Jay_Bird Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 My GF and I recently decided (more on her part) to see other people. She repeatedly has said that she is not giving up on the idea of us in the future (but I think I should and move on). However, I am having really bad anxiety and can't sleep at night, find myself thinking about her, thinking about her out with other guys, and keep playing our last few conversations in my head over and over. I have gone NC for a week, but I know she's gonna call eventually. So I have two questions: 1- How do I get over the anxiety 2- What should I do when she calls? I really need the advice... J
journey1 Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 sorry to tell you but NOTHING will get you over the anxiety other than time or meds!! YOU need to just feel the pain. We all have, its part of the healing process and is extremely necessary. I have been healing for 5 weeks and I am so much better now. I started out just like you. All I can recommend is for you to go out and have fun, preoccupy yourself with other people or girls!! Dont use anyone tho!! Good luck and keep NC
superchicchick Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 So I have two questions: 1- How do I get over the anxiety 2- What should I do when she calls? If you want to get her back...you have to "attract" her back. Play it cool and Be HAPPY - even if you have to act! Control your emotions by being self confident & even somewhat aloof. Start thinking, and believing, that know matter what happens you're going to get on successfully with your life. MOST Important: Don't act needy! Showing her you are lonely or depressed over the break up, and worst of all sounding needy, will kill any chances of winning your ex back. Again, be the guy who is is happy with life, who is going to change himself for the better, and who will MAYBE ... just maybe ... consider taking her back! It's not about playing hard to get, it's about never acting needy. Good luck!
BCCA Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 Well, anxiety is something that wont just go away over night, but it will start to fade over time. Just keep yourself busy, exercise, and find ways to get out of the house and be around people. An idle mind is the devil's playground. Keep yourself thinking about other things. I have to be honest with you, she might not call. Sure, there is a chance, but I thought the same thing, and over a month later, not a word. Not a text, email, call or myspace message. Nothing. Relationships are just weird like that, you really cant predict or control the other person, so you would do yourself a favor to just focus on moving on. Even if she did come back, you need to be emmotionally ready to get back into a relationship, and the best way to do that is to be alright with being alone.
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