Amacada Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 I have a dilemma. My ex and I split up (her decision) at the end of July - we were both going through some personal issues (me, the death of my father - her, major career decisions). We chatted a few days after the split and I said that because the relationship had been quite good up until that point and had deteriorated quite quickly, that maybe we should meet up in a couple of weeks just to see how things were between us. She agreed that that would be a good idea. I contacted her a couple of weeks later (which was the middle of August), telling her that the break-up was the right decision, that I was feeling a lot better and that we should meet up at some stage. She was receptive but said that 'maybe we'll meet up when I get back from home' (she's travelling to her country for 10 days tomorrow). I have contacted her once since - on Sunday...just a couple of friendly texts back and forth. As I said, she leaves tomorrow and comes back on the 8th/9th September. My question is - should I just leave this with her now? Or should I be the one that initiates contact when she returns? I have no intention of contacting her whilst she is away, nor do I plan on contacting her immediately on her return....but again, should I contact her at all?
Sinner86 Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Quite frankly, it's up to her now. You have come to her to share your newfound clarity and readiness to see what the next step is. It's up to her to reciprocate that level of interest. Hold tight until she comes back but I'd definitely leave the ball in her court. You've said your piece.
Author Amacada Posted August 28, 2008 Author Posted August 28, 2008 Quite frankly, it's up to her now. You have come to her to share your newfound clarity and readiness to see what the next step is. It's up to her to reciprocate that level of interest. Hold tight until she comes back but I'd definitely leave the ball in her court. You've said your piece. Sinner, thank you. This is the way I was viewing it and I just needed someone to tell me that I would be right to leave it with her. I have contacted her twice since the 'break' and should leave my contribution at that. Thanks again.
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