guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 I finally managed to get a date with my hot co-worker. I took her to a tapas restaurant and we had a great time. There was a 50% discount on wine bottles and we ended up drinking quite a bit. On our way out, she went to the ladies room. When she came back, we started to kiss passionately. We went to the parking lot where we made out for what seemed like forever. I was really hard and ready for sex. We went to her place and made out again. But when she started to give me head, I just couldn't get it up anymore. She kept trying for several minutes but there was simply nothing she could do. I was attracted by her but couldn't feel much down there. She was quite nice about it and we remained in bed and talked for a while. Since then, I've e-mailed her a few times, asking her how she is doing, but she hardly ever replies. When I asked her whether she wanted to hang out again, she said she was busy with work. Was she really busy? Could it be she no longer likes me?
xpaperxcutx Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 :lmao: How does that make you have erectile dysfunction again? You could've just had a whiskey dick.
Tomcat33 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 You could've just had a whiskey dick. sorry that was funny! Guy: So what do you think happened is this something that happens a lot to you?
Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 Guy: So what do you think happened is this something that happens a lot to you? I must've been hard for like two hours before we got to her apartment. I guess I was nervous and had too much to drink. I don't want her to think that I'm not attracted to her!
Shygirl15 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 :lmao:!! Another one here! Sorry. Yeah, that's a completely turn off for her. Yep, been there before. But how comes you failed to get it up if you were so excited about her?
2sunny Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 she may have taken the whiskey dick situation personally - as interpreting that to mean that she doesn't turn you on. if she was frustrated then she may not want to go back for more rejection - no matter how much she likes you. on a side note - next time be aware of what that amount of alcohol will lead to - or more importantly - not lead to...
Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 :lmao:!! Another one here! Sorry. Yeah, that's a completely turn off for her. Yep, been there before. But how comes you failed to get it up if you were so excited about her? I think I was excited for too long without getting relief. Should I write her a letter saying how she is sexually attractive to me, how I am sorry and how I actually really want to have sex with her? I began writing a draft and I might send it off to her.
Tomcat33 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 I must've been hard for like two hours before we got to her apartment. I guess I was nervous and had too much to drink. I don't want her to think that I'm not attracted to her! Ok that makes PERFECT sense!! I can totally see that happening especially if there was significant amount of drinking and anticlimactic foreplay. I wanted to get a sense of whether this happened to you all the time, or if there was something deeper going on that night, since you did title the thread how do I convince her I don't have ED. It sounds like you may have blown your changes with her not because of what happened to you but because she is so insecure she cannot get past what happened to you and took it so personally. Think about that, do you really want to date a woman that is that insecure and easily rocked by a first time sexual encounter that went less than perfect? It says more about her than it does about you. I wouldn't push this, what can you possibly do now email her and explain things? That would be really odd I think...but if you want her bad enough I suppose you can try that!?!? I just don't know how that would come off though...the more you explain it after she has shows disinterest the more it will look like you really do have ED and are trying to overcompensate. See what I mean?
Shygirl15 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 I think I was excited for too long without getting relief. Should I write her a letter saying how she is sexually attractive to me, how I am sorry and how I actually really want to have sex with her? I began writing a draft and I might send it off to her.[/quote Good idea. An explanation is important; she probably took it personally. I know I did take it personally and avoided him completely. Can't you call her instead?
Tomcat33 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Most women know and understand long play and excessive alcohol can lead to malfunction, if she is taking this so personally she either not interested or too insecure, either way what's the point? The best sex is rarely the first time, it is always odd the first time and as you become more comfortable with each other it becomes perfect! Who writes off a guy because of that? You were hard for two hours prior to that it's not like you a cold fish the whole time..
Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 Ok here's my draft. Let me know what you think. Hope you're enjoying your long weekend. I had a really good time with you the other day and hope we can hang out again some time soon. I think you are really smart and attractive. I was so hard while we made out in the parking lot and became a bit nervous when we got to your apartment. Sorry I could not fulfill my "mandate" on that night but please be assured I think you are really beautiful and sexy. I've thought a lot about you since and become aroused everytime I think about your mouth around my shaft. I would really want to please you as well! I want to **** you really hard until you beg me to stop! Take care and stay in touch!
Shygirl15 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Most women know and understand long play and excessive alcohol can lead to malfunction, Oh, I didn't know that. Best to assume perhaps she doesn't know.
Tomcat33 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Oh, I didn't know that. Best to assume perhaps she doesn't know. Really? Where have you been the last 30yrs?? Ok fair enough, I suppose some women don't know...
Shygirl15 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Really? Where have you been the last 30yrs?? Yeah, I know PS: Guy, best to remove the 'your mouth around my shaft' thing for now, IMO. But let see what others suggest as well.
Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 Yeah, I know PS: Guy, best to remove the 'your mouth around my shaft' thing for now, IMO. But let see what others suggest as well. Thanks! So is the rest cool? Is the tone right (not too keen, not too desperate, a bit cocky)?
Tomcat33 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 : Guy, best to remove the 'your mouth around my shaft' thing for now, IMO. But let see what others suggest as well. I totally agree!! No need to recount what you are thinking when you are not around her. On top of it she will think you just get off on fantasy and can't peform with the real deal. I worry you might have perf anxiety if she does give you a second chance, and what happens if you can't perform again? Almost like the seed is planted and now you HAVE to peform or else...
Shygirl15 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Thanks! So is the rest cool? Is the tone right (not too keen, not too desperate, a bit cocky)? As I was reading, I imagined it was sent to me, and it sounded perfect.
Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 Could it be that it has nothing to do with my inability to perform? She kept saying how I was "BIG" and that she had never been with such a big guy before. I know that most women prefer an average-sized penis over a large one. I kept mentioning anal sex so maybe she is afraid?
Tomcat33 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 It could be she just wasnt into you once she got intimate. But you said you both hung out and chatted afterwards if she wasn't into you she would have bailed out of there, no?
Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 I totally agree!! No need to recount what you are thinking when you are not around her. On top of it she will think you just get off on fantasy and can't peform with the real deal. I worry you might have perf anxiety if she does give you a second chance, and what happens if you can't perform again? Almost like the seed is planted and now you HAVE to peform or else... I've actually thought of that, having to perform at all costs... I think I'll suggest that we do NOT drink prior to having sex and that I put on a porn movie? That way I'll be sure to be stimulated. What do you think?
Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 It could be she just wasnt into you once she got intimate. But you said you both hung out and chatted afterwards if she wasn't into you she would have bailed out of there, no? We actually went to her pad so it was me who had to bail out of there... I guess what made it worse is that I jerked off for two minutes and came on her stomach. Maybe that's why she took it personal? Also, she did have an orgasm as I let her masturbate next to me.
Jersey Shortie Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 PS: Guy, best to remove the 'your mouth around my shaft' thing for now, IMO. But let see what others suggest as well. That was exactly what I was thinking too. We know guys like getting head. You really don't need to mention this because it will seem like that's all you want. I'd also take out: Sorry I could not fulfill my "mandate" on that night but And say something more like..."And even though I was unable to perform the other night, I really do find you really beautiful, sexy and smart and am interested in going out again." And I think I would also take out: I would really want to please you as well! I want to **** you really hard until you beg me to stop! Take care and stay in touch! I'd focus more on telling her that you really are attracted to her, explaing the reason for the situation the other night but not being overly obvious that you want to bang her right now. Since your email is basically telling her you want to stay in touch with her, and go out again, she will get the idea that you also want it to lead to other more intimate events. And I would also take out "take care and stay in touch". It's too impersonal for someone you like. You would say that to a person you knew that you wanted a phone call or email from every couple months or something. Not someone you want to date and have sex with. Maybe something like "looking forward to hearing from you". I know that sounds picky but I'm just giving you my perspective as a chick and putting myself in those shoes.
Shygirl15 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 I'd focus more on telling her that you really are attracted to her, explaing the reason for the situation the other night but not being overly obvious that you want to bang her right now. Very true. Wow, I think I missed out this one: I want to **** you really hard until you beg me to stop! !! Not very necessary at this point to mention that, don't you think??
Tomcat33 Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 We actually went to her pad so it was me who had to bail out of there... I guess what made it worse is that I jerked off for two minutes and came on her stomach. Maybe that's why she took it personal? Also, she did have an orgasm as I let her masturbate next to me. ok this is a joke right? You couldn't get it up when it was down to the crunch, you came on her stomch after you masturbated and you "let her masturbate next to you?" What a guy!!
Author guy.lepage Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 ok this is a joke right? You couldn't get it up when it was down to the crunch, you came on her stomch after you masturbated and you "let her masturbate next to you?" What a guy!! I knew it was a bad idea but I wanted the release so bad! Now I have to learn from my mistakes and carry on.
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