nopainnogain Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 How soon into dating is it ok to cuddle? If we are at a movie what are the pimp moves to make to cuddle? Ladies, what do you like that a guy does to initiate cuddling?
Shygirl15 Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 I don't care as long as you don't make your pimp moves during 1st or 2nd date..
Author nopainnogain Posted August 28, 2008 Author Posted August 28, 2008 lol.....I dont have any pimp moves yet. Hence this thread:) Maybe when at a movie stretch my arms up and as they come down one arm happens to be around my date Kinda like kevin arnold and winnie cooper
rod_in_gtown Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 I say wait until after you've had your first kiss... I'm assuming we're not talking about cuddling in bed after sex are we? But first start holding her hand and see how she responds. Generally at this stage in the game she would be ok with it as long as you're in private. I've found ways of bringing up the subject during casual conversation... I usually start by asking how she feels about dislpays of affection both in public and private. More often than not everyone welcomes human contact as long as it is not out of context.
alphamale Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 How soon into dating is it ok to cuddle? generally for me after the first time sex happens....its ok to cuddle anytime going forward
flc Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Depends on the girl. I usually will get to hand holding on the second date and possibly an arm around the waist while walking. With my current gf we were making out on the couch after the third date. I don't have any pimp moves but generally holding hands then leaning for the kiss and from there it can be short or get heavy, just go with the flow.
Author nopainnogain Posted August 28, 2008 Author Posted August 28, 2008 We have gone out a few times. She is hot and cold. At the movie she put her head on my shoulder for 5 minutes then backed off. I tried putting my arm around her but i dont think she is feelin it. She confuses me lol But she is always touching me and flirting. But when I flirt back she is unresponsive. WTH
rod_in_gtown Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 I actually find the arm around the shoulder at the movie uncomfortable and unnatural for both me and her in terms of actual comfort. mostly because the movies today have the full back and it doesn't work like it used to at the movies with the short uncomfortable backrest. I would think that maybe you're hesitation is probably showing through. If you're uncomfortable doing something, she's going to pick up on it. I find a good thing to do is to go for walks, walk around the neighborhood or the park, take a slow pace and subtly and gently lay your palm on the small of her back as you open a door/gate for her or walk through a narrow pathway. Girls generally love this, it's like you're leading her (girls like confidence) but you're not invading too much of her space by putting your arm around her neck or back. If you're going for the kiss, put your hand on her waist and approach slowly, give her time to realize what's going on and a chance to react - which in the best case scenario would be to meet your approach halfway smiling.
Potatocakes Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Well it looks like everyone has different preferences. I'm not much of a cuddler in public, I was raised otherwise. Make sure whatever you do is alright with her because I'm not a touchy person and only cuddle after sex or when we're alone.
Author nopainnogain Posted August 28, 2008 Author Posted August 28, 2008 Well, heres the kicker She is going through a divorce and I dont want to make her feel uncomfratable. So this probably explains her hot and coldness. She has already told me she isnt having sex until she gets married again. I like this girl a lot. She is from france and is going back to france supposadly. She is always invting me to places and we have deep conversations. She is a really nice girl. She is so different from other girls I have been with. We have never kissed or anything . Farthest we have gone was her putting her legs on my lap lol. She came over the other night and we watched space balls. We laughed and had a good time. I started caressing her arm and she liked it but after 5 min she backed off.
Shygirl15 Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 She sounds nice. I say go for it in full and see what happens.
Author nopainnogain Posted August 28, 2008 Author Posted August 28, 2008 Her husband has another girlfriend and he told this french girl(my friend in question) if she doesnt like it then leave. So she is leaving him. This guy has no idea what he is losing out on.
Shygirl15 Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Better take it slow, then. I was under the impression it was an ordinary situation, but heck, she's going through divorce after her husband cheated on her? Goes to explain why she has mixed feelings about you.
rod_in_gtown Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Wow, what a piece of work the husband is. Divorcees are definitely more complicated... I would know... she probably is a little scared and hurt by her whole situation. You need to make her feel at ease with you. Let her know you like her. And that you understand her situation. And go for it. Sounds like she needs to feel special but is conflicted by her current status. You need to provide the options and allow her to choose.
flc Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 If you are getting a lot of touching and she is not backing away then your good, just figure out what pace works for her. But beware a divorce is a seriously screwed up time in a person life, been there done that. Emotions are all over the place, plus she said she doesn't want to have sex until she remarries? So do you really like her enough to deal with all of this? Are you just her way of getting back at her husband? My rule is no dating women in separation or within 6mos of a divorce.
Author nopainnogain Posted August 29, 2008 Author Posted August 29, 2008 Well we went swimming and had dinner last night . She is a really awsome woman. I am really developing strong feelings for this woman and I think its best I stay away for awhile ,while she figures herself out. Its frustrating, I want to kiss her so bad but I know it wouldnt be fair.
Shygirl15 Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 Well we went swimming and had dinner last night . She is a really awsome woman. I am really developing strong feelings for this woman and I think its best I stay away for awhile ,while she figures herself out. Its frustrating, I want to kiss her so bad but I know it wouldnt be fair. See, this kind of stuff is what we have been seeing on LS dating board a lot recently; a guy taking a woman out then after few dates and fun he start backing off and dissapear, leaving the woman wondering what the hell went wrong. I just hope you'll be kind enough and communicate to her why you suddenly feel the need to stay away from her for a while.
Tomcat33 Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I say let out a huge yawn, then stretch your arms up and out then over one shoulder and cup one of her boobs in your hand. That should do it. C'mon nopain, do you honestly need guidance in how to "cuddle" with her? Just go for it man! Just put your arm around her and go for it. The worst that can happen is she will say "no, I think we are getting a little too close" in which case you excuse yourself for being forward and that's that. It will be awkward for a second but then you are back to carrying on. You'll know she is not ready yet if that happens but it's not the end of the world. Women appreciate fearless men, whether they go for it or not doesn't matter they appreciate a man who shows confidence and just goes for it. At least I do, I love a man that doesn't beat around the bush and goes for what he wants, it's my job to stop him or welcome him but I like that he doesn't care he just goes for it.
Author nopainnogain Posted August 29, 2008 Author Posted August 29, 2008 See, this kind of stuff is what we have been seeing on LS dating board a lot recently; a guy taking a woman out then after few dates and fun he start backing off and dissapear, leaving the woman wondering what the hell went wrong. I just hope you'll be kind enough and communicate to her why you suddenly feel the need to stay away from her for a while. Of course ill let her know. Ill tell her my feelings are too strong to be "just hanging out". She needs to settle her divorce and move out. Ill let her know I will be there for her no matter what but I cant be her pretend b/f . She even said we are rebounding with each other but without the physical aspect lol.
Author nopainnogain Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 So we went out last night and had a great time. We went to a casino and played pool too. She put her arm around my arm as we were walking around. It surprised me but felt good. She made me feel manly lol Then we were holding hands too. Earlier we were watching T.V at her house and I started caressing her neck and she didnt push me away. She fell asleep while I was doing that. She told me in all her years with her husband he never did that. She also said I am more fun than him lol So she is always texting me and calling me ,and emailing me lol. I think she likes me. But she still has a husband . Even though they havent sen each other for 3 months she doesnt want him and is gonna divorce him I like her a lot too. I wouldnt mind making her my woman. Should I stay away from her until she is divorced ,Im confused
Shygirl15 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I started caressing her neck and she didnt push me away. She fell asleep while I was doing that. She fell asleep? I would have expected her to get aroused instead! Oh, well. She told me in all her years with her husband he never did that. She also said I am more fun than him lol Well I know I wouldn't want to be compared to somebody's wife all the time, even if it's a positive comparison. What the heck. I like her a lot too. I wouldnt mind making her my woman. Should I stay away from her until she is divorced ,Im confused Well, that's what I was advised recently on this forum when I presented a case a bit similar to yours. I believe it's best to stay away, or just take it slow.
Green Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I say let out a huge yawn and strectch your arms out and either rest your hand on her crotch or one of her boobs... make sure your hand is nice and hot that kind of thing impresses a woman... then they get to say "wow your hand sure is hot" and they are usualy cold so it gaurantees sucess
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