum and she almost insisted that I take care of myself. It turned her on to see me cum. What does ALMOST insisted mean? Second time you've used that word "almost" towards this.
rod_in_gtown Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Eternity was in our lips and eyes, Bliss in our brows' bent; none our parts so poor But was a race of heaven. Damn bear! that sounds a little Shakespearean. I know because it confuses me as it does when I read most of his plays. I think she would give him a second chance if only to see if there's another side to his stomach-cumming, banging-her-until-she-begs-to-stop side.
Author guy.lepage Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 Almost is not the same as "She insisted". What does 'she almost insisted' mean anyway? I think you had a woman who was happy to see you satisfied. I don't feel you were very interested in her satisfaction. Therefore, your actions appear selfish. You as a person may not be selfish, but your actions in this situation appear selfish. Listen, I am not going to report every single line of our conversation to this board like some people do. She encouraged me to jerk off, so I did. I wanted to please her but she didn't let me. That doesn't make me a selfish person. She was turned on by the fact that I straddled her and came on her. That doesn't make me a selfish person.
Ariadne Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Listen, I am not going to report every single line of our conversation to this board like some people do. She encouraged me to jerk off, so I did. I wanted to please her but she didn't let me. That doesn't make me a selfish person. She was turned on by the fact that I straddled her and came on her. That doesn't make me a selfish person. Yeah, I don't get it when someone does a sexual act, which is something very intimate between two people that you do in the spur of the moment. And then someone comes around and says how it "should have been" and how that sexual act "was wrong and selfish." Wth?!!?
Author guy.lepage Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 I am mostly concerned that she might think I find her unattractive. She couldn't get me up but I came anyways when I took care of myself. I was too much in "sex mode" to realize it might hurt her feelings after the fact. I am sure that things would be different if we become comfortable and in sync.
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