masala Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 Tonight my boyfriend is staying out of town with friends while I have family in town. He went out tonight with a group of friends, and got really drunk. I was okay with him going out, and I was okay with him drinking. When I called and he was about to throw up, I was upset -- with him for being irresponsible and with his friends for not looking out for him. One of his friends took the phone from him, and told me my boyfriend couldn't talk but that he'd take care of him. I sent my boyfriend a couple of text messages later to see how things were going. Both times I got a text back from one of his other friends telling me my boyfriend was fine, and that they had taken his cell phone. For the next two hours, I asked more than once, nicely, if they would give his cell phone back. He was also asking if he could talk to me. They kept saying he's fine and that I really wouldn't want to talk to him while he's drunk. (As if in the four years I have known him, I haven't seen him completely ****faced.) Two hours later, he gets his cell phone back and calls me. I was upset because of the go-round with his friends. We get into an argument. His friends also get involved. First one of them texts me that, "I told you that talking to him was not the best idea right now. He is in no condition for this." Then later she yells at me that I shouldn't be on the phone with him and have no reason to be upset. Another friend later comes in and tells the boyfriend he needs to go to bed and stop talking to me. I understand, in part, that he was drunk, and that having a conversation that he probably won't remember most of tomorrow was not the most productive thing. However, I feel pretty strongly that they spent the whole night sticking their nose where it did not belong, and that they had no business keeping my boyfriend and I from talking to each other or to tell me whether I should or shouldn't talk to him later. My boyfriend seemed to think they were right for intervening. Am I completely crazy, or is it completely inappropriate for friends to intervene in a relationship, to the point that they are yelling at the girlfriend of one of their friends over a phone, taking the phone, and sending her text messages saying she shouldn't be talking to him? PS: This is a first in our relationship, the friends yelling at me thing. I'm completely baffled.
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