Bells Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I was wondering this, because I noticed that some women only date ONE guy at a time, even if it's not serious. Somehow they think it's immoral to be dating more than one guy at once, or they just don't like "Juggling" more than one guy at a time. Any ladies on here that have this policy?
Tony T Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 You will note get the proper random sampling in a thread on this forum to determine if most women date just one person. You will only get observations. Most people don't have good information on that, don't pay a lot of attention or simply just don't know. It really doesn't make any difference what other people do. If you want my guess, some women date around until they find someone who they are very interested in dating exclusively, some women date whoever they can get to date them, some women like to go out with different people and have fun and some women just like to be by themselves at different times in their lives.
Trialbyfire Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 It's not immoral to multi-date. It's immoral to lead anyone else on, allowing them to assume or believe they're the only one you're dating. Lying and lying by omission are synonymous.
Treasa Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I've been dating just one guy for the past four years. He makes me very happy, and I have so many hobbies that I wouldn't be able to date more than one guy without getting to know them all well anyway.
Star Gazer Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 some women date around until they find someone who they are very interested in dating exclusively That's exactly where I fall.
Tomcat33 Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 You will note get the proper random sampling in a thread on this forum to determine if most women date just one person. You will only get observations. Most people don't have good information on that, don't pay a lot of attention or simply just don't know. It really doesn't make any difference what other people do. . whaaaa? How can you not pay attention to how many people you date at one given time!?!? Where do you come up with this? :laugh: And...apparently it matters to the OP what other people do. I date around until I become exclusive, if I want to see a guy more than three or four times and things seem to be progressing on both sides then I stop dating other guys. I don't become exclusive until I sleep with a guy. And I don't tell them anything unless they ask as I don't ask them how many women they date. If we are not exclusive ie. intimate it's a free for all as far as I am concerned and it's understood.
AriaIncognito Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I tend to do as the OP said. I don't know why. I have no issues with the idea of dating more than one guy at a time, as long as I'm not exclusive obviously, but so far it's always been the case that they come along 1 at a time. I think as long as you aren't sleeping with anyone, and aren't exclusive, you are both free to date whoever you want. However, once you have the exclusive talk, then it's 1 to 1.
Capricciosa Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I date around until I become exclusive, if I want to see a guy more than three or four times and things seem to be progressing on both sides then I stop dating other guys. I don't become exclusive until I sleep with a guy. And I don't tell them anything unless they ask as I don't ask them how many women they date. If we are not exclusive ie. intimate it's a free for all as far as I am concerned and it's understood. This is also my policy.
Star Gazer Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I date around until I become exclusive, if I want to see a guy more than three or four times and things seem to be progressing on both sides then I stop dating other guys. I don't become exclusive until I sleep with a guy. And I don't tell them anything unless they ask as I don't ask them how many women they date. If we are not exclusive ie. intimate it's a free for all as far as I am concerned and it's understood. This is how I operate as well. However, usually I only meet one guy at a time I would even entertain the idea of dating, so in practice it usually works out where I'm only dating one anyway. But in a situation like the one I'm in now, I want to see equal movement and progression from one I really like before I agree (even if only in my own mind) to date exclusively. There's a reason why people become exclusive, after all. It should never be presumed.
CaliGuy Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 It's not immoral to multi-date. It's immoral to lead anyone else on, allowing them to assume or believe they're the only one you're dating. Lying and lying by omission are synonymous. Agreed. And if you're sleeping with them, that's not dating. That's being promiscuous. It's not fair to the other people you are dating nor is it moral.
Trialbyfire Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 Agreed. And if you're sleeping with them, that's not dating. That's being promiscuous. It's not fair to the other people you are dating nor is it moral. I agree. That's how playahs roll. If you're sleeping with more than one person and they're not aware of it, you effectively remove their free will by withholding valuable and potentially health risk information.
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