Those who boast most about NOT playing games....

[Bells]

Do it MOST often?

 

I often see this tons of times on the net. "I want someone who doesn't play games, if you play games....TAKE A HIKE!"

 

But, I often wonder, the ones who make this claim, are...well.....pretty much lying?

 

The ones who say they don't want someone who play games, actually DO play games?

 

It's funny, because they would start playing games with me, I'd call them on it by saying, "Gee, I thought you said you don't like to play games, yet you do it anyways."

 

I always catch them in the act it seems.

[vonerik012]

Bell's, lol Good observation .

 

When people quickly volunteer unsolicited information, usually they are trying to subconsciously mask a bad trait they know that they have..

 

"I don't need a man" She is desperate for one.

 

"I don't play games" Plays them all the time

 

"I don't cheat" He cheated on every woman he dated.

[Ronni_W]

I often see this tons of times on the net. "I want someone who doesn't play games, if you play games....TAKE A HIKE!" ... The ones who say they don't want someone who play games, actually DO play games?

I interpret it differently: they're saying they don't want someone ELSE who plays games...so that they can play their games with that person, to their heart's content . Cos, they never actually said that THEY don't do it.

[Bells]

"Not into playing games" Subconsiously - "Even though I'm not into it, I play them anwyays."

 

MOST common phrase "Tired of playing games" Subcons. - "Though I do rest up and recover, and start back up again."

 

"Don't want a man who plays games." Subcons, "I don't want a man who plays games, it's okay for him not to do it, I'm only allowed to do it!"

 

Of course, there is proobably a minority that actually say it AND MEAN it.

 

Cos, they never actually said that THEY don't do it.

 

Right, because we assume that if they don't want US playing games, that they SURELY don't do it as well, esp if they announce it."

[xpaperxcutx]

I admit sometimes my behaviour comes off as game playing, but at best, it's unintentional. I can be flirty but that doesn't mean I want to go out with the person. Does that categorize me as a player?

[Bells]

I admit sometimes my behaviour comes off as game playing, but at best, it's unintentional. I can be flirty but that doesn't mean I want to go out with the person. Does that categorize me as a player?

 

 

 

 

Do not flirt with someone if you're not interested in them. That's how I see it....to me I think it's an a hint they are interested.

[Walk]

I think younger people sometimes mistake natural human behavior as "games".

 

Consider this siutation: You're feeling confusion, or uncertainty, about something your new date has said. Maybe she was telling a story about how she felt a past ex deserved to be hurt because of how he treated her. Now, do you normally barrel ahead and discuss your thoughts in depth with your partner? Or do you tend to pull back some, wait to sort out your own thoughts and then re-approach the situation some time later? The former would be called straight shooting. The latter classified as playing games from the dates view point. She was left not knowing what was happening, jumping through hoops to regain your attention. It could seem intentional that you distanced yourself in order to make her react a certain way. She may not even associate what she said to how you acted, and therefore assume that the distance was nothing more then a play for attention.

 

But labeling a response to that situation as "playing games" doesn't take into account your normal coping skills when dealing with stressful situations. Most don't go into dating situations with the intent of forcing some one they like to act a certain way. They get into over charged situations without having solid coping skills, so they react in ways that leave the other persons uncertain, or confused. People are not acting silly just to get their jollies off. It comes down to coping skills and our abilities to handle difficult or stressful situations. Everyone has their own way of doing things.

 

As a side note: I love the context of the replies showing your thought processes on the whole thing. Instead of seeking the truth from the person you're dealing with, you assign motives and leap to assumptions. Very interesting.

[katherinev87]

I can't stand this whole 'playing games' thing that everyone has a problem with. In dating, each side/person has their own strategy, to meet their own end....that, to me, is called a 'game'...one we all play at one point or another.