iLove Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 I'm undecided on whether A) I just sorted out the boy from the man very quickly or B) was a bitchy sms so what did I expect... see what you think, i'd love to hear your take on it... Had been dating a guy i'd met at a bar for couple months. We'd see each other once a week and text maybe twice a week.We'd been sleeping together each date since the first date (my faux pas perhaps?) then a couple weeks out from the marathon he was going to compete in he became insanely focussed on that, with firstly poor post-coital manners of not even bothering to have breakfast with me but practically booting me out so he could go running, and then being unable to make time to see me. so I gave him the boot...(perhaps a little too politely?) anywho, he said he completely understood where i was coming from and that he was sorry and wanted to remain friends. he continued to text me couple times a week, and then invited me to movies a couple weeks later. I went in purely a friend capacity, had a good time but when he invited me back to his place i declined. that was last week. since then he has done usual texting. on friday night he asked if i wanted to come over to his place. I said no but asked if he wanted to go bike riding next day, he said no he was training with a work mate for next marathon. he then texting this evening asking if i wanted to go to his place tonight. I said i'm not interested in just being a booty call, and was serious about why I broke it off with him before - that while i like him I want a relationship rather than just getting laid. his reply - "its not like that. i''ve turned celibant anyway. have a good night..." I ask you...was I a bitch or was I valid in seeing what he wants from me?
xpaperxcutx Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 If he's celibate, then you became the Queen of Denmark. You weren't being a bitch in rejecting him, but at the beginning you gave him more than you should have. Just put it in the past and learn not to be friends with guys that sleep with you and play the friend card.
KinAZ Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Seems like you were probably only friends with benefits, and well... while still being friends... who's to assume that the benefits would go away? I'm sure you bruised his ego, but I don't think your message was wrong. As paper cuts said, understand that a former FWB will more than likely look for a "benefit" (at some point, at least) if the two of you are still friends. It's not impossible for two people to sleep with one another on the first date, and then form a relationship from there. However, it's just not what happens in most cases. If you're not sure in the future, just look for indication of interest in a committed relationship...
Author iLove Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 thanks...my sub-conscious was in total agreeance with you both and is now doing a "told you so"
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