Byren Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Right, so... a friend and myself are thinking about taking our relationship into dating. We've discussed all of the possibilities and bad outcomes that could come about, (NOT an enjoyable conversation) and we've decided that we want to give it a shot. There is however, a big problem. A housemate (yes, I'm living with her too... just to add to the complications) of ours asked her out not too long ago but she didn't want to get involved with him because she doesn't trust him or know him nearly as well as me. She used the house as an excuse to not get with him which makes it VERY hypocritical for us to be getting involved with one another. So basically now we're looking for a way to explain this to him without being too harsh. The guy is a good friend of mine and I hope this won't screw things up with us, but since he asked her our he actually briefly got back with his ex so I'm unsure of how committed he actually is. I really need to get an answer fairly soonish, I'm afraid that this whole talk about having to sort this out has really got her worried so to have some kind of answer for her would really help us out... Thanks in advance guys.
JoeNewbie Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 I don't think you need to take him aside and tell him that you are dating her. Perhaps you can remain discreet while your relationship develops into something more serious. When he finds out, tell him the truth. There's nothing wrong with you dating the girl. She is not his ex and you are very much in the clear.
Author Byren Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 hmm, we tried the whole secrecy thing but it's killing us... She's decided that on saying something like "I had feelings for "byren" first, but I didn't want to say anything before in case it were to hurt your feelings so i used the house as an excuse" Does this sound fine? Any feedback would be helpful =)
JoeNewbie Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I really don't think you guys owe him any explanation - but if you really want to say something then I guess your line sounds fine.
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