katherinev87 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 In reading the thread entitled 'Why do women like the bad boys', I came across some interesting stuff. And now have a question of my own...along the same lines of thinking, I suppose. I'm currently single, therefore, unavoidably, my guy radar (guy-dar? lol) is back up. It seems that all I see (particularly in my snobby, suburban town) are these guys who are with the typical arm-candy, high maintenance type of women. Why is that exactly? (By arm-candy, I mean the tanned, overly made up, cute, petite girls with no brain that's apparent). Is it just a sex thing? Or do you guys see something (ie; intellectual ability beyond that of signing a credit card slip) that we normal girls cannot? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Probably just sex. I would prefer a well rounded, intelligent, articulate, self-reliant woman than someone who's with me only for what I can provide. That said, if you have looks and the above listed qualities, I would say you're in high demand. I'm not arm candy by any stretch of the mind for women, but anyone who comes to know me will soon realize I am much more than the sum of my looks, and that woman will indeed find a diamond among the coal. Remember, men are mostly visual creatures (attraction). With women, attraction is how you make them FEEL much more than how you look. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 In reading the thread entitled 'Why do women like the bad boys', I came across some interesting stuff. And now have a question of my own...along the same lines of thinking, I suppose. I'm currently single, therefore, unavoidably, my guy radar (guy-dar? lol) is back up. It seems that all I see (particularly in my snobby, suburban town) are these guys who are with the typical arm-candy, high maintenance type of women. Why is that exactly? (By arm-candy, I mean the tanned, overly made up, cute, petite girls with no brain that's apparent). Is it just a sex thing? Or do you guys see something (ie; intellectual ability beyond that of signing a credit card slip) that we normal girls cannot? I think these men love the 'adoration' the little arm-candy, overly made up dolls provide them.. they probably see some kind of 'social success' when they have those hanging on their sleeve... Hard to day.. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Maybe these women are not as dumb as you think. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 How did they get a tan in Alberta, if it's not summertime?How do you know they're high maintenance just by looking at them?How do you know they have no brain just by looking at them? Link to post Share on other sites
motive2002 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Some of it may be the eternal pursuit. It's hard to keep a good looking, high-maintenance, arrogant chick for a girlfriend. It may be deeper, or more shallow than that, but it's anything but boring or simple. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Why is that exactly? because they are feminine and a great way to impress people although they don't come cheap. Link to post Share on other sites
Author katherinev87 Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 Probably just sex. I would prefer a well rounded, intelligent, articulate, self-reliant woman than someone who's with me only for what I can provide. That said, if you have looks and the above listed qualities, I would say you're in high demand. I'm not arm candy by any stretch of the mind for women, but anyone who comes to know me will soon realize I am much more than the sum of my looks, and that woman will indeed find a diamond among the coal. Remember, men are mostly visual creatures (attraction). With women, attraction is how you make them FEEL much more than how you look. Cheers. I totally love this response. and I wish it were this way with every guy.....because on paper it looks great...but, how often is it where this is actually the case. Yeah, lots of guys say they want an intelligent, well-rounded girl. But if one were to smack them in the face, they'd still turn around and pick one that makes their cock twitch, not the one that stimulates their brain. Not saying I can't make a cock twitch...but it's not the first thing I aim to do...unlike some of these cutesy girls. Which, in turn puts me in that 'friends only' cool-girl, but not cool-girlfriend zone. That sounded suspiciously like a rant.... Link to post Share on other sites
vonerik012 Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Exactly.. How on Earth do you know they have no brain? All fat girls are geniuses too? Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 (By arm-candy, I mean the tanned, overly made up, cute, petite girls with no brain that's apparent). I don't that every woman who looks like this necessarily doesn't have a brain. But, as far as that look goes, it has never appealed to me. Many of my buddies like the women you describe. I really don't know why. I suppose they enjoy walking into a room with her and seeing the men in the room jealously admire her. To each his own. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Exactly.. How on Earth do you know they have no brain? All fat girls are geniuses too? They just see that a woman looks good and she well made up and assume she is stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
Author katherinev87 Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 How did they get a tan in Alberta, if it's not summertime?How do you know they're high maintenance just by looking at them?How do you know they have no brain just by looking at them? 1. haha. First of all, Alberta's not as sun-less as people think. And second of all...I live in a new-money, suburban town populated by fake-n-bakers. 2. When I say high maintenance, yes, I am judging them based on the criteria of the stereotypical high maintenance woman. And yes, I know that's low of me. 3. my second job is in the service industry....kinda hard not to overhear conversations. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 1. haha. First of all, Alberta's not as sun-less as people think. And second of all...I live in a new-money, suburban town populated by fake-n-bakers. 2. When I say high maintenance, yes, I am judging them based on the criteria of the stereotypical high maintenance woman. And yes, I know that's low of me. 3. my second job is in the service industry....kinda hard not to overhear conversations. Hey, I've visited Alberta a number of times for extended stays, and there's no way you can say that a Chinook in winter, replaces tropical weather. Okay, I'll let you get away with #2 because you admit to being biased. Yes, but they're not...ALL...like that! Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 I dunno what it is with other guys but I wouldn't be able to last long in a relationship with a high-maintenance chick. I need my space and all that jazz but at the same time I want a girl who's understanding, likewise I'm sure most -sane- girls here would like men who are understanding as well. Really, if anything, it's probably just for the sex as CaliGuy put it. But for me, I'm looking for a relationship. Sex is just part of the big picture in my opinion. Hence, I feel I'll be single for a very long time......... Link to post Share on other sites
2nd-Best Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 I would say that men are with those kinds of girls because they're not looking for serious relationships, and or also that ARM Candy girls who may look dumb because they are pretty and done up a lot of the time tend to be the opposite and men like them because they care about what they look like and their hygiene is usually maintained more often then someone who is not obsessed with their looks. I know this because that is what I am like, HOWEVER!! the longer I stay with my boyfriend the more my arm candy pretty girl vibe goes down the drain as I see myself starting to get comfortable and lets face it a bit frumpy. Like, sweat pants to the store? I used to put on lipstick just to go to the store.. it took me 30 minutes to get ready just for that. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with not being completely obsessed with yourself, im jsut saying that that is one of the reasons that I know men to like done up girls.. and no its not always for the sex because more often than not in my past relationships the word "LOVE" has come out of the mans mouth and not mine first. Link to post Share on other sites
redfathom Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Do you think prettier girls are better in bed? That seems a bit generalized... Link to post Share on other sites
Riley Freeman Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 In reading the thread entitled 'Why do women like the bad boys', I came across some interesting stuff. And now have a question of my own...along the same lines of thinking, I suppose. I'm currently single, therefore, unavoidably, my guy radar (guy-dar? lol) is back up. It seems that all I see (particularly in my snobby, suburban town) are these guys who are with the typical arm-candy, high maintenance type of women. Why is that exactly? (By arm-candy, I mean the tanned, overly made up, cute, petite girls with no brain that's apparent). Is it just a sex thing? Or do you guys see something (ie; intellectual ability beyond that of signing a credit card slip) that we normal girls cannot? beacuse they are sexy and they stand out...when i talk to girl i look for the sexiest ones out there............... and everyone has different opinions on what sexy is Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 I totally love this response. and I wish it were this way with every guy.....because on paper it looks great...but, how often is it where this is actually the case. Yeah, lots of guys say they want an intelligent, well-rounded girl. But if one were to smack them in the face, they'd still turn around and pick one that makes their cock twitch, not the one that stimulates their brain. Not saying I can't make a cock twitch...but it's not the first thing I aim to do...unlike some of these cutesy girls. Which, in turn puts me in that 'friends only' cool-girl, but not cool-girlfriend zone. That sounded suspiciously like a rant.... This thread is worthless without pictures, lol. Just stay TRUE to yourself. A confident, self-assured guy who sees people for more than the sum of their looks will trip over himself trying to get to you. Don't worry about what women other guys are dating. They are not the guy for you! Instead, focus on yourself, your wants and your needs. Make yourself happy and be confident in who you and you WILL be very attractive to the right guy. If I sat around wondering what some other guy has that I don't I'd simply destroy myself from the inside out. Instead, I focus on self-approval. Besides, I don't care HOW hot he or she is. Somewhere out there, someone is tired of their crap Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 All jest aside, we've all had guy friends who were hooked on a girl (not necessarily that pretty) who simply treated them poorly over and over again. Hell, there examples of guys who put up with poor behaviour all over LS (just as there are examples of girls who do). I think some men like high maintenance because they have a hero complex. High maintenance means they can usually 'remedy' the drama and feel like the 'strong one' in the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Why is that exactly? (By arm-candy, I mean the tanned, overly made up, cute, petite girls with no brain that's apparent). Is it just a sex thing? Or do you guys see something (ie; intellectual ability beyond that of signing a credit card slip) that we normal girls cannot? They look and smell better. In a dress and out. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Not sure how to reply to this without sounding arrogant, but I look pretty....barbie. Yeah, I keep my hair highlighted and wear attractive clothes, but I'm naturaly very petite, curvey and have long blonde hair, blue eyes and wear minimal make up. Something about the way I carry myself makes everyone always think "Barbie" though I am college educated and have always owned my own businesses. Personally, it to my advantage because once I open my mouth I become a Philadelphia lawyer, and I haven't yet been bested in verbal sword play. Though, for the record, I usually date broke guys, so I'm not exactly in the demographic you speak of, I'm usually the bread winner so who cares if other chicks think i'm dumb ?!? Link to post Share on other sites
2nd-Best Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Not sure how to reply to this without sounding arrogant, but I look pretty....barbie. Yeah, I keep my hair highlighted and wear attractive clothes, but I'm naturaly very petite, curvey and have long blonde hair, blue eyes and wear minimal make up. Something about the way I carry myself makes everyone always think "Barbie" though I am college educated and have always owned my own businesses. Personally, it to my advantage because once I open my mouth I become a Philadelphia lawyer, and I haven't yet been bested in verbal sword play. Though, for the record, I usually date broke guys, so I'm not exactly in the demographic you speak of, I'm usually the bread winner so who cares if other chicks think i'm dumb ?!? aww.. you're a loser magnet like me!! seems to be the way. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Verbal sword play...yum My wife thinks a woman is high maintenance if she takes over an hour to "get ready". Oh, how vaselined is the lens of denial Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 This thread is worthless without pictures, lol. Just stay TRUE to yourself. A confident, self-assured guy who sees people for more than the sum of their looks will trip over himself trying to get to you. Don't worry about what women other guys are dating. They are not the guy for you! Instead, focus on yourself, your wants and your needs. Make yourself happy and be confident in who you and you WILL be very attractive to the right guy. If I sat around wondering what some other guy has that I don't I'd simply destroy myself from the inside out. Instead, I focus on self-approval. Besides, I don't care HOW hot he or she is. Somewhere out there, someone is tired of their crap Exactly! Pretty girls are always going to attract a lot of guys and that doesn't make them stupid. Just worry about who is attracted to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author katherinev87 Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 All jest aside, we've all had guy friends who were hooked on a girl (not necessarily that pretty) who simply treated them poorly over and over again. Hell, there examples of guys who put up with poor behaviour all over LS (just as there are examples of girls who do). I think some men like high maintenance because they have a hero complex. High maintenance means they can usually 'remedy' the drama and feel like the 'strong one' in the relationship. I think this answers my question better than anything else I've read...not that the other responses aren't good, cause they are helpful too. This is a simple answer, to a simple..and simply selfishly low question. I think I'm just having one of those days...a poor me day. Link to post Share on other sites
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