nickelinadime Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Well, here's my story. There's this girl. I began to see her a year and a bit ago, after a year of being chased by her. She could never give up on me no matter how hard she tried (this comes into play later). Anyways, originally our relationship was going to go along more of the friends-with-benefits line because I was trying to not get too attatched to her. That was my first mistake. I fell extremely hard for the girl. Now, she had fallen for me much earlier, but it only took a month and I was crazy about the girl. Over the next ten or eleven months, we fought a lot and it seemed as if we broke up one a month, but we always ended up back together because we just couldn't stay away. There was such a huge upside to the relationship because we had chemistry like no other. Anyways, we've been broken up for two months or so. She's still crazy about me and I'd be lieing if I said I wasn't still crazy about her. I know deep down that we need some space to cut out all the immature fights. Because of the way I was raised, I'm a pretty rational, mature person, but she's not mature enough to handle an adult relationship. Now, I haven't talked to her for a month because one of us has been on vacation during the month of August. We both agreed to keep the communication to the minimum. I, so far, have 20 emails from her. I've only replied to 6 because I figure I need a clean break. She's already tried to make me jealous (even though ultimately the breakup was her decision, though it needed to happen) by lieing to me about hanging out, flirting and having sexual acts with other guys. I've even found out that it wasn't true, confronted her about it and she STILL lied about it. Now that school is starting up again and I have three classes with her, she will do this again. History repeats itself, and she is the jealous ex. Any tips on how to hanle the situation and not let myself be bothered by her pety games? Any tips to help me with getting over her, because my life in general is an absolute mess. I'd be open to dating her again, but the time is not right. We're 21.
JoeNewbie Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Based on your story, I think the only solution is to get away from her and have zero contact. Seems like a somewhat dysfunctional relationship to me - but some of us seem to be repeatedly involved in such relationships. Only you have the answer to this. When you are truly fed up of her, you'll find your way out. But something tells me you are not ready to cut the ties yet.
Author nickelinadime Posted August 29, 2008 Author Posted August 29, 2008 I'm not ready to cut ties and nether is she, but, in the mean time, how do I get through having a few classes with her and her jealosy trips?
JoeNewbie Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I'm not ready to cut ties and nether is she, but, in the mean time, how do I get through having a few classes with her and her jealosy trips? You've just answered your own question. She isn't going to change.
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