tuscansun Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 So, I think it helps to remind ourselves that we are better off WITHout the pain of the exes, so drop by and leave something that is MORE positive about your life since the ex left the picture :):)
ahhhchooo Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 I've saved a bunch of money I used to spend on phone calls/SMSing.
Ingenue Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 I've been able to reconnect with old friends that I'd lost contact with.
beautifullove Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 He consumed my thoughts, and I neglected myself and my goals. Now I am refocusing and getting my life back together. I'm getting back the old me, or should I say the refined me, now that I have this experience under my belt. I find strength in knowing that I'm wiser, and won't let the same mistake happen again.
ahhhchooo Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Now I don't use drugs haha, she kept me away from drugs and alcohol! now i'm free i started drinking again!
Mending1985 Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 haha, she kept me away from drugs and alcohol! now i'm free i started drinking again! Lol drinking was never a problem luckily...it was just everything else
Mending1985 Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Now I don't use drugs I change this to now if I want to use drugs I won't have to share (not that I really ever shared anyway haha)
Jono Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 I don't have to have stupid arguments about things as trite as what we're gonna have for dinner, or whether I can go out drinking with my mates. I have time to study and work and not feel guilty about it. I don't have to put up with her annoying ****ing sister or her emotionally abusive, psycotic bully of a father.
marlena Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 freedom peace of mind worry-free anxiety-free new possibilities more sleep more money (those cell phone bills were exorbitant) more confidence freedom
Crazy.S Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 you will stop wasting your time and time is limited. good luck
grogster Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 Life in all its richness, diversity and power reclaims center stage. One again becomes a balanced person of action, of engagement, as opposed to a miserable, enslaved minion of erotic obsession. Reality regains its richness and meaning. One looks outward, again.
marlena Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 One looks outward, again. Yes, suddenly, the world is peopled again!
RogueAC Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 I am able to run longer distances with far more intensity.
soserious1 Posted August 28, 2008 Posted August 28, 2008 That I've learned a very,very painful and expensive lesson,LTR or marriage is not a mistake I will ever make again.
sedgwick Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 Oh yeah, and I no longer have to listen to him constantly bitch about his band!
quankanne Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 ex #1 (oh, waaaaayyyyyy back when) – getting dumped by him eventually meant a healthier self-esteem for me ex #2 – dumping him gave me peace of mind, because he was sooooo damned clingy. Like a sticky booger, you know?
LikeCharlotte Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I don't wade through tedious hours of patient negotiation with a stubborn, unsure, emotionally slow, weak, negative man. :bunny: I am free to enjoy the affections of more a qualified and suited person.
loveinlife Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 He consumed my thoughts, and I neglected myself and my goals. Now I am refocusing and getting my life back together. I'm getting back the old me, or should I say the refined me, now that I have this experience under my belt. I find strength in knowing that I'm wiser, and won't let the same mistake happen again. Hi beautiful, that is what im going through right now. Im trying to find out who i am. Although, i am a bit lost, i want concentrate getting into an mba school. It will keep me focused for now and improve my career in the future.
blackandblue Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I respect myself and I can now see that there was never anything wrong with me.
marlena Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 I respect myself and I can now see that there was never anything wrong with me. This is a good one!! Regaining your self-respect and realizing that you will never let anyone do a number like that on you again. A valuable lesson for sure.
MalachiX Posted August 29, 2008 Posted August 29, 2008 Good Stuff: -It's made me a more mature person since I came out the other side of it and I'm still standing. -I'm able to pursue all my career goals with 100% determination. -When I don't get stuff done, I can't blame it on spending time with her or talking to her for hours on the phone. It's totally my screw up! (may not sound positive but it really is). -I'm now encouraged to seek out more friends. -I'm now willing to take some big risks. -I'm working out again. Bad Stuff: -don't have anyone to stop me from smoking... -there's more but it's too much of a downer and this is a positive thread.
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