Lucky_One Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 You're separated. It's none of your business where she stays when she is out of town. It is none of your business where she spends her time, as long as your children are taken care of. It's none of your business what is in her emails. You have your life. She has hers. Are you going to be one of those putz's who wants "their" wife to sit at home and only participate in socializing if YOU approve of it?
Lucky_One Posted September 6, 2008 Posted September 6, 2008 "the lock on her bedroom? geez, can she be more obvious in trying to show you that she has things going on that she doesn't want you to see?" Well duh. It is HER bedroom. Stay out of her personal things. I would be pissed if my stbXH was going through my things, sleeping in my bed. She has given permission for you to be with your kids in what is now HER home. If you don't like having boundaries in HER home, then take them to where YOU are living.
Author angryyoungman70 Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 You're separated. It's none of your business where she stays when she is out of town. It is none of your business where she spends her time, as long as your children are taken care of. It's none of your business what is in her emails. You have your life. She has hers. Are you going to be one of those putz's who wants "their" wife to sit at home and only participate in socializing if YOU approve of it? Not at all. The seperation is only one week old. When she was out of town, I had not even moved out yet. I'm not "keeping tabs" on her, nor do I want to control what she does with her life. Maybe I found it unusual that the whole time we were together, she only ever talked about "getting a life", and I encouraged the hell out of her to do it. One week, after I move out, she's finally acting on it, and it seems a little odd. Yes we are now seperated and I'm trying to move on. Don't think for one second though that I have no feelings for her, and don't tell me you wouln't find it difficult to go grab the kids for the evening, and see your partner of 18 years dressed to the nines in a brand new outfit off to meet other single people after being seperated for less than a week.
Lucky_One Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 "don't tell me you wouln't find it difficult to go grab the kids for the evening, and see your partner of 18 years dressed to the nines in a brand new outfit off to meet other single people after being seperated for less than a week." Nope. That wouldn't have bothered me at all. I wanted a divorce and wasn't in love with my XH. I wanted him to go out, have fun, get a life outside of our failed marriage, and fall in love again. He, on the other hand, didn't want a divorce, and he hated my dating, and has interrogated our son constantly for years about my whereabouts, my plans and my activities.
Author angryyoungman70 Posted September 8, 2008 Author Posted September 8, 2008 "the lock on her bedroom? geez, can she be more obvious in trying to show you that she has things going on that she doesn't want you to see?" Well duh. It is HER bedroom. Stay out of her personal things. I would be pissed if my stbXH was going through my things, sleeping in my bed. She has given permission for you to be with your kids in what is now HER home. If you don't like having boundaries in HER home, then take them to where YOU are living. I really don't think you read any of my previous posts. Do yourself a favor and gather more information, unless you enjoy agrivating others. Uh, yhea. I guess it's been HER bedroom for the last few months, as I was sleeping on the couch in the basement anyhow. Going through her things? Well, I never said I did that, nor would I have reason to. She was pissed that I slept in HER bed when she was out ouf town. This is the same bed that was a wedding gift from my mom. Oh, and this permission you speak of in regards to the kids in HER home. It's 1/2 my home chump, and they are my kids as well as hers. She did not "give me permission" per say, because I need no f*&%*&g permission to see MY kids. She has NO reason to deny me access to them. Boy, you really must be one of those "It's all the man's fault in all counts" kind of misandry populists.
Lucky_One Posted September 8, 2008 Posted September 8, 2008 Nope. I'm not. And I DID read your old posts. You have miserable for years in your marriage. You WANT a divorce. You make six figures, and are a great parent (but you can't afford an apt? Bet you wish you had that $3k from the sailboat now, huh?). What I don't like are men who say "misery is the codeword for the marriage for years", who say that they have not been happy for the past 17 years of your marriage, who hate their career, who say that they are angry all the time, who say that they only stayed married bc they found out their wife got pregnant, who say a noose is preferable to being married to their wife, and regret ever marrying her. So why the big deal on where she is going at night? Why do you CARE that she bought a new outfit? Why not recognize that she just might see all your anger at the total waste of your life and want to protect her bedroom as her sanctuary?
Malcolm49 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 "I also went out on Saturday, as both of my kids were at sleepovers. I met a couple of ladies and ended up hanging out with them all night, eventually driving them back to thier apartment, as I was not drinking and they were excessively. Needless to say, they were falling all over me all night. I had fun, but never crossed any lines. I arrived home and slept in my clothes on top of the covers of the bed that I have not slept in for over a month. Well, stbx comes home a day early, and accuses me of having sex with someone in HER bed, as she said that she could smell perfume on the bed." Get your head out of your ass! Perfume on the bed, I'm not stupid and no one else is believing your bull **** story. You f#cked someone. She knew it and put a lock on the door. Can we please have some honesty on this site??? LuckyOne is one of the only sane people here.
Malcolm49 Posted September 10, 2008 Posted September 10, 2008 God, it's so sad that my first post had to be in response to THAT.
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