glynnroy Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Well is been 4 months now since my partner and I split up,I have been living on my own for about 1 month in my new accommodation.....She told me she wasn't in love with me any more and told me to move on with my life and if we were meant to be together we will be..She cares for me deeply after 18years but she isn't in love with me like she used to be................So here I am plodding on trying to get on with my life and she goes out with my sister and a guy asks her out which she declines,but still takes his number as he can get football tickets for the lads,he is 12 years younger that her and I couldn't take her word for it,so I broke into her computer looking for more answers,I noticed in her web history she had been searching for him as he was a footballer and like an idiot I rang her at work and told her what I had done. I got the same answers that she wasn't looking for a relationship and my sister confirmed this,but why am I doing this to myself and torturing myself ,why cant I just believe her and move on,I want her back but fear I am only making the situation worse....Any ideas please what I should do.
sedgwick Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 You MUST leave her alone and stop snooping on her. Invading someone's privacy is never acceptable. Also, four months is nothing. You can't expect to heal from a long-term relationship in that amount of time!
Author glynnroy Posted August 28, 2008 Author Posted August 28, 2008 You MUST leave her alone and stop snooping on her. Invading someone's privacy is never acceptable. Also, four months is nothing. You can't expect to heal from a long-term relationship in that amount of time! I know I was wrong but I just wanted some answers and didnt get them,I love her so much and its hard for me to let got
LateBloomer Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Answers are overrated. I tried to get some ... and it just torched me even more. She may not have them and in the end you will likely have to come up with your own. Keep swingin' and work on yourself, exercise, activate dormant parts of yourself, use the pain to grow and forge a better and stronger you ... when you least expect it you may very well find someone better. I know, it can be impossible to believe. While you're at it, read this: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81399/ You may have to poke, scroll up/down to find the Q&A. Worth a read.
Author glynnroy Posted August 29, 2008 Author Posted August 29, 2008 Thanks for that mate....... I just couldnt go no contact at all,we have 2 kids together and we have to have some sort of contact, but the less we have the better............ I have got to stop wondering what she is doing and what she is up to,if we were meant to be together in the end we will be.. Any body else had a similar situation..............
Author glynnroy Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 I saw here again due to picking the kids up from the house and feel crap again................She is now saying,,, for me to date other people if it comes along as I cant put my life on hold for her,as my sister told her that I wasn't dating girls due to the fact that it might jeopardise me getting her back,why does she have to be right all the time,she hasn't took her engagement ring off yet but she said she is not,not going to to talk to other guys just because it might upset me... I am going to try for the lover of god to do limited contact as we have kids together and I am not going to see here or talk to her,what do you guys think
nowhereman82 Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 Its a hard call to ask your sister to stop hanging with your ex but it doesn't help you at all. If anything you should just request your sister to not share anything about the ex and to not answer anything if you ask anything of the ex. Need to distance yourself. You bettering yourself is the only way she will even remotely get interested in you again. And by that point you might of already found a new awesome woman that recognizes you for the man you are.
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