Jordan51 Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 Ok so heres making a very long story as short as possible. G/f and I broke off a 1.5 year relationship because I need time to fix my bad anxiety problem which prevented us from doing anything. She went out with another guy while we were dating once because I pissed her off so much and bailed on her twice in a weekend. She told me she liked spending time with him but later told me hes just a good friend and she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment. I made a phone call 2 weeks ago saying we need to burn this bridge but she suggested we go NC until my therapy is done. I told her thats a good idea and we should break off ALL contact, facebook, email, phone numbers ect ect and while she started to cry she told me not to do this we can keep each other on but just not contact one another. So that lasted a week or so, I was considering deleting her off facebook because id roam her profile too much. So yesterday i get home and blam she deleted me off facebook as well as my family that she had as friends.... Do I still call her in a few months when my therapy is over? I'm thinking she did this because she would roam mine to much also. I don't think we can get back together again but she told me regardless she really wants me to be friends with her even if we don't get back together... Do I completely cut her off and forget I ever met her or call when we both agreed I would call?
xpaperxcutx Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 Ok so heres making a very long story as short as possible. G/f and I broke off a 1.5 year relationship because I need time to fix my bad anxiety problem which prevented us from doing anything. She went out with another guy while we were dating once because I pissed her off so much and bailed on her twice in a weekend. She told me she liked spending time with him but later told me hes just a good friend and she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment. I made a phone call 2 weeks ago saying we need to burn this bridge but she suggested we go NC until my therapy is done. I told her thats a good idea and we should break off ALL contact, facebook, email, phone numbers ect ect and while she started to cry she told me not to do this we can keep each other on but just not contact one another. So that lasted a week or so, I was considering deleting her off facebook because id roam her profile too much. So yesterday i get home and blam she deleted me off facebook as well as my family that she had as friends.... Do I still call her in a few months when my therapy is over? I'm thinking she did this because she would roam mine to much also. I don't think we can get back together again but she told me regardless she really wants me to be friends with her even if we don't get back together... Do I completely cut her off and forget I ever met her or call when we both agreed I would call? I think you just got dumped. Why did you felt that deleting/erasing all contacts was necessary? Even under your circumstances, that was a extremely rash suggestion and completely blew up in your face. My opinions? Your mental state has caused so much distress in the relationship that your girlfriend saw it as an excuse to completely terminate things with you. Suggesting NC was her non guilty way of saying I really can't handle your problems.
BCCA Posted August 27, 2008 Posted August 27, 2008 As with all situations like this, the advice is going to be generic. I would say wait until the few months are over, and see how you feel. When people have emotional problems, the last thing your "lover" should be doing is giving you the cold shoulder. She should be right by your side, or at least not dating anyone (friend or not, youll never know the truth anyway). I think you should spend the next few months thinking about yourself. Think about what you want, what you need from some one else, etc. If 3 months go by and you feel better about where you are, and still want to give her a call, then by all means do. But just know you might not get the warm reception you had hoped for. She may not want anything to do with you, and you should be at a point by then of being ok with that.
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