NewSunrise Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 OK, I actually thought this post is funny. Didn't think that when OWL used MM, it was strictly aimed at MM. I assumed it to be "anyone" in an A, MM/MW. So for the purpose of "generalizing" I will use MP for "married person" engaged in A. 1. A dog knows its boundaries with or without leash, MP "conveniently" forgets theirs. 2. A dog knows where home is, MP has a headquarter and branch offices. 3. A dog will guard and protect its owner/family with its life, MP will only guard and protect themselves. 4. A dog knows when it's in trouble, a MP doesn't. My dog walks with me at my side without leash when we go for walks.
HappyAtLast Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 despite having been an MM in an affair myself once AND the fact that I had to put my beloved dog to sleep last week. Although, perhaps being compared to a MM IS a bit offensive to my beautiful dog
Author Owl Posted August 29, 2008 Author Posted August 29, 2008 Sorry to hear about your dog, Hap. That's ALWAYS a rough thing to deal with.
TogetherForever Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 despite having been an MM in an affair myself once AND the fact that I had to put my beloved dog to sleep last week. Although, perhaps being compared to a MM IS a bit offensive to my beautiful dog Hey HAL, I'm sorry you needed to put your dog down. Hugs & Prayers to you!!!!! TF
HappyAtLast Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 You are all most kind. She had a wonderful life, was much loved and the time came when the quality of life was just not there. She will always be remembered. I performed the task at home, she was with the people she loved, in her own home. I think that is the way that she would have wanted it.
TogetherForever Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 You are all most kind. She had a wonderful life, was much loved and the time came when the quality of life was just not there. She will always be remembered. I performed the task at home, she was with the people she loved, in her own home. I think that is the way that she would have wanted it. Hugs to all of you! TF
OpenBook Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 It may be poor humor on some points, but I don't think Owl was being malicious. I agree with you completely. From what I can tell, Owl is not a malicious person. However, I think it is abnormal for someone who has gotten past an A themselves to be so singularly focused on a situation that brought them so much pain... all day, every day. It's like they're revisiting it all the time. It flamboozles me. I can't think of any other reason for someone to do this, unless they were still trying to work out the issue in their own minds.
marlena Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 However, I think it is abnormal for someone who has gotten past an A themselves to be so singularly focused on a situation that brought them so much pain... all day, every day. It's like they're revisiting it all the time. It flamboozles me. I can't think of any other reason for someone to do this, unless they were still trying to work out the issue in their own minds. Actually I was wondering the same thing. Why are some people so obsessed with affairs and cheating? To me, this indicates a serious underlying issue that hasn't found its resolution. Affairs happen, life goes on, people move on, forgive and forget. The way some people continually harp on their "betrayal" borders on obssessive thinking.
whichwayisup Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I think it is abnormal for someone who has gotten past an A themselves to be so singularly focused on a situation that brought them so much pain... all day, every day. It's like they're revisiting it all the time. It flamboozles me. Maybe for the same reason many others stick around, including exOW/exOM, exMM,exMW's - To try to help others, offer some insight. That's genuine, not someone who has issues and not letting go. Oh, and LS IS addictive. BTW, Owl replies in other sections all over the place, so it's not like he's just focussing in one certain place.
Tomcat33 Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I agree with you completely. From what I can tell, Owl is not a malicious person. However, I think it is abnormal for someone who has gotten past an A themselves to be so singularly focused on a situation that brought them so much pain... all day, every day. It's like they're revisiting it all the time. It flamboozles me. I can't think of any other reason for someone to do this, unless they were still trying to work out the issue in their own minds. Actually I was wondering the same thing. Why are some people so obsessed with affairs and cheating? To me, this indicates a serious underlying issue that hasn't found its resolution. Affairs happen, life goes on, people move on, forgive and forget. I agree. I think one can tell the level of personal progress given the types of posts they make here. That was a general comment. Owl replies in other sections all over the place, so it's not like he's just focussing in one certain place. Hmmm not really, it is mostly here. Why exclusively this forum??? I have my theory but it's neither here nor there. I have nothing in the dog/MM comparisson
OpenBook Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 You mean like the same way some try to dictate to the OP of various threads what advice is good or not and which advice to ignore, all depending on who is posting it? Were you inferring that I'm one of those posters who does this, WWIU?
stampdaddy Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 oooooooooooooooooohhh I smell a "Cat Fight"!.. no wait, that is another thread over in the SEX section
whichwayisup Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 No I wasn't directing that at anyone in particular, it was a generalized statement. I had to put my beloved dog to sleep last week. Sorry to hear about your dog HAL. My heart goes out to you as I know how painful it is to have to put down a pet..
carhill Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 Speaking of felines, dogs and MM's are both pretty good and chasing ....um...
OpenBook Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 Speaking of felines, dogs and MM's are both pretty good and chasing ....um... :lmao: Now THAT was funny.
wildsoul Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Speaking of felines, dogs and MM's are both pretty good and chasing ....um... Comedy gold.
carhill Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Just for the record, I made a content faux paux ..... and should be at. Not that the *ahem* minded
mistresswchildren Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 I would just like to say that I appreciate humor in any form that is shows itself at this point. While not everything on this thread is all that funny, it is easier to deal with the situation once in a while when there is laughter. It is a coping mechanism. I, for one, am glad that OWL posted this thread. Life has gotten far to serious for me recently. Sometimes I think I need to step back and realize that taking things this seriously all the time is detrimental to my health. I just want to say thanks to OWL for his attempt at humor. Lord knows he typically doesn't do this kind of thing, and now that he has he probably will never do so again because so many people jumped down his throat at the thought of trying to take the weight off of a very heavy situation. Some of us just need a good laugh.
OWoman Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I love both MMs and dogs (of the canine kind, anyway) and find a great many similarities: both are full of energy and always up for a good frolicboth show their affection openly and freelyboth are genuinely happy to see you and let you know in no uncertain termsboth come instantly when calledboth love nothing more than a good cuddleboth are sensitive to mood, and will do anything to make you feel betterboth will defend you to the death against any threatboth are loyal and faithful if treated right, but turn vicious or untrustworthy if abusedboth should be treated with respect and not subject to assumptions, e.g. how they will be with childrenboth are adept at communicating non-verballythings are always likely to get pretty wet with them around... (I could go on. And on. But delicious smells are wafting out of the kitching and my MM has just summoned me for a late lunch.... Gotta go!)
SoleMate Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 We really need a new acronym. "MM" just means "Married Man". It does NOT necessarily mean CHEATING married man....even if that happens to be 98% of what you hear about at Loveshack. I recommend the new acronym, "CMM", which can be used in opposition to "FMM" - faithful married man. Or even just MM by itself. I assume any MM is an FMM until he proves himself otherwise.
bentnotbroken Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 How about DAMM DUMB*ASS* MARRIED* MAN. I like it!
NoIDidn't Posted September 1, 2008 Posted September 1, 2008 the dog can't whisper sweet nothings in your ear.
NewSunrise Posted September 2, 2008 Posted September 2, 2008 A dog can sense and feel your pain and will stay with you as long as you need. A MM/MP will say, "what's wrong, honey?" Listens a little and then says, "Can I call you later or come by later? The wife just walked in.":laugh:
Author Owl Posted September 2, 2008 Author Posted September 2, 2008 Interesting turn on this thread... I'll respond to the questions about why I focus on the infidelity and OW/OM forums tho... Quite frankly, it something I learned a lot about as a result of what my marriage went through. I've never divorced, so what kind of advice can I give on going through that? Dating?...haven't done it outside of my marriage in more than two decades. The religion/philosophy areas? Interesting areas, but frankly nothing more than a debate field...no way to PROVE anything until you're dead...and then there's no value in discussing it further. I COULD post more on the marriage forum, but frankly its always seemed to me that that area is focused on sex as much as anything else...and I'm not interested in discussing anything along those lines outside of my marriage. So that leaves the infidelity and OW/OM forums, with some dabbling in the relationship/seperation sections as the only areas that I can talk about things that I know something about. As the only areas where I can offer support/advice that might actually help someone. As far as the "pain"...you've got to realize something...I'm NOT in pain over what happened in the past anymore. Even posting on these forums doesn't 'hurt' anymore...because my marriage is in a much different place than it used to be. Every once in a while, a story might trigger a twinge...but I can't remember the last one that did. And a BIG part of my posting on this forum is this...if what I went through in the past...the pain that I DID feel...can be used to help someone else AVOID it, or get through their pain faster/sooner/etc...if what I went through can at least benefit someone else...then I'm glad that I can help. Not glad about what I went through...but glad to be able to take that huge negative thing and USE that experience to help someone else in their own situation. I'd have given a LOT to have had some of the "voices of reason" around here give ME support when I was going through hell. So...those are my motives...I'm sure that they'll be called into question again. Simple enough really, when you stop to think about it.
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